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The Toxic "Choose Me" Dynamic In Relationships

Teal Swan

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Why The Choose Me Dynamic Can Be Toxic For Relationships  Toxic relationships have certain patterns. One of those patterns is the choose me dynamic.

In our formative years, our life experience can put us in a situation (or maybe even into chronic situations) where a person (or the people) in our life does not find a win-win scenario and as a result, chooses between us or our best interests and something else. It’s the child whose dad chooses to move to a different part of the country to be with the new step mom. It’s the child who felt replaced by a younger sibling that was preferred. It’s the child whose dad chooses the needs of his own career rather than to be there for the child when he or she needs him. It’s the child who is put into the middle of a contentious divorce and is expected to choose between mom and dad and thus learns that being chosen is what love is. This type of experience can cause a great deal of trauma. Not only can it cause a great deal of trauma, it can give rise to a dysfunctional association between being chosen and love.

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The Toxic "Choose Me" Dynamic In Relationships

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