
When Is It Going to Be About Me? How to Stop Living for Everyone Else
About this episode
This episode is for the woman who feels like she’s holding everything and everyone together… but quietly wondering, “When is it going to be my turn? When’s it going to be about what I want”
You’ve built the business. You show up for your family. You hold it down for your team. You say yes, even when your soul wants to say no. And somewhere along the way, you’ve started to feel like you’re disappearing from your own life.
In this deeply honest episode, I’m naming the thing so many high-achieving women feel but rarely say: self-abandonment in the name of being “good.” I walk you through the fears that come up when we start to prioritize ourselves and the freedom that’s waiting on the other side.You’ll hear why choosing yourself isn’t selfish, it’s strategic. For your joy but also for your business.
And it starts with one bold move: choosing yourself today. Again. And again.
In This Episode:
- What happens when we overfunction at home and in business (00:01–03:27)
- Why the martyr pattern is so common among high-achieving women (03:28–05:30)
- The sacred moment that shifts everything (06:41–08:45)
- The cost of self-abandonment—and how your body keeps the score (10:03–11:10)
- How choosing yourself transforms your relationships and your business (12:23–14:29)
- Why your business needs you in the visionary seat—not the doer seat (15:35–17:52)
- What changes when you start creating from joy instead of obligation (17:53–19:00)
- A powerful reflection to reclaim your voice and your worth (19:01–22:04)
Inspired Actions:
✨ Ask: Where have I been living for others, in life or business?
✨ Name what you’re tolerating and where you’ve been shrinking
✨ Take one bold step to honor what you want this week
✨ Ready to stop doing this alone? Book a free Get Acquainted Call: www.boldheart.com/talk-to-coach
You’re not here to live for everyone else’s joy. You’re here to be fully, powerfully, unapologetically YOU. And I’m cheering you on every step of the way.
Would you like to work with me to accomplish this while you scale to 7-figures?
- Get The Book - www.boldheart.com/the-leveraged-business/book/
- The Boldheart website for the business coaching that will scale your business to 7-figures with freedom and heart - https://boldheart.com/
- Apply to have a free Get Acquainted Call with me: a free Exploratory Session www.boldheart.com/talk-to-coach
- Join me for my next event: https://boldheart.com/events
- Need a roadmap? Take the Free Business Assessment - www.leveraged.boldheart.com
- Watch The Film - www.boldheart.com/the-film
Continue the Conversation:
- Instagram (personal) www.instagram.com/fabiennefred
- Instagram (Boldheart I The Leveraged Business)- www.instagram.com/theleveragedbusiness
- Facebook: www.facebook.com/fabienne
- LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/fabiennefredrickson/
- TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@fabiennefredrickson
- Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@FabienneFredrickson
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Get every episode summarized
Each time The Fabienne Show publishes, we email you a written briefing from the transcript — the topics, who appeared, and any specific claims, with the ad reads skipped.
Email me new episodesFree for 3 shows. No card needed.
Hosts & guests
No transcript yet
This episode has not been transcribed. Request it and it moves to the front of the queue.
More episodes
More from The Fabienne Show

The Million Dollar Boundary: The Difficult Conversations You Must Have to Stop B...
The Fabienne Show

Who to Hire First When You’re Drowning in Your Own Success
The Fabienne Show

Self-Abandonment Is the Real Reason You’re Burned Out and Not Growing
The Fabienne Show

You Don’t Want a Lamborghini: You Want 14 Weeks Off Per Year
The Fabienne Show