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Why BPD Relationships Fail - Repetition Compulsions Projection and Projective Identification
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Why BPD Relationships Fail - Repetition Compulsions Projection and Projective Identification
In this episode, A.J. Mahari explains how unconscious repetition compulsions, projection, and BPD projective identification keep people with Borderline Personality Disorder trapped in painful relational cycles. You’ll learn how early trauma shapes perception, how partners become stand-ins for abandoning or abusive parents, and how projective identification pulls loved ones into the Borderline’s emotional world. This compassionate deep dive helps you understand what’s really happening beneath the chaos — and how awareness can finally break the cycle of reenacting the past which cannot stop or change until and unless each person with BPD is treated for 8-16 years in a psychodynamic modality of treatment because DBT is not a recovery modality for BPD.
https://ajmahari.ca/sessions - Sessions
https://ajmahari.ca/podcasts - Podcasts
https://ajmahari.com - Online Store new Course Modules coming soon
https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - This podcast and my Youtube
This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at:
100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025
Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts,
the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship
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In this episode, A.J. Mahari explains how unconscious repetition compulsions, projection, and BPD projective identification keep people with Borderline Personality Disorder trapped in painful relational cycles. You’ll learn how early trauma shapes perception, how partners become stand-ins for abandoning or abusive parents, and how projective identification pulls loved ones into the Borderline’s emotional world. This compassionate deep dive helps you understand what’s really happening beneath the chaos — and how awareness can finally break the cycle of reenacting the past which cannot stop or change until and unless each person with BPD is treated for 8-16 years in a psychodynamic modality of treatment because DBT is not a recovery modality for BPD.
https://ajmahari.ca/sessions - Sessions
https://ajmahari.ca/podcasts - Podcasts
https://ajmahari.com - Online Store new Course Modules coming soon
https://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - This podcast and my Youtube
This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at:
100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025
Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts,
the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship
Podcast lists.
https://www.millionpodcasts.com/codependency-podcasts/
https://www.millionpodcasts.com/narcissistic-abuse-podcasts/
https://www.millionpodcasts.com/toxic-relationship-podcasts/
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