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REPLAY: Why Do I Get So Dysregulated?

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Or mad? Or scared? Or overwhelmed? Or shut-down?

Why do I make a mountain out of a mole hill?  Why can’t I keep it together?  

Being ignored (or yelled at or cussed at or disrespected or refusing to eat or do a chore or or or or the list is endless) is never going to feel good.  But- have you ever wondered why your brain goes into full on attacking watch dog mode when the reality is- refusing to do a chore, go to school, or even being ignored or yelled at, isn’t life threatening?


If it isn’t life threatening, why does our brain go to attack mode?

We talk about two reasons in today's episode:

  1. Decreased window of stress tolerance
  2. Implicit memory awakenings

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I talk about a LOT of resources in this episode!

Blog articles:

  1. Finding Playfulness
  2. Self-Compassion
  3. No Behavior is Maladaptive 

The free video series on Trauma, Memory, and Behavior will take you further into understanding the impact of implicit memory on your kid's behavior AND yours!

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