Unplug to Reconnect: Lessons on Aging, Purpose, and Choosing What Matters with Mark Zarate

In this episode of Chasing Common Ground, Chris reconnects with long-time friend and fellow coach Mark Zarate. They reflect on the past two years of life, growth, aging, and all the messy middle parts that come with being in your 30s and 40s. From the therapeutic power of trees to navigating burnout, digital overstimulation, and learning how to actually live well in a hyper-distracted world—this is a deep, grounding, and timely conversation.

Whether you’re trying to simplify, reconnect, or just find clarity in a noisy world—this episode delivers.

⏱️ Timestamps:

00:00 – Welcome Back: First episode since rebranding to Chasing Common Ground01:20 – Summer break, turning 40, and history nerd road trips03:30 – The story behind Chris’s logo: trees, mountains, and legacy05:15 – Why spruce trees matter & what nature teaches us about resilience07:45 – Ditching hustle culture and healing outdoors09:00 – Kettlebells vs dumbbells: Picking what feels good10:50 – Letting go of self-inflicted stress and reclaiming headspace13:40 – Manufactured problems and the power of simplicity16:00 – The importance of saying “I love you” daily18:30 – Why repetition (like reading a poem 1,000 times) builds depth20:00 – What missed birthdays can teach us about expectation23:15 – Creating solo birthday rituals & owning your joy25:50 – Noticing the people who quietly show up in your life27:10 – What’s inspiring Mark to live differently in his 40s30:45 – Small rituals (like coffee with Chelsea) as the best part of life34:00 – How Mark chooses where to travel (and why Ireland is home base)37:00 – Saying yes while you still have the window of opportunity39:30 – What Chris learned in Denmark and how it changed his priorities42:30 – What’s left after chasing big goals? Human connection.43:45 – Social media is mostly theater—here’s what to do instead49:20 – Fill your time with good things, not just "less bad" things50:30 – Real life > virtual connection (and how to live it)51:15 – How experience beats perfection in fitness and life55:00 – Two-ingredient meals: A lesson in simplicity & self-efficacy59:45 – Action is the antidote: Just do the thing1:01:00 – Final reflections: friendship, intention, and doing life well

🔗 Links & Mentions:

🎧 Mark Zarate on Instagram: @markpzarate🎧 Chris Liddle on Instagram: @christianliddle📘 Past episodes with Mark: Search “Chris Liddle Mark Zarate” on your favorite podcast app

🌐 Connect with Chris:Media Website → christianliddle.comFitness Coaching → invigoratetraining.comYouTube → @ChrisLiddle

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