Rebalancing Life & Avoiding Burnout: Carol Ennekinng on Sustainable Success, Boundaries, and Faith | With Amb. Elisha

0:00Hello, Carol. It's so nice to have you on the show today. How are you doing? I am Lasha. I'm doing well. How are you? I am doing quite fine and thank you so very much for being here. You say, I truly appreciate you. Yeah. And you see, Carol, oftentimes I love to thank my guests for two things. And I do these so often to the point where it has become my aunt. So firstly, I want to say, thank you so very much, Carol, for investing in yourself. You see, you are on this platform right now because you did invest in yourself. And oftentimes, Carol, I love to make reference to you. The amazing mango tree. You say, some couple of moths back. I was on a particular road. And just by the roadside, Carol, there was these very tall, unattractive mango tree.

1:04And I used to want unattractive because the mango trees got no mangoes on it. And the leaves do a whole try, you know. So I just walked past it and I went my way. What you see, Carol, just recently, I was on that same road. And this time around, a lot's changed about the mango tree. You say, the mango tree got my attention pretty good from a distance. And immediately I got the heart to move so close to it of which I did. And it wowed me because now the mango trees got a lot of mangoes on it. Beautiful green leaves and earthy branches. And not just mangoes now, Carol, I'm talking about ripe mangoes. It was such a lovely experience that yeah. And I was so, so excited. So here is my point. The fact that you dedicated your time, energy and resources to become in the amazing Carol that you are today,

2:14that loneliness made it impossible for me to skip you. And that's why you got the request from me to be on the show because I was attracted to the fruit of all that you're doing, your philosophies, your insights, your work, the impact your work is having. And how you are offering your solutions, Carol, this stuff is beautiful. And just before I sent you that request, I said to myself, I've got to benefit from this beautiful thing, Carol, let's do it. And not only me now because you know, I don't want to look selfish and even with the audience. And here we had a day with the amazing Carol. So thank you so very much for being out of yourself. And secondly, thank you for seeing me as to the invite because if you had said nope, there was nothing I should go to about it. Thanks a lot, Carol. Take that. Yeah, awesome. So let's get right into it. You see, I am quite excited to have you on the show today for some reasons. Firstly, my interest

3:18in knowledge, I believe in order for one to transition from a terrible situation to that of a beautiful one, Carol, I believe it takes the application of knowledge, only the information. And not just knowledge alone, but the application of it. And you see, ever since I discovered that light in the ebberumins knowledge and darkness, ignorance, I've been so keen to knowledge, why? Because I do not want to remain in the dark. So that's going to make our conversation today very important to me and even to the listeners. And the second reason why I'm excited to have the incredible Carol of the show is for the sake of the audience. You see, we're living in an age where information is as important as green source and we've got lots of information flying out there. So this folks trust me for quality, eye-opening and very important information of which I

4:23am totally convinced, Carol, that our conversation is going to be insightful and impactful. So for that reason, Carol, let's get started with your introduction. Talk to your personal or your professional journey. Because right now we are so curious. We want to know how Carol got here. Then afterwards, I've gotten some beautiful questions for you. Okay, Carol, go over to you. All right. So I'm Carol Enneking and I'm a speaker and author and advisor to companies and the founder of rebalancing revolution. So women's group that helps women define, redefine success before it redefines them. All of the wisdom that I've gained has been hard one through a lot of ups and downs on life's journey. And through it all, I have kept my faith. I've had trust and hope in the future being better than the rough places I was in at the time.

5:30And I've also learned to surrender my plans to the Lord's plans and that's been huge. So surrender, trust and faith have all been central to my journey. And I call it the rebalancing act because I am a very different person today than I was 10 or 15 years ago by the grace of God. Amazing. And together, the other glory. I love the fact that, yeah, I love the fact that he is the word Lord. You know, that's it. That's a very important one. So, you know, while I was reading about you, I came across a place where you said that, walk life balance is a myth. So I became very curious. So I want us to begin from there. So why did you say walk life balance is a myth? And what should people focus on instead? So I think it's a myth because it's this place where we'll never get to. It's the minute things are balanced, something will change.

