Orifice Selection: A Guide for Men

0:00Orgasmic Enlightenment, where the sexual and spiritual come together. I'm Kamenami, and I'm a holistic sex and relationship coach and a vaginal weightlifter. In their show, we explore all things intimate. I believe that our sexual energy is life-force, creative energy, and we can use it to shape our worlds, strengthen our relationships, and self-actualize. I blend the most avant-garde information from neuroscience, ancient sexual practices like tantra and daoism to renegade wellness modalities to show you how to create gourmet sex in your lives. Come one, come all. A guide to Orifice selection for men. Hell has no fury like a woman under fought. When you have an under fought woman on your hands, you will know it.

1:00Because she will make you know it. She will make it loud and clear. Here are a list of signs you can look for. She's grumpy, irritable, angry, naggy, complaining, whining. She's depressed, sadness, binge eating, weight gain, emotional outbursts. Yelling at shop clerks and bank officials. Road rage. Blowing little things out of proportion. She lashes out at you. She belittles, insults, and humiliates you in front of your friends and family. She has terrible menstrual and menopausal and met perimenopause symptoms, but tries to rationalize these as just a normal part of being a woman. Nah, she's just under fought. Under fought women are prone to erratic emotional behavior.

2:01Angry outbursts, one moment despondent and sad the next and hysterical after that. You know, classic versions of hysteria. But they usually stray more towards anger and aggression, mainly at you and random shop clerks. All of the above symptoms are resentment for not being properly fucked. Her under fought behavior is a cry for help, a cry which distinctly says, fuck me. Whenever I hear men complