The Emotionally Savvy Divorce with Katherine Miller

Key takeaway: Your emotions are not the problem in divorce. How you use them is.

Most divorce books say to leave your emotions at the door. Katherine Miller, author of The Emotionally Savvy Divorce, has a different take: your emotions can be your most valuable negotiation tool if you know how to work with them instead of fighting them.

Katherine and Corey discuss how to handle anxiety without making reactive decisions you will regret later, why fighting to be "right" often costs you happiness, and how to break out of exhausting conflict loops. She explains the three levels of conflict: positions ("I want the house"), interests ("I need stability"), and meaning ("I am a good parent"), and why most couples argue at the surface level.

If you are overwhelmed and want practical ways to negotiate more effectively, The Emotionally Savvy Divorce offers clear tools and real stories that will help you feel less alone and more strategic about what comes next.

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The Emotionally Savvy Divorce by Katherine Miller 

You keep being reasonable, and it keeps being used against you. Every fair offer becomes the floor for a bigger demand. Every concession buys you nothing. That is a one-sided divorce, and it plays by different rules than the mutual divorce your friends went through.

Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind is for people living that divorce. Corey Shapiro has spent more than 25 years as a matrimonial attorney in high-conflict cases, and this show is where he explains the game: why staying calm is a weapon and not a weakness, what your spouse's attorney is actually doing, and how to stop reacting and start deciding.

Based on the book Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind. For when being reasonable stops working.