The Problem With Always Working on Your Marriage

221  You already know that a good marriage takes work.

But what if constantly working on your marriage can sometimes get in the way of it being good?

For many highly sensitive women, taking their relationship seriously can easily turn into taking every problem, disappointment, unresolved issue, and imperfection seriously—more often than we need to.

We think about what needs to change. We revisit the hard conversations. We notice what still isn't fixed. We keep working on it, because of course we want our marriages to be good.

But what often happens is that working on your relationship starts to become the main way you experience your relationship.

And so you end up missing out on so much that could be enjoyable, loving, and simply good between you..

Making a generally good relationship…not so good…

In this episode, you’ll hear about the surprising problem that always working on your marriage leads to—and why another kind of work is just as essential to creating a deeply loving, connected relationship. (Hint: it is MUCH more fun work.)

I also share why doing this other kind of work – this all too often forgotten work – has made such a difference in my own marriage, and what many highly sensitive women need to learn in order to stop letting the hardest parts of their relationship take up so much space.

And be able to truly feel loved, loving, and deeply connected in marriage.

So listen in to this story and metaphor filled episode, and learn the starting point of the incredibly important and usually overlooked work.

Because your marriage is about so much more than solving its problems.

And sometimes, the work you aren't doing may be exactly what your marriage needs more of.

SHOW NOTES: 

• Learn more about  Sanctuary 1:1 (where Foundations of Emotional Well-Being is included as the first layer).

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