The Importance of Spiritual Boundaries

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The spiritual path asks you to open up, and the more you do so, the more you feel everything: your tenderness, things you’ve been avoiding, your deepest longings. It’s important to stay open to all of this but being open takes judgment. I know people say you shouldn’t judge but I say, hell yes, you’ve got to judge. The deepening vulnerability of the journey requires discernment and self-protection.

In this episode, I explore the fourth principle from my new book, Inexplicable Magic: Meditation for Mystics: We Are Boundaried. I discuss healthy boundaries, the importance of relying on teachers who can introduce you to your own wisdom (not theirs alone), and a traditional teaching called the Seven Treasures that help us establish protection, agency, and trust in our knowing.

Highlights

• Why boundaries matter

• Meditation as ground, path, and fruition

• The three qualities cultivated through practice: compassion, clarity, and courage

• Three teachers: outer, inner, and secret

• The line between a community that supports you and one that seeks to take you over

• The Seven Treasures as a framework for protection and self-trust

• A listener's question about progress in meditation, and where to actually look for signs your practice is working

Music

For the after party I'm playing "Who Do You Love" by Bo Diddley. It's deep and full of swagger, from one of the true original rockers.Have a listen.

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Music by: Derek O'Brien

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