Why Good Fathers Still Have Regrets

Can you be a good father and still fail your child in ways you deeply regret?

In this episode of Four Titles, One Truth, Tommie and Lance have an honest conversation about fatherhood mistakes, missed opportunities, and the difficult gap between loving your children and making sure they actually feel loved.

Tommie reflects on his own relationship with his adult son and the painful realization that good intentions, financial support, and love do not always replace consistent presence. Together, Tommie and Lance discuss the regrets fathers carry, the difference between providing and being present, how conflict between parents can affect children, and why patience can sometimes become avoidance.

They also confront a difficult question many fathers eventually face: Can you consider yourself a good father while acknowledging the ways you failed your child?

This conversation isn’t about blaming mothers, fathers, divorce, military service, careers, or circumstances. It’s about accountability, growth, forgiveness, and recognizing that regret doesn’t have to be the end of the story.

If you’re a father struggling with past mistakes, trying to rebuild a relationship with an adult child, or simply wondering how to become a more present and intentional parent before more time passes, this conversation is for you.

In this episode, we discuss:

• Why good fathers still carry regrets

• Fatherhood mistakes and missed opportunities

• The difference between providing and being present

• Loving your child versus making sure they feel loved

• How conflict between parents can affect children

• Taking accountability for mistakes as a father

• Rebuilding relationships with adult children

• What fathers can do before regret becomes permanent

Four Titles, One Truth is a real-talk podcast for Black men navigating life as fathers, husbands, veterans, and men building community through truth, growth, and shared experience.

Listen, reflect, and join the conversation.

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