
“This Is How You Love Yourself" (Coaching Session Breakdown)
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In this episode, Joe and Brett analyze a rapid coaching session with an 18-year-old who says he hasn't felt good in years. Despite doing mindfulness, reading Eckhart Tolle, and preparing meticulously for the session, he can't seem to access the peace he's looking for. As Joe works with him to slow down and actually feel what's happening in his body, Brett and Joe unpack the self-reliance pattern: how it forms, how it shows up in relationships, and why the mind moves so fast that it convinces us we're not feeling when we clearly are.
They discuss:
- The self-reliance pattern and its roots in early caregiving
- Why worry is actually a sign of devotion
- The difference between mindfulness and loving yourself
- Attention-seeking as an unmet need for care
- How breakthroughs change your life, even when they seem to fade
- Why there's no rush in the work of self-love
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