Pillow Talks
Vanessa & Xander Marin
Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what re...
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Episodes (258)
E208: Stuck In A Relationship Rut? Here’s Your 4-Week Fix
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E207 The Foreplay Episode: The 5 Things We’re All Getting Wrong
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E206: Butt Stuff 101: Everything You’re Too Afraid To Ask
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E205: Couples Coaching Session: How To Ask For More Even If You Don’t Know What...
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E204: Confessions Of An Overactive Bladder
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E203: Is This Cheating? Part 2
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E202: Am I being defensive, or am I defending myself?
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E201: Couples Coaching Session: They Love Each Other… So Why Does Their Sex Life...
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E200: 200 Episodes Later: Let’s Get Personal! (Ask Us Anything)
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E199: Am I The Asshole? Masturbation, Snooping, and Jealousy
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E198: Stop Doing THIS If You Want More Sex (Initiation Fixes You Need to Know)
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E197: Ask A Sex Therapist - Resentment, Sexual Frustration, And The Death Grip
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E196: 90 Prompts to Transform Your Sex Life (We Answer Some Live!)
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E195: Giddyup, Cowgirl! Tips, Tricks, & Techniques For Maximum Pleasure
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E194: What Your Partner Wishes You’d Stop Doing In The Bedroom Part 2
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E193: The Things We Can’t Say In The Comments
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E192: “Is This Normal?” Part 4 — Low Desire Husband, Never Had A Fight, & Baby T...
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E191: Breaking Free From Purity Culture And Religious Shame
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E190: Am I Being Reasonable Or Ridiculous?
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E189: Can We Have A Fresh Start? Or Is It Too Late?
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E188: Is Your Ultimatum Going To Work?
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Episode 187: Am I The Asshole? The Holiday Edition Part 2
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Episode 186: Period Sex, Internal Vs External Processors, & Queer In A Straight...
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Episode 185: How To Navigate Porn In Your Relationship
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Episode 184: How To Get More Physical Intimacy From Your Partner
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Episode 183: How To Get More Emotional Intimacy From Your Partner
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Episode 182: “Help! I’m Not Into My Partner’s Fantasy!”
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Episode 181: A Brutally Honest Relationship Check-In
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Episode 180: Smash Or Pass: We Try The Weirdest Women’s Magazines Sex Tips
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Episode 179: All Your Female Orgasm Questions: Answered!
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Episode 178: Tie-Breakers: We Solve Your Relationship Standoffs
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Episode 177: Why You Should Try Mutual Masturbation And How To Do It
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Episode 176: Is This Cheating?
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Episode 175: “Should I Put Up With This In The Bedroom?”
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Episode 174: Ask Us Anything: Addressing All Of Your Assumptions
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Episode 173: I’m Attracted To Someone Else, What Do I Do?
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Episode 172: Bring Sex Toys Into Your Bedroom (Without Making It Weird)
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Episode 171: Your Funniest Stories About Getting “The Talk”
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Episode 170: What Do Women Really Think About ___? Part 2
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Episode 169: Is This Your Shit Or Mine? Part 2
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Episode 168: Long Distance? How To Keep The Spark Alive
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Episode 167: Should We Open Our Relationship?
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Episode 166: How To Create More Privacy For Sex
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Episode 165: How To Actually Be Vulnerable With Your Partner
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Episode 164: Why You Need To Flirt In Your Relationship And How To Do It
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Episode 163: Should We Have A Threesome?
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Episode 162: “Is This Normal?” Part 3 — More Questions You Never Dared To Ask Ou...
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Episode 161: We’re In Couples Therapy - Ask Us Anything!
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Episode 160: These 4 Communication Mistakes Cause Breakups
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Episode 159: “Why Do Guys Do This?” - Xander Explains Male Behavior Part 2
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