
Safety Is Contagious in Relationships
About this episode
220 One of the most powerful ways to change your marriage begins with understanding how emotions spread in intimate relationships – and learning to use this on purpose to create an upward healing cycle between you and your spouse.
Because just as fear, reactivity, and self-protection are contagious in relationships– bouncing back and forth between partners...
So is safety.
There is a way to tap into this, and doing so intentionally changes everything inside you, and then everything between you and your partner for the better.
As you build safety intentionally you become a different kind of presence inside your marriage: someone who communicates to your spouse naturally through your actions and words: “Who you are is safe with me”.
This naturally fosters deep safety – which breeds more love, joy, and lightness – between you and your partner.
It also (thank goodness!) creates the best conditions for your spouse to grow and do his own work on himself.
So in this episode, we'll explore what it really means to become this Safe Heart Partner, and how, when you learn how, you have far more influence over the atmosphere between you—and the kind of relationship you create together—than you've ever realized.
Listen in.
SHOW NOTES:
- Learn more about the full Safe Heart Pathway through Sanctuary 1:1 (where Foundations of Emotional Well-Being is included as the first layer)
- Or begin with Foundations of Emotional Well-Being for HSPs (FEW) on its own first.
- FREE QUIZ: How Much is High Sensitivity Impacting Your Relationship (and are you even highly sensitive)? You want to know. Because, high sensitivity has a major impact on intimate relationships – for better or worse. Take this 3 minute quiz to discover if you're highly sensitive and how deeply it’s affecting you, and your happiness in your relationship. You will also get your next steps to making sure sensitivity works for your relationship, instead of against it.
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