Shut Up and Grind: The Hustle Mindset

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1:06There's no hacks, bro. It's you against you. You against you. Everybody's great when they're not tired. The champions is when they tire, that's when the real champions come out. That's when a real dog come out. Because if you go piss like a puppy, stay on the parts and let the back dogs eat. Let them all to f**k them. Have some heart. That if you want some kind of a good outcome, you're going to have to work hard for it. And if you don't work hard for something, you're not going to get an outcome. That's really worth much. You're not only winning when things are going your way. You got to figure out how to win when things aren't going your way. You know, when you're going through something really challenging, how do you show up within it? Do you choose to become a victim of complaining and misery and or do you find meaning in how you show up in the suffering, you know? But you also have to disconnect unplug average and plug yourself into the mindset of a winner.

2:11Lazy people do a little work and think they should be winning. But winners work as hard as possible and still worry if they're being lazy. Go do something that's hard. Go try and accomplish something that's hard. You may win, you may lose, you may succeed, you may fail. I'll tell you what, you'll be better. Your biggest enemy is you. My whole book is about you battling yourself. Pude on to stand as you against you. The only person that gets in your way is you. Nobody else is you. The winner does more than expected every single time, no matter how they feel, no matter the circumstances. A winner shows up 10x times more than the average person. And I'm telling you, from the bottom of my soul, it is so easy to beat people today. They're so soft. They have no work ethic. No one can stick with anything. Everyone's distracted. They're in social media. They're kind of their f***ing notifications because they can't stick with s**t. They can't say no. You know, greatness is not meant for a few chosen people.

3:15It's meant for those who persistently pursue their dreams every day and make that choice when they wake up. So just a mentality, really. If you avoid those things that are hard, if you don't accept that challenge, if you don't step up and step into that cold water, and you sit on your couch and eat Doritos, I can tell you this is not a good move. This is not a good move. Don't do that. Don't do that. Just get up. Move towards that challenge, whatever that challenge is. Move towards that challenge and go attacking. Keep going. It's the waiting for a big smile out of you. You're up to, oh, what's the story? Are you not happy

4:19or you're only half happy or? Instead of be happy about you're up to, oh, the job's not finished. Job finished? I don't think so. You're lazy. You know exactly what to do. Exactly what to do because even me in my state of, I can't read or write. I knew exactly what to do. It just sucks doing it. It sucks to do it. Nobody cares about you. Nobody cares. It's only a small percentage of population. Nobody gives a damn. And even if they do what you make a mistake, you zig when you should have a zag, you get clipped. So what? Everybody make a mistake. And you may be successful and you may not be successful, but you will be better. And the next challenge, you're going to be more prepared for. And the next challenge after that, you're going to be even more prepared for it. And you're going to fail. And you're going to fail. And you're going to fail. And then you're going to win.

5:25And that's life. Life without those challenges. It's existence. Don't just exist. Go live. You find no answers in the light. None. It's too happy. It's too nice. And we're not running to be taught how to live and happiness. That just comes naturally to us. Happy moments. But the dark times, man, you can't, and you can't get there unless you put yourself there. It takes more effort to start in the beginning. And more people are right about the fact they're like, hey, you're not going to hit it big. And guess what? A month in, you're not. But they're only measuring on months. And at six months, you're also not going to have hit it big yet. And they're going to be like, I'm still right. And at a year, you're still not going to have hit it big. And they'll still be fine. And every day that you haven't hit it, they're going to feel like they were right. But they're wrong because they're measuring in days and you're measuring in decades.

6:29The confidence comes from preparation. You know, so when the game's on the line, I'm not asking myself to do something that I haven't done thousands of times before. Right? So when I prepare, I know what I'm capable of doing. I know what I'm comfortable doing. And I know what I'm not comfortable doing. And so in those moments, if it looks like I'm ice cold or not nervous, it's because I've done it thousands of times before. So it's one more time. Through this, through discipline, through self-discipline, through repetition, through tons of repetitions, the same thing that you don't want to do. And that's the key thing. Through repetition of things you don't want to do, you develop mental, like, like an armor for your mind. Start to armor your mind. You might say, okay, we suffer. We suffer every day. It's what we do. We do stuff that sucks every day. So then when the suck stuff comes, you're ready for it. And that's how I started coming up. You know, I just started being very uncomfortable now. It's like just a way of life. A winner has these unreasonable expectations of himself. A winner knows that he's destined for greatness. And no

7:35matter how many people around him tell him to slow down, be careful, watch out. That's too risky. You don't have the genetics, the DNA, the money, the mind, the brain power for that. A winner locks onto their fucking goals and keeps going. That's what the winner does. The biggest risk to your future isn't your competition. It's the distractions you insist on keeping in your life, rather than doing the things you know you should be doing but aren't. People delay doing things they don't like for longer than it takes to do them. You see this guy here staring back at you? Yeah? That's your toughest opponent. Every time you get into the ring, that's what you're going against. I believe that in boxing and I don't believe that in life. For me, anger was good. Anger was good because it was motivating. The more I could create an enemy, the more I wanted to go and kill those guys. You won't die and if you do die, you won't care because you'll be dead. Best case, you win, worst case, it won't matter.

