
About this episode
From the time they are small, most boys receive a clear and consistent message — feelings are weakness, crying is embarrassing, and strength means staying quiet. By the time they are grown those lessons have become walls. Walls that damage relationships, block connection, and leave men emotionally stranded in moments that require them to show up fully. Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst has spent her career studying what boys actually need — not to become softer, but to become whole. What she shares about emotional vocabulary, the role of fathers, and what parents can do right now — even if they feel like they have already made mistakes — will change how you raise the boys in your life and how you understand the men they will become.
You'll Learn:
✨ Why boys are often taught to suppress emotion
🧠 How emotional disconnection shows up later in relationships
💬 What true emotional strength actually looks like
📖 How parents can build emotional vocabulary at home
👨👦 Why fathers and male role models matter so much
🔄 What to do if you feel like you’ve already made mistakes
Connect with Dr. Gloria K. Vanderhorst Website: https://drvanderhorst.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gloria-vanderhorst-ph-d-730826b/ Business Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drvanderhorst Personal Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/gloria.vanderhorst.7 Substack: https://gloriavanderhorstphd.substack.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/results?sp=mAEB&search_query=gloria+vanderhorstSeeking secure, virtual therapy in Maryland or Washington, D.C.? Learn more and request a telehealth session on her website!
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