6:33And if you think of life as a balance scale where things are totally even, a horizontal line, if you will, the minute one thing changes, the balance scale completely tips in the opposite direction. It doesn't just change a little bit. You know, if you've got 100 pounds on one side of the scale and 100 pounds on the other, that's perfectly balanced. But the minute you hit 101 pounds on the other side, it tips all the way. And that's how it can feel when life disruptions come our way. And so instead of aiming for this perfect place where everything is in balance, I think, instead, it's really important for us to focus on the agility required to recalibrate and re-center on what's important when things are off balance. And our ability to continually do that is what will help us be more fulfilled, more successful, and less stressed in the moment.

7:34Hmm, in the moment I got that. So what about this one? How can I achievers recognize born out early? Well, it can be challenging to do, but I believe you're going to get internal and external signals. The question is, will you, will you heed the warnings? I did not always heed the warnings. Things like your body telling you it's tired. Maybe your heart rate is racing if there's a conflict situation or something, you know, the stress is escalating. That can feel a lot of different ways, but your mind may start racing. You may have physical signals, you may have mental signals, but it's a signal coming from inside that something's not right right now. Externally, you might have other people giving you signals. Things like conversations that don't go the way you intended. Comments that don't seem to land the way you wanted them to. The feedback

8:34that you're getting from other people, whether it's overt or whether it's more in their nonverbal signals that they're giving you, but you know, there are signals all around us, and I think sometimes we're in such a hurry that we don't take the time to notice them. But I think the more that we can notice those signals, the more we have the opportunity to recalibrate and refocus things on for better outcomes. Better outcomes. Okay, I got that too. So let us think about success. Okay, so what does sustainable success look like in real life? So I want to liken this to driving a car. So if you are always flooring the accelerator in your car and going as fast as you possibly can, first of all, it's reckless, right? You're likely to crash into something. And then secondly, you're going to burn out the engine. You're going to run out of gas. You're

9:37going to burn out the engine. So the metaphor here is pretty obvious. We are the car and the engine. And when we are constantly going at maximum speed, we are burning ourselves out. We might be headed for a crash. We're going to run out of gas, all of those things. So when you think about how cars tend to work well for us, the kind of car you could keep 10 or 15 years, which I don't know if people do these days, but I think you certainly could, if you think about optimizing its performance. So that looks like accelerating where it makes sense, but letting off the gas, where you need to let up a little bit, putting the brakes on sometimes, getting gas before it runs out, getting preventative maintenance done. It's the self-care of the car. We need that preventive maintenance. We need that self-care and we need to know when to dial things up and when to dial things back.

10:38The thing about being so, so busy all the time and the opportunities to be busy are endless these days. The thing about that is it leaves no space for the curve balls in life. You know, things will always happen and interruptions are a part of life. So when we can create some some white space, some some margin in our lives for just unscheduled time, time to think, time to just be, time to pray, time to consider what else is out there, what else is important. It also enables us to have time to make those pivots when life comes at us. So we've got to think about the long game here, which is optimizing performance, optimizing our health, optimizing the way we show up, instead of constantly burning ourselves out.

11:40And I say that knowing that that's much easier said than done because that was me. I was I was maximum productivity and burning myself out and wow, I had a lot of signals coming at me telling me that I was headed for a crash and I just sort of didn't have time to think about them and ignored them and then you know ended up with things like breast cancer and sudden divorce and all kinds of stuff that just made me stop in my tracks and say, okay, it's time for a change. It's time for a change. Not in words, the only one who can help you is you. Hey, man. I got that. I got that. So, you know, I love what you're doing and I wanted to you to talk more on that. So who are you? I do you kind and how do you help them? So I work with all kinds of different organizations and an advisory role,

12:42meaning if they need help with their leadership, with their team effectiveness, that's what I have done for many, many years. So I'm happy to help anyone, but my passion around the Rebalancing Act is really about helping women who are burning themselves out like I did. My mission is to help them get that clarity and be focused on what matters and let the other stuff go much earlier and with less pain than I did. So I do a lot of coaching with women in small groups to help them transform and really look at their life in terms of what's working, what feeds my soul, what did God put me on this earth to do that I'm uniquely gifted and talented to do? And then what do I need to get rid of that's not serving me? And people don't like to say no, especially women. We think differently than men about these things. Men tend to have the ability to

