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Love Bombing, Gaslighting, Hoovering — A Therapist Names Every Narcissist Tactic You Need to Know
About this episode
You could not see it at first. That is by design. Love bombing, gaslighting, future-faking, hoovering — these are not accidents or mood swings. They are tactics, and they work because most people have never been taught to recognize them by name. Jodi Pavlock lived inside the cycle and wrote the book on it. Therapist Janet Viggiano has spent her career helping people find their way out. Together they answer the most urgent questions — how to spot early warning signs before the cycle is fully established, why trauma bonding and intermittent reinforcement make leaving feel physically impossible even when you know you should go, and the specific exit strategies from no-contact to grey rock that protect your safety and your sanity. What they share about EMDR, somatic resets, and the rebuilding tools that restore self-esteem and healthy relationship filters will give you the most complete and clinically grounded narcissistic abuse recovery conversation you have heard. You were not naive. You were targeted. This episode helps you get free.
You’ll learn:
How to spot early warning signs
About setting non-negotiable boundaries
How to Build a Safety Plan
The positives of starting nervous-system–based recovery to reclaim your peace and self-worth.
Red flags 101—love bombing, gaslighting, hoovering, future-faking
Why you feel “stuck”—trauma bonding & intermittent reinforcement
Exit strategies—no-contact, grey rock, and safety planning
Healing tools—EMDR, somatic resets, journaling, and support groups
Rebuilding—self-esteem, boundaries, and healthy relationship filters
🔗 Dive deeper into Jodi’s work at JodiLynnPavlock.com, your hub for books, resources, and upcoming events.📲 Stay inspired: connect with Jodi on her Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok for daily insights and community support.Contact Jodi's therapist, Janet Viggiano, via email ([email protected]) or phone (201-925-7680).**Educational purpose only—not a substitute for therapy. If you’re in danger, contact local emergency services.
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