Waiting by the Phone: You Commented On My Mom's Facebook Post!

0:00This is an I Heart Podcast, Guaranteed Human. When she goes on the I Heart Radio app, Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts. Then she says, have you seen a photo of my son and I'm like, who is this person? Welcome to the Boys and Girls Podcast. A ranged marriage is basically a reality show and you're auditioning for your soulmate and who's judging. Only your entire family, I sacrificed myself to this ancient tradition, hoping to find love the right way and instead I found chaos, comedy and a lot of courage. Listen to Boys and Girls on the I Heart Radio app, Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts.

1:30Hey there folks, Amy Robock and TJ Holmes here. And we know there is a lot of news coming at you these days from the war with the rons of the ongoing Epstein Fallout government shutdowns, high profile trials, and what the hell is that Blake Lively thing about anyway? We are on it every day, all day. Follow us, Amy and TJ for news updates throughout the day. Listen to Amy and TJ on the I Heart Radio app, Apple Podcasts or wherever you listen to podcasts. This Women's History Month, the podcast, Keebe Paws' Sweetie, celebrates the power of women choosing healing, purpose and faith, even when life gets messy. Love is not a destination, you have to work on it every day. Keebe Paws' Sweetie creates space for honest conversations on self-worth, love, growth, and navigating life with grace and grit led by women who have lived, inspire and tell the truth out loud. I have several conversations with God and I know why it took 20 years.

2:35To hear this in more, listen to Keebe Paws' Sweetie on the I Heart Radio app, Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts. Ever been left waiting by the phone? It's the Fred Shell. Casey, good morning. Welcome to the show. How are you? Hi, guys. What's going on? Well, we're trying to figure out for you on waiting by the phone. Casey, reached out to us because you believe a guy named James might be ghosting you, but we need to know the backstory. How did you meet? Tell us about any days you've been on and then where things are to stand now and how we can help. Yeah, so this guy, James, we had actually met on Tinder and we talked for a couple of weeks. We really hit it off. We were yapping back and forth and then he finally asked me out and I was so excited for this. And then on the day of the date, I didn't hear anything from James. It was like a total ghost. So I'm calling you guys because I'm hoping that you can put me back in touch with him so that we can finally meet in person. So you actually never, there was never a date.

3:39So you were ghosted pre-date? Yeah, I've never even met him in person. I've never seen him. That's interesting. Okay. What do you know? I just want to know why I never got a chance. That's why that's what I want to know. Right. How do you go from chatting it up and planning a date to then a date just never happens? You know what I mean? You didn't even have a chance to screw it up. I don't think. And I thought that we had a pretty good back and forth. I felt that there was chemistry. All right. Well, I'm going to play a song. We'll come back in two or three minutes. We're going to call this guy, James. You'll be on the phone. We'll ask these questions. At some point, you're welcome to jump in and we're hoping that we can get this first aid going for you and pay for it. Okay. Thank you so much. Hey, Casey. Yes. Well, come back. Let's call this guy, James. You guys were chatting on Tinder. You matched on the dating app Tinder and you were planning a date deep in the planning stages except the guy ghosted you before you could actually go on the date and you're wondering how do we go from all this, you know, back and forth that you thought was going really well and into the planning a date only for the dates never happened.

4:42Yes. Well, let's call James now. Good luck, Casey. Hi, this is James. Hi, James. Good morning. My name is Fred. I'm calling from the Fred show. The morning radio show and I have to tell you the whole crew is here and we are on the radio and I would need your permission to continue with the call. Can we chat for just a second? Would you mind? I'm sorry. What is this recording? Sure. Yes. So we're actually calling on behalf of a woman named Casey who says that you matched with you on Tinder or the dating app and I guess you guys chatted about a date. Oh, yeah. Yeah. Okay. I guess I know what you're talking about. Now you said this is the radio. Right. So what happened? Don't worry about that. So what happened with the date planning here because we talked to her for a while and she said that you guys had matched and then you'd planned a date that then never happened and now you're not responding

5:44to her. So how do we go from planning a date and, you know, trying to meet to now we don't talk at all. What happened? Wow. I mean, you know what? I am not even surprised that she's come out as this happening now. Listen, I wouldn't normally call a woman crazy but I've got vibes that Casey might legitimately be crazy. Okay. Well, we're all ears. Why do you think that? I'm sad. I mean, honestly, I could tell beforehand something with just genuinely off. Like, I mean, this is this is crazy. Right? I'm on the edge of my seat here, bro. Like crazy. Why is she crazy? All right. Listen, before the date, she took like pre-date internet stocking to a whole new level. All right. She creeps me online online different platforms but she like not just me,

6:47like she found friends and family members requested to follow them. Like old photos commented on them and they said, yeah, I'm not joking. Did you give her your last name or was she able to do all this with a photograph in your first name? I think it might have been on the app or I might have given her some, I didn't expect this to happen. But it hasn't had that. Like, it's one thing to maybe say, hey, can I follow you on Instagram or can I have your Instagram or whatever. It's a whole different thing to start following family members and mom and dad and messaging them and commenting because you've never met this person. And so you don't even know what to tell the people who are asking, like, who is this commenting on myself? Who is this person that says that they know you? You don't even know them. Exactly. Exactly. Listen to it. She printed my mom on Facebook and commented on photos from like 2012. And she commented on baby photo of me and then another one

