
Put Dating Back in the Box – Trauma & Boundaries with Author Preston Wheeler
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Episode Overview
In this powerful conversation, Preston Wheeler joins us to discuss his book “Put Dating Back in the Box,” co-authored with Alonzo McLittle. This book offers a structured and character-centered approach to relationships. Instead of rushing into connections, Preston encourages individuals to first develop self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and personal responsibility.
This episode explores what happens when we enter relationships without healing unresolved trauma and how intentional growth can transform the way we love.
What We Discussed
🔹 Introducing Put Dating Back in the Box (0:00)
Preston shares the heart behind the book. It provides practical guidance on:
- Recognizing self-worth
- Healing from past trauma
- Avoiding manipulative or abusive partners
- Developing character before commitment
The book encourages readers to slow down and build internal strength before seeking external validation.
🔹 The Importance of Personal Growth (4:15)
Many unhealthy relationships begin when people seek partnership without first addressing:
- Emotional wounds
- Unresolved trauma
- Lack of relationship education
- Character development gaps
Preston explains that growth is not optional. It is foundational. Healthy relationships require two whole individuals, not two people looking to be rescued.
🔹 Overcoming Trauma and Developing Boundaries (6:47)
Preston shares how his own relationship challenges shaped his mission.
He discusses:
- The power of forgiveness without abandoning boundaries
- Learning from painful experiences
- Developing self-awareness
- Refusing to tolerate unhealthy behavior
Healing does not mean forgetting. It means learning and strengthening your discernment.
🔹 Accessing Resources for Personal Growth (12:33)
The book highlights the importance of education and support systems such as:
- Counseling
- Support groups
- Podcasts
- Books on emotional intelligence and character development
Growth requires intentional learning. No one is expected to do this alone.
🔹 Availability and Impact (30:01)
“Put Dating Back in the Box” is widely available through major retailers. Preston encourages list
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