8:36If you believe it, if you really believe that you could be something, if you have that little voice in your head saying, hey, you got to tell it, you could do this. And follow that voice. You don't start things and not finish them. You don't quit. There's nothing that comes out of quitting besides knowing that you didn't finish. We finish everything. You start it, finish it. If you're going to do it, do it to try and be the best. The fear is never reaching your potential. That's it. That always fall on short. Always quitting before you're done. Always procrastinating. Always not doing the right thing. And then one day you're an old man. Yep. And you look back and go, God, I could have been great. Yep. I could have been great. If you want to know something about yourself, sit on your bed one night and say, what's one thing I'm doing wrong, that I know I'm doing wrong, that I could fix, that I would fix. You meditate on that, you'll get an answer and it won't be one you want, but it'll be the necessary one.

9:39Whatever it is that you're doing, I'm telling you right now, man, as a winner, 80% of the time, you're going to feel like you're failing. 15% of the time, you're going to feel like you're just treading water. You just got your nose above the water line. 4% of the time, you feel like it's fucked over. This is it. I'm about to tap out, but you don't, because that 1% of the time, my friend, that 1% of the time is when you know you're winning, and you're going to take these 1% of them, to stack them and stack them and stack them and stack them. And you know what happens when you stack winning over years and decades, you become a formidable force to be reckoned with. The purpose is you. We forget that. Every day I wake up, and I don't want to do some fucking shit. I'm like, okay, man, do you want to be a bitch today? Do you want to feel like a little bitch? Do you want to walk around all day knowing that you could, but you didn't? I'm going to have setbacks, I know. But if I'm feeling bad, that doesn't mean I'm doing bad, that doesn't mean I am bad, that doesn't mean that I can't still take some action.

10:41Because yeah, nothing changes, nothing changes, man. Hard work brings great rewards. This is a reminder of the hard work and dedication that I've put into everything that I've done. I'm not content, because I- You know what? I could really go for right now. Literally anything that comes in a McDonald's carton, wrapper, or bag, or a McDonald's cup. Yes, any of those items you do it. We've got your cravings covered. Now, stop in for the flaky flaky of fish, the crispy snack wrap, or a large fries for just $2.99. Limited time only, price and participation may vary, cannot be combined with any other offer. Before you begin your road trip, ask yourself, do you really need five full suitcases? With the 2026 Kia Sportage X Pro's class-leading cargo space, you'll have room for what you need.

11:43Find out more at your local Kia dealer today. Keep the adventure going. Kia, movement that inspires. Call 800-333-34 Kia for details. Always drive safely and obey all traffic laws, comparison based on second-row legroom and cargo space behind second-row seats in the sub-compact SUV class according to Kia segmentation as of October 2025. No where I came from, and I don't ever want to go back. I don't care how good you are on anything. You don't have this one. You ain't nobody. Right. Nothing of discipline, because you give up on the slightest struggle without discipline. 100%. It's a plan to do what you hate to do, but do it like you love it. I'd say one of the strongest mental frames that has got me through my hardest times is thinking this will be the story that I will one day tell. And that means the harder it is, the bigger the dragon, the more epic the story, and by consequence, the more epic the hero. Turn your feelings off when it comes down to you wanting to be better. What that means is

12:47when that alarm clock goes off, your feelings got to go away. It's raining outside, it's cold outside, where you don't want to put the alarm hours in that work. That's what I'm talking about, your feelings must go away. When shows and suffering is going to happen in life, your parents are going to pass away, loved ones are going to die, your relationships are going to break down, your body is going to fail you, you're going to become ill or sick or destitute. Things are going to happen, can you have no control over? And the only way that you can prepare yourself for unshows and suffering is with shows and suffering. If you have to ask how to get motivated to go to the gym, you don't need to be going to the gym. You don't want it enough. When you're sick and tired of looking and feeling like shit, you'll show up. I'll see you there because you're going to look at the mirror and you're going to be like fuck that. You kind of want to be in the gym. Do you actually want to do this or not? Because if you actually want to do it, what's going to stop you? Nothing. And if you don't really want to do it,

13:50what's going to stop you? Just about anything that comes up. Just about any obstacle that gets in your way becomes an excuse, it becomes a reason, it comes a rationale for not proceeding down that path. Don't follow what most people do because you don't want the results that most people get. The average person is obese, likely to be divorced and has less than one K in the bank. It feels safe to do what everyone else is doing, but it's actually a terrible decision. It's like the best way to guarantee to not have the life that you want is to do what everyone else is doing, unless you want what everyone else has with knowing which knowing does. This is kind of part of being a man. It's like you kind of got to get all up a little bit. I think so. I think part of learning is dying. I think part of learning is you got to die a little bit because what is learning? Learning is me giving up on my old shit, my old ideas. Those ideas have to die for me to be open to some new shit. And so me learning how to be a better man, I had to die a little bit. You know, there's an expression that I've said on this podcast many times, but I'll say it again, is that hard times create hard men, hard men create soft times,

14:54soft times create soft men, soft men create hard times. We are now around soft men and hard times. This is probably one of the heaviest hammer blows I think today. This next one. This is a real hammer. Anger tweeting. No, it's not. It's an existential one. Oh, fun. You've already achieved goals. You said would make you happy. You've already achieved goals. You said would make you happy. How bad do you want this? If this is bad as you want to live or breathe or sleep, whatever hell it may be, I can work with you. But a lot of people, most people don't want it, that badly. Which is why they always ask the question, how did you get to where you are? You know how to do it. You know exactly how to be you or how to be me. You don't want to do it. I'm 54 years old right now, like that. I mean, it just blew by. And you think when you're young that

15:54you have all this time, you have no time. There's no time. I mean, one of the quotes on the wall and the gym and theirs, you know, there is no tomorrow from Rocky 3. There's no luck in this game. Maybe a little bit luck, but the luck happens after you bust your ass and you put yourself in that lucky situation. Luck doesn't happen. You put yourself in that situation where luck might happen. And that's what people don't know. But to get there, luck ain't going to happen. You have to put yourself in that situation, man. It takes a lot of work. Fear is a mile wide and it's deep. And so it looks like this ocean that you're going to step into and drown. But as soon as you step into it, you realize it is not that deep at all and you can keep walking through it. And I just love that visual because a lot of times when it's like we have this anxiety around this big decision we have to make, if you actually take the step and realize that it's not death. You're not going to drown immediately. There's plenty of other steps you can take from there, even if you get a little wet. Give a man a purpose and the ability to achieve it

16:57and he will crawl over broken glass with a smile. And I think that feeling capable and powerful and competent and respected and admired is something that will get a man so far. You give a man those things and he'll deal with suffering until the end of the earth. You're something a guy said recently. This dude said there's a moment when every boy realizes no one's coming to save him and that's when he becomes a man and some boys never get there and stay children forever. That guy was you that said that and it's important when we step out of this like this stuff matters because no one's effing coming to save you. If you want to change your life you must change your ways. You must develop discipline. You must develop strength. It doesn't matter where you are in life. It really doesn't because the great thing about life

18:00is it's always your next move. Your next move that counts. There's no dopamine. There's no dopamine in there. You get nothing. Your hormones are shot. You have to envision something that is more powerful than you. Something has to get you out of bed and you have to create it. It has to be false because you're not it. You're a fat piece of shit and that's the reality. If your definition of success is win or lose, giving everything you've got and growing or learning along the way then you're setting yourself up for success. I really think the biggest cheat code in life is just going after it and not being concerned of whether or not you fail at one specific task. Instead understanding the big picture, what your long-term goal is and knowing if you keep driving forward and never quit in the end you will succeed. The thing is, man, it's always going to be a party. It's always going to be a time to celebrate and a time to join friends and for a day. I mean the

19:04bars are always open. It's always open. You know how old you are. They're always open, you know. What's not always open is the opportunity to check the box in life. You know to achieve your dreams. That's not always open. It's so easy to be great nowadays my friend because most people are weak. Most people don't want to go to that extra mile. Most people don't want to find that extra because it sucks. It's miserable. It's lonely. You're talking about that you were kind of, you know, lonely by yourself. I was the same way and that used to hurt me growing up. Now I've drive in that shit. That's the only place to be. And my personal question to you is why not you. You've got the brains. You can make decisions. You can study the plan. You can change your life you can grow immensely in the next few years. You can make your dreams come true. You can build a

20:04financial wall around your family. Nothing can get through. You can become healthy. You can become powerful. Why not you? It's all in your mind. Whatever you hold in your mind will tend to occur in your life. If you continue to believe as you have always believed, you will continue to act as you have always acted. You will continue to get what you have always gotten. If you want different results in your life or your work, all you have to do is change your mind. That is a book called Celeste in practice. If there was a big meta indicator that you're doing the right thing, doing what everyone isn't doing is already probably the biggest, the single biggest indicator that you're doing the right thing. Like it's the, if I could wish nothing else on my child whenever I choose to have them in the future is that they have high agency, which is that they are, they make decisions independent from the opinions of other people. And when we hear words like authentic and original and things like that, it's because the person starts at square

21:05one and says, well, what do I want? And then they start building from there. I cannot stress this enough. The more you put into anything in life, the more you're going to get out. Now for whatever reason, people understand this. And they understand that the more you put into building a business, the more you're going to get out of it, the more hours you spend working on anything, the more you are going to get out. Work pays. You're a man. You are a man. Stand up and be a man. Make the hard decisions. Make the sacrifices. Make the unpopular decisions and become comfortable in your own scan. And if you are not a person that you are comfortable being alone with, that is the one person in this universe that you have. You know what I could really go for right now? Literally anything that comes in a McDonald's carton, wrapper or bag or a McDonald's cup. Yes, any of those items

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23:26Reminder that if you want to be exceptional, you're going to be different from everyone else. That's what makes you exceptional. You can't fit in and also be exceptional. Both have discomfort. When you fit in, you have internal conflict, because you're not being 100% you. When you're exceptional, you have external conflict, because everyone sees you as different. Pick one. When your friends start to say, you've changed. Remember, it's because they don't know how to say, you grow. You know, some of y'all are motivated by, broke, I'm broke, I'm stuck, I'm f***ed up, I can't do nothing. Some of y'all are motivated by, just wanting to accomplish the things that you want to accomplish. Other folks are motivated by materialistic things. Some very simple concept. If you want it, you got to go get it.

24:32I'm obsessed with finding myself now, after and not having to prove anything to anybody, other than myself, my more family, you know, really myself, and realizing that that is enough. You know what I'm saying? Like giving your best is enough, and sometimes we lose track of that, you know, and yeah, so for anybody out there, you know, you're enough, man. This is intentional. Intentionally act like the person you want to become, because when you intentionally act like the person you want to become, your brain sees you taking those actions, so your brain starts to change the way it relates to you. When your brain sees you high-fiving yourself in the mirror, it starts to go, oh, wait a minute. Stephen loves himself. Stephen's cheering for himself. We don't beat Stephen up. The dumb s*** that I've done or the bad

25:34mistakes that I've made, they've taught me, you know, you learn. Like that's why failure is so important. Like failing and f***ing up and making mistakes is very important. That's how you learn. Let's see, the bad feeling that you get from something that you shouldn't have done or wish you didn't do, or wish you did better, like especially failing at something where you have asked it, and you just feel like a f***ing loser. Like that just teaches you. It teaches you to get your s*** man, how do you do what you do? And then a day I asked myself one question, can I take one more step? And usually the answer is yes. So if you can answer that question and not take another step, that is real failure. That is real quitting. So a lot of people can take one more step and they choose not to. I don't know if you can take two steps, you get to answer that question and have to take the first step. But I can always take one more step, so if I choose not to, that's on me, but I got to live with that. There's 10,000 times more going on inside the head of a man than you have

26:39any idea. He's carrying burdens that you don't have a clue about, and he don't know how to express them, and he don't know what to do about it, and he figures if he puts it out there and communicates it, he's just going to be shot down, called a fool, called a week, so he carries it inside, and you have no clue. The burdens and the hell that most men are carrying inside and not even showing you. Going into combat, going into war, of the hundred men that going to war, tensioning you f*** there. 80 of them are just targets. 10 do most or nine do most of fighting. One is a warrior, and it's a true quote to life. I saw it going through train, I saw it everywhere I went, there's so many people who just show up to life that shouldn't you be around. And there's a few people who do all the work. I wanted to be part of that nine, and I'm working towards being that one.

27:40You're motivation. You need discipline, because motivation is not there every day. I miss in motivation most days. Sometimes I've got motivation, sometimes I'm just like, okay, today I feel good, I can't wait to get to the gym. A lot of days like going to the gym, and then once I get going, then I feel great, and I feel great when it's over, but it's that beginning part that's hard, because your body wants to stay comfortable, your body to trick you, man, today's should take the day off. Yeah, feel good. Theo, what did you get like six hour sleep last night? That's not enough. I was so hard to see the good if you're only seeing the bad. Like there's so many people that struggle with with their version of successes, because they're looking at someone else's. There's so many people that struggle with their world of relationship, because they're judging theirs based off of someone else's, right? And when you're constantly in the space of not realizing or noticing your world, your reality, because you're living in

28:45what appears to be someone else's, well, your shit is never going to be right. It's never going to be right. So if you're in the woods and you don't know where to go, start walking. You've got to start walking because the perspective is not going to change. You have to start moving forward. You have to start taking steps in order to improve your vision, improve your perspective, change your perspective, make some kind of progress. And worst-case scenario, you figure out that you walk the wrong direction. Okay? Now you can go walk in the other direction. And that's that's going to be fine. But standing there lost and not doing anything is just waiting to die, waiting to starve to death. Don't let that happen. We're not on the stage just because of talent or ability. We're up here because of 4 a.m. We're up here because of 2 a.m. or 5 a.m. We're up here because we had a dream and let nothing stand in our way. If anything tried to bring us down, we used it to make us stronger. We were never satisfied,

29:46never finished, will never be retired. My high school English teacher, Mr. Fisk, I actually paid attention one time in class. And he said, yeah, this beautiful quote in the red, rest at the end, not in the middle. And I'm telling you, you don't need to determine. I'm telling you it's worth it. Oh yeah. I'm telling you it's worth it. And you know what? You actually know it's worth it. That's why you're asking this question. You know it's worth it. You know it's worth it to have discipline, but you think there's an easier way. You think that it's something that people have. You think that when Jaco's alarm clock goes off, it's like, oh, just like my father taught me. I rise and I shine. You know, like, no, it's like the pillow feels soft and comfortable. Yeah. And the alarm clock is banging on my head and I don't like it. But you know what? I know it's worth it to get up and get after it. I know it's worth it. And you know it's worth it. Here's the thing though. We all know it's worth. He was like, the only thing that you can do is win so big that all of them constantly compare themselves to you. And then you'll forget they exist. And he's, and that's when he said, he

30:50said success is the only revenge. He's like, it's not the best revenge. He's like, it's the only one. There's no other revenge because everything else is petty. Everything else does show that you were thinking about these people all day long, which means they win by default. He's like, all you can do is think about your goal and winning. He's like, and when you win, that's when you become so big that they shrink into a relevance. You cast a shadow that no one even can see them behind you. It's easy to give up. It's really easy. It's the easiest thing in the world to do. All right, well, I'm done. I ain't going. I ain't going to keep going. Yeah, the before I go on the one. Yeah, man. It's very easy, but it was hard is going, you know, yesterday I got nothing from working as hard as I could. Nothing happened from that. I'm going to do the same thing again today, but I'm going to try to go harder. That's the hardest thing in the world to get up every day and give 100% and and be in the same position that you were each day, but mentally know that you're trying and trying and trying. That's, that's a real,

31:50that's a real grind trial and error. You know, you grow up and you make game winning shots and it's awesome. You come back the next day and miss a game winning shot and it's misery. And then the next day comes and you're back playing again and you understand that life has a cyclical nature where it's you know, what you do on Monday, it's fantastic, but then Tuesday's a bad day. But guess what, there's Wednesday. So we just supposed to live our lives like this the whole time. You know, versus just staying like this and understanding that it's really just a journey of evolution every day. It's just constant improvement, constant curiosity, constantly getting better. The results don't really matter. It's the figuring out that matters. Now, get control of your emotions and carry on with your life. And sometimes you're going to get hit with those waves. And that's okay. I think that's a big misconception and sort of relates to what you're saying. Oh, I'm having an emotional moment right now. There's something wrong with me. No, there's nothing wrong with you. There's nothing wrong with you. The other extreme is, oh, I'm letting my

32:51emotions run my life and I'm making a bunch of bad decisions and my excuses, well, you know, I lost some friends or I had this traumatic experience happen to me. You know, when I can really go for right now, literally anything that comes in a McDonald's carton, wrapper, or bag, or a McDonald's cup. Yes, any of those items you do it. We've got your cravings covered. Now, stop in for the flaky filet of fish, the crispy snack wrap or a large fries for just $2.99. Limited time only, price and participation may vary. Cannot be combined with any other offer. The Jack Welch Management Institute at Strayer University helps you go from, I know the way, to I've arrived with our top 10 ranked online MBA. Game skills you can learn today and apply tomorrow. Get ready to go from, make it happen to made it happen and keep striving. Visit strayer.edu slash Jack Welch MBA to learn more. Strayer University is certified to

33:54operate in Virginia by chef and as many campuses, including at 21 21 15 straight north in Arlington, Virginia. That's why I'm doing, that's just an excuse. And it's a very easy excuse. The ultimate lesson here is this, everybody's on their own path. And I don't want to judge someone for wanting to be free and easy. I just want you to understand that there's a cost to that. And the cost that you're going to have to that isn't going to come into later. Most people need to shut the fuck up and focus on that version of themselves they want to become and actually be willing to become it. And that's what's ultimately going to create the fulfillment that you're looking for. It's not going to be your coal plunge, it's not going to be your morning routine, it's going to be the work that you fucking do to become that version of yourself that is the exact version that you know you're supposed to become and then being proud of it. That's what's going to create the fulfillment that you're searching for. Be a dangerous man. There's, that's a lifetime right there study. Okay, but start, start working on that. Second,

34:56be a dangerous man. Now being dangerous is not being a threat. There are two different things. All right. And it's not about going out and lifting weights and getting a bunch of tattoos and wearing leather jackets and walking around. We are chest and shoulders up, hulking around saying I'm dangerous. That's very rarely is that a dangerous man. Often the most dangerous man in the room is the quietest man in the room. I became obsessed. I became obsessed with being the baddest that got ever created. In my that, I don't care. I believe it. Now I was trying to tell him when she become obsessed with something. Obsessed. It's okay to be unbalanced for a while. It's okay, don't be all this stuff. People say you got to be balanced to be the best in the world at what you do. It's not about being a Navy SEAL people. The best at what you do, you have to be unbalanced to find every bit of energy and strength that you have to pull it off. Then you get balanced

35:59once you become great. Pain has passed out from father to son and son to son. A lot of pain in Troy's life is a result of the pain and damage from his father that he then visits on his son. We have to as black men be mindful of that. Sometimes it's unfair and sometimes we take it out on those we love and I'm guilty of that frustration that we all have. But we have a responsibility and a duty to be fathers not to just make babies but to be real fathers and you can't expect any good to come to you if you don't visit any good on your son or your daughter. So be a man. But just like success in a matter of what field or wherever you are and success whether it's in the gym here or in business or whatever successes the underlying equality of that life runs parallel to a commitment. They go hand in hand guys. It doesn't matter how much money you have or how much

37:01success you have or the overall quality of life is a journey to struggle of it and that journey and that struggle is successful only when the commitment rises equally to the effort. And nothing given to you is ever valued. It's what's earned it's value that you can go from. That haunting is something that's still there today because no matter how much you approve it or how much you change who you are it's not permanent. You just wake up and say oh my God man you're you're David Goggins you break records you do this you do that people know how are you how are you able to just be so hard because I never turned the fuck thing off because once it turns off I go right back to the David Goggins that is and that's the guy that I'm constantly fighting every day. And it's a choice and that choice makes you misunderstood it makes you crazy remember to tell yourself the truth

38:07remember to tell yourself the truth you know what that means the truth is you need to do more the truth is you need to be more to reach your fullest maximum capacity and capability as a human being and if you tell yourself that truth you will find discipline and if you find discipline you will find freedom. You'll be less than you'll be a loser if you don't I can't leave the gym you you want you fuck one you walk out here today you've won imagine walking out the door a loser I'd rather die I would rather die than be that loser guy think about that you want to walk out that door a damn loser you can walk out the door a winner that you know I'll fight for the death and sometimes I

39:12actually went close to death it sounds crazy but you got to give it that much if you want otherwise you'll be like everybody else and the majority of the population they think they're trying hard that's hard life isn't fair at all at all so we could do about it I knew that no one was coming back to help me no one's got a miracle me to be somebody special so mentality is the only thing that gets us through life I was an underdog we are all underdogs in life even the best person the worst to think that way she should always have I've never arrived mentality and the can't hurt me mentality is a matter where you come from the sewer or wherever you think you're from when I got out of the sewer I got to the road and looked around and said can't hurt me nothing should be able to hurt you if you believe that it starts to become true you know if you set out a path towards a goal which you want to do because you need a goal and you need a path

40:13because that provides you with positive emotion right so you you set up something is valuable so that implies a hierarchy you set up something is valuable you decide that you're going to do that instead of other things so that's kind of a sacrifice because you're sacrificing everything else to pursue that and then you experience a fair bit of positive emotion and meaning as you watch yourself move towards the goal and so the implication of that is the the better the goal the the more full and rich your experience is going to be when you pursue it so that's one of the reasons of that's one of the reasons for developing a vision and for fleshing yourself out philosophically because you want to aim at the highest goal that you can manage you were there you know this there was no one there to pick up the rucksack to pick up the boat to pick up the log to go in that it was you it was you there was no patten of back at 300 at at 275 at 250 at 220 no that was you there was no f**king it was you there was no weight loss programmer mom and dad wicking you up saying you can do it you can be better trying to build belief you built belief when

41:18you had nothing rock bottom you did that so as times get hard for me the truth comes out and my truth is powerful as f**king it's real it's tangible patience the thing that goes beyond hustle and hard work the discipline of patience the thing that goes beyond hustle in hard work right because we all talk about hustle we talk about working hard we talk about grinding this that in the third but nobody talks to you about patience nobody speaks about that patience because in the patience that's where you gonna make it or you gonna break the discipline of patience right because when you're not patient you can make a lot of mistakes man like I told you the quote said on judges day by the harvest you reap you judges day by the seas that you sow right when you sow a seed you gotta be what oh you gotta be patient it's hard when you're young to wake

42:22up in the offseason at 6am to go train and workout knowing that all your friends are sleeping in and eating pancakes it's hard when you're on your way to practice way down with all your gear and it's 90 degrees out and all the other kids are at the pool or at the beach and your body is already completely exhausted from workouts and two days it's hard to throw catch block and tackle and hit kids when they're way bigger and way more developing you only to go home that night bruised and battered and strained but no one you have to show up again the next day for the just the chance to try again but understand this life is hard I'm one of those old school guys you know when you talk about men's mental health and that men have to carry this burden and men yeah that's what we know guess what somebody's got to get up I I have a family right I have children I got to get up every day and go to fuck work and I have to you know do what I have to do

43:24and no I I don't I mean I'm shit about my feelings you know you see these guys these days on social media like hey you know um you know you know I'm saying just talking about you know like that bad day and this happened and I'm right and shut the fuck up oh I know get up oh I know get the work and do what you got to do and and and be a man no I tell you just be a man doing the thing in spite of not wanting to do the thing is discipline right you don't need motivation to get yourself up to go and do a thing make you know what I could really go for right now literally anything that comes in a McDonald's cotton wrapper or bag or a McDonald's cup yes any of those items should do it we've got your cravings covered now stop in for the flaky filet of fish the crispy snack wrap or a large fries for just $2.99 limited

44:24time only price and participation may vary cannot be combined with any other offer but at strayer university we help students like you go from will I to why not for over 130 years we've been innovating higher education to make it more affordable accessible and attainable so you can reach your goals go from thinking can I to yes I can and keep striving visit strayer.edu to learn more strayer university is certified to operate in Virginia by chef and as many campuses including at 21 21 15th Street North in Arlington Virginia the promise small build it up step-by-step know that you are going to have step-backs and this is my favorite rule from James Clear which is a habit missed once is a mistake a habit missed twice is the start of a new habit never miss two days in a row so ideally go for a month build it up but after that if you ever miss one day go okay mistakes are going to happen tomorrow I double down tomorrow I go on time absolutely perfect I'm

45:27straight up out of bed or I go to the gym or I walk the dog or I do my meditation or whatever and that's a good heuristic stops errors snowballing into new habits you're going to lose sleep you'll doubt whether it'll work you'll stress to make ends meet you won't finish your to-do list you'll wonder whether you made the right call and have no way to know for years this is what hard feels like and that's okay everything worth doing is hard and the more worth doing it is the harder it is the greater the payoff the greater the hardship if it's hard good it means no one else will do it more for you I get happier about the harder it is because I know that no one else will follow it's a selection effect and I think if you can if you could shift from this is hard to no one else will be able to do this then it flips from being this thing that you're like oh poor me to oh poor everyone else is gonna have to fuck fry and so if you tell young man look you're gonna find the meaning in your life by adopting by adopting maximal responsibility right

46:36that's going to be extremely difficult because you're so bloody useless you can't even get your own house in order and you're and you're going to be called upon not only to get your house in order but to do that well enough so some woman can stand having you round for more than like 15 minutes in the back of a car and then maybe you're gonna have to do it so that you could be a good father to a family and a pillar of the community and that's not just empty words like if you do that but nobly there'll be something to you and then when the storms come you won't be blown over by the first four foot wave I found out through this path of life who is David Goggins who am I to go going through all I did it alone there was no trophy on the wall in the mantle that trophy's in my brain no one helped me get to know I paid my bills no one did different you know no one ran those miles lost that far away with look I suffered on my own and developed this man who said who I am man that's important man and most people struggle their whole life to find out who they are

47:41struggle their whole their whole life to find out what defines them what they actually enjoy and what they don't you start putting yourself in situations that suck you find yourself yeah you find it real quick that is the thing right and that's one of the things I've gotten from paying attention to you is that you what you're preaching what you're talking about is finding yourself through struggle is it so people always ask me when they saw me in the gym in the pumping iron days they say why is it that you're working out so hard five hours a day six hours a day and you have always a smile on your face the others are working out just as hard as you do and it looks sour in the face why is that and the told people all the time I said because to me I am shooting for gold in front of me is the mr. universe title so every rep that I do gets me closer to accomplishing that gold to make this core this vision turn into reality every single set

48:47that I do every repetition every weight of the lift will get me a step closer to turn this corn into reality and fight you know David Goggins he wrote me last night and I can't repeat what he said verbatim but the the the basis of his message was be the guy who embraces the ugly miserable be the guy who embraces hard work the grind don't be afraid of being heard don't be afraid of a sacrifice of some blood you know and uh you know the the whole week I was thinking I want to finish this fight when to finish this fight before the championship rounds and this is you know that should be able to smash this guy you know Goggins messaged she was for a reason you know as as a reason and Greg's jacks has been saying I would say ask her out

49:51you no matter who she is whether she's a job or a new city or or an actual person you know whether whether she's uh an opportunity or a fear you know if you're afraid of heights ask her out you know like whatever she is man ask her out and man I just if I can go back to that moment and just not be afraid just just recognize that I look whatever could be out there I could have it everybody thinks they're a loser every young person thinks they're a loser at least a young person in the situation I was at like I didn't know I wasn't a loser until I started winning till I started doing martial arts martial arts taught me that like I could get better at stuff that it wasn't I wasn't really a

50:55loser I just was someone who was like in a up situation but you could channel all that energy that you have as a young person into something and get better at it and then also people admired me I was like this is crazy so I went from being someone who was incredibly insecure and basically a failure to someone who was really successful with this one thing that was very dangerous that other people were scared of and that gave me immense confidence and also a real understanding of the direct correlation between hard work and success so it's like if you were to make if you're playing a video game and the way to win the game was to be make the most successful character right you would have probably a really character driven human being in terms of like they'd be patient you know they'd be hard working like you think about all these traits that they would have right they'd probably be tough emotionally like etc all right cool that's the character and that's the person who's going to be really successful we can all probably agree on that okay how do you create someone who's patient how do you create someone who's tough how do you create someone who

51:58right so all of a sudden if we had to then engineer the game in order to boost those points we'd have to get them beat up a lot so that they could get tough we have to make them wait a long time so they could become patient and so it's the point that you made about like these people who become really successful have these traits and also share the fact that they've been through all this like well they got the trait from the and then the trait was the ultimate output of the experience and that trait then made them super successful that they didn't have earlier you can have what you want in five years but there's two conditions you have to know what it is and you have to aim at it okay figure out what you want write it down figure out what you could do to start moving towards that okay do that with your family relationships do that with your friendships do that with your career do that with your education think about your misuse of alcohol and drugs and other things that might drag you down you want to drink okay what do you mean by that exactly how often how much is too much how are you going to constrain that and why develop a vision and you have to do that in dialogue

53:02with yourself right it's like if I could have what I wanted what would satisfy me and he might think well I could never get that and I could say well maybe not but I'll tell you one thing man you can move towards it and I know that everyone who knows the underlying neuroscience knows this almost all the pleasure is in the moving toward but if you set up a goal that you think is you know just on the edge of conceivability then every time you move even a tiny bit towards that you're going to think good work man good work you get a little kick from that you get a little stronger from here's what I know I know that until you make a decision that you no longer want to feel how you feel or you no longer want to think the way that you think or you no longer want to have the kind of results or no results that you have until you make that decision that you know what I know I don't feel great I know I doubt myself I know I've had a lot of bad things happen I know there's a lot

54:03that I regret but dammit with the time that I have left in my life I really want to start to enjoy myself I want to take better care of myself I want to feel happy you don't even have to believe you deserve it yet you could just want it you've got to start there you've got to start with wanting something better for yourself and then I personally think the most important thing is to start acting like the person who has the things that you want right now even though you don't feel like it it's time to stay focused it's time to decide fuck clubs fuck party and try to fit in and socialize rub elbows with everybody so people can stop calling you weird why are you so anti-social because I'm trying to get it why are you staying on the basketball court so much because I'm trying to get it why are you out there practicing in the hot sun when ain't nobody

55:06else out there because I'm trying to get it why are you not clubbing like every time I text you and invite you to go do some fun and cool you always study it because I'm trying to get it let me tell you something homie these women ain't going nowhere these clubs these parties all this ain't going nowhere the more weird you are is a reflection of how committed you are to focus it on your molding and shaping and developing your ideas and your craft so that when it's time for you to make your rounds you gonna fly it's time to get back to work stop hearing yourself talk off the podcast don't be on social media too much cut out all the boys get back to work healthcare can feel complicated that's why Optum uses technology to connect the people and

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