7:49of me and my cousin and she wrote foods to girl. Oh, yeah. My mom didn't even know she existed. Like, I don't tell her about girls before I'm the girl. You never even met in person. Well, let me. Exactly. Well, now I kind of feel bad because, well, not surprising, Casey's on the phone and she's been listening to all of this and I feel like I'm enabling it now, kind of. Casey, what's the deal? You guys haven't met. You know, you don't really have permission to go off and explore the guys, you know, entire life and friend of these people. Yeah, but technically, like, I do have the permission because I do. I can. No, just because you can't, doesn't mean you should. But like, it's normal for people to creep. Everyone does it. Yeah, but you do it in secret. Everyone knows you don't let anyone know you did it. But I'm an honest person. So at least I'm upfront about it. And I'm trying to find the father of my children at this point. Like, I need to know who I'm getting involved with. And I think he has a really great family.

8:50You don't know them. You don't even know him. Right. You haven't met him. You can't be out here. You don't know these people. They're really hit it off. They're really hit it off, though. I have to say, James, I, I, I feel you. I understand why this is concerning and weird. And then, unfortunately, this sort of adds another layer to it. Yeah, in case you can't do that, like, you, you need to meet these people. And even then you kind of got to become a fixture before you start friending people and talking to people and commenting on things you don't know. And then for you to be asking who women are in pictures from a time before you met, and it turns out that they're family. But like, even then, that looks weird. I mean, he has a right to know other people before he met you. It was, it was honest curiosity. It was honest curiosity. Then ask him. Or maybe don't look at all. How about that? I wouldn't love. I would love a chance. I mean, it's a huge compliment for me to say, I love your family. And I don't even know them. You haven't met them. Right. That's the problem. Right. That's a very nice compliment to give a people you've never met. Maybe you shouldn't be giving

9:54compliments. Maybe they're not great. How about that? Make them earn it. It's not a scary move. Yeah. I would, that would concern me too, honestly. I think he has the right to be like, kind of one thing to do with this because it's interesting. Okay. Well, okay. Well, I want to know what James thinks. Why not? Okay. What do you think, James? I think this whole thing's crazy. I think these guys are championing me very well. Thank you. I just kind of hope in, I could just avoid this conversation. But when you were commenting who's this person, who's this girl that my family found that who's this girl? And then I have to tell I don't really know. Yeah. You wouldn't know if you gave me a chance. Okay. But I think we're just doing things in the wrong order here. He gives you a chance and then maybe slowly in time you meet these people. And then, you know, at which point it might be appropriate to go friend them on Facebook or whatever. But you don't know them. He doesn't know you. No one knows each other. I think it's a little bit

10:54strange. James, I'll ask the question. I know the answer. Would you like to go out with Casey again? She knows your whole family already. So that's nice. I think I'm going to respectfully decline. Thank you very much. I am never stopping it again. Oh, great. She also knows where I work apparently. Oh, okay. So that wasn't disclosed either. Well, Link did. I'll tell you that, I guess. Wow. We're trying to order. Yeah, this is this is like not. Yeah, this is not good. All right. Look, Casey, leave him alone. Please. James, good luck to you. Thank you. Thank you. Hey, I'm one more of Alderama. And this is Freddie Rodriguez. And we're back. Those are megal season two, baby. Last time we went deep on our careers, our lives, our art and everything in between. Our big breaks, our auditions, the near misses, the epiphanies, the moments to change our lives forever. This season, we're deep in in our relationships, creating collaborations and the door always stays open for a third of megal to pull up a chair. Listen to those amigos on

11:55the iHAR radio app Apple podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts. Then she says, have you seen a photo of my son? And I'm like, who is this person? Welcome to the Boys and Girls podcast. A ranged marriage is basically a reality show and you're auditioning for your soulmate and who's judging. Only your entire family, I sacrificed myself to this ancient tradition hoping to find love the right way. And instead, I found chaos, comedy and a lot of cringe. Listen to Boys and Girls on the iHAR radio app Apple podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts. Saturday May 2nd, country's biggest stars will be in Austin, Texas. At our 2026 iHAR country festival presented by Capital One, see Kane Brad, Parker McCollum, Riley Green, his girl, Shabuzy, Dylan Scott, Russell Dickerson, Gretchen Wilson, Chase Matthew, Lauren Elena, tickets are on sale now,

12:58get yours before they sell out at ticketmaster.com. Hey there folks, Amy Robock and TJ Holmes here. And we know there is a lot of news coming at you these days from the war with Iran to the ongoing Epstein fallout government shutdowns, high profile trials, and what the hell is that Blake lily thing about anyway? We are on it every day, all day. Follow us, Amy and TJ for news updates throughout the day. Listen to Amy and TJ on the iHAR radio app Apple podcasts or wherever you listen to podcasts. This Women's History Month, the podcast, Keebe Paz's Sweetie, celebrates the power of women choosing healing, purpose, and faith even when life gets messy. Love is not a destination, you have to work on it every day. Keebe Paz's Sweetie creates space for honest conversations on self-worth, love, growth, and navigating life with grace and grid led by women who have left, inspired and tell the truth out loud. I have several conversations with God and I know why it took 20 years.

14:00To hear this and more, listen to Keebe Paz's Sweetie on the iHAR radio app Apple Podcast or wherever you get your podcasts.