
The 4 Ways You Override Yourself Around People
About this episode
You knew exactly what you wanted to say. Then something softer came out instead. There's a specific reason this keeps happening, and it isn't a confidence problem.
In this episode, Dr. Aziz breaks down the four ways people override themselves under social pressure: the Diplomat, the Avoider, the Fixer, and the Performer. Most people call this people-pleasing, being too nice, or social anxiety. Those labels aren't wrong. They just don't explain why it keeps happening for decades, even after reading the books and trying the techniques.
This episode covers:
- What triggers each of the four patterns
- Why this isn't a confidence problem
- The equation running underneath all four (disapproval equals danger) and what it means for actual change
- How each pattern shows up in work, relationships, and daily life
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Work with Dr. Aziz directly:
The Unstoppable Confidence Mastermind is a year-long program for people ready to unwire this pattern at the nervous system level. Application at https://www.socialconfidencecenter.com/ucmv3.
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