
About this episode
Do narcissists deliberately try to hurt you? What is their driving force?
Even when they say or do horrible things to us, the narcissist’s intention is purely about themselves. What they pursue is the narcissistic drug of choice, what we call the narcissistic supply. That is the only thing they are after.
What You Will Learn In This Episode:
- Narcissistic abuse happens TO you. It doesn’t happen BECAUSE of you.
- Why your pain is just the byproduct of the narcissist’s behavior
- Where the narcissist’s need for mistreating you really comes from
- Narcissistic aggression and manipulation as the expression of their younger, wounded part
- How to recognise when the narcissist is pretending to behave in a certain way to achieve what they want
When narcissists hurt us, they want to heal their wounds at our expense. It has nothing to do with our integrity or our values. So remember that it is YOU who is holding the power to heal, and change the perception of your own childhood experiences.
Resources:
- Join my Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse
- Connect with me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/
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