13:43let things go a little easier than women do, but we've got to realize that by saying no and letting things go, it enables us to say a stronger yes to the things that really do matter. So I guide women through that process, what it looks like for them is going to be a little different for all of them, but whether they're mid-career professionals, wondering if this is all there is, you know, they've had some success, but they're kind of feeling like it doesn't feel or look as good as they thought it would, or whether maybe they're entrepreneurs, they're doing their own thing, they are not in the corporate world anymore, but they want to know how they can make the biggest impact possible. So those are my ideal clients, people that are ready to make a change, want to do the work and want to see real transformation. I can help them make that happen and accelerate that path for them. That's so beautiful. I tell you, and I love what you're doing. The fact that you

14:44went through all of that, it came out of it, and now you're sharing your solution to help others. That says a lot about the kind of person you are. Thank you for all that you did. I love it. So we have two more to come, okay? So you just, yeah, you just mentioned something very important to us, do we set in boundaries? So how can someone set boundaries without guilt? Well, that's going to take effort at first, most likely, but I think the thing about guilt, is you think about guilt is usually projected upon us from someone else, some other source, and the first thing we have to do is learn to break that cycle and interrupt it, and recognize that what they're projecting on us does not have to translate into our reality, and that takes mindful awareness to break that cycle, and that's really what boundaries are all about. So that's the first part, I would say, is recognize where we are carrying messages from

15:45other people and allowing them to dictate our own truth, instead of letting it originate within us. I carried a lot of that for a long time. Other people's expectations, thinking, you know, it's all those words like, I should do this, I ought to do that, I need to do that. We need to look at why we say that and what our motivation is, and if it is one of the things that matters most to us, then that means it is important and we do want to spend time on it, but if there are arbitrary expectations or worse yet, if there are things we think people think and we don't even know if they're true, we really have to get in our own heads and start saying, is that even true? Does somebody really think that we shouldn't do this or that we should do that, and if they do, does that mean that's the right answer for us? Maybe not. Those are the kinds of boundaries that we need to start setting, but it starts with taking a good, long, critical look inside

16:50at your own thought process and what realities you've allowed to become limiting beliefs within yourself. The critical look into our thought process, I got that. Okay, so finally, what can busy professionals do today to rebalance their lives? I think it starts with taking some time away to just think, and I'm talking, carve 15 minutes, carve 30 minutes, sometime, a weeknight, late at night, whenever it is, but think in terms of, what am I doing that serving me well? What am I doing that isn't a great investment of my time? And what would I do differently if I want to devote more time to the things that matter? I do have some tools to help people that are free on my website for anybody who joins my community. The one I'm thinking of that's a great first step is a legacy blueprint workbook. And if you can take 45 minutes to step away

17:57from the crazy, busy life you have and go through that, you end up clarifying what your uppermost values are, defining some long-term goals that you have for yourself and creating a legacy statement of what you want to be known for. And so by doing that, it's a lot of deep thought, but it's actually not that hard. But then when you start to evaluate what am I spending time on that maybe I should be spending more time on or maybe I should be spending less time on, you can start to make your priority decisions from a place of knowledge. You know what your most important values are and what you stand for. And when you know that, that's when you can start saying those more powerful and thoughtful nose and decisive nose without guilt. And you can say those more powerful and thoughtful and decisive yeses to do more of the things that matter that

19:02God put you on this earth to do uniquely and specially yourself. I got that. Now is a great one to bring this on in Carol. What will you like to leave the audience with like a final thought and to those folks who like to reach out to you? Let me know about the wonderful stuff you've doing. It'll be a part of your community, your programs. I'm going to ask you questions. How can that be possible? There are lots of thoughts I'd love to leave the audience with, but I think the there's kind of a combination of a couple of them here. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. That's one. And we don't always have to know exactly where the path is leading. We just take the next purposeful step. And when you know who is leading your path, then you can take that next step in faith that it will lead you somewhere good,

20:04somewhere productive. And then the last thing I would say about that is just, you know, we can't prevent bad things from happening, but we can take something that was bad and turn it into something good. We can learn from it, we can grow from it, and we can still believe that good will follow. And I'm living proof of that. If people want to find me, they can look no further than my website. It's my name, CarolAnneKing.com. And there they can find links to that legacy blueprint work book that I mentioned. And also my book. And we can stay connected. I'd love to be connected with your audience. So that's the easiest. So that's going to be the obvious show, Carol. Thank you for coming. And thank you for sharing this wonderful story. It makes a whole lot. Thank you so much. Thank you. I kept wondering if my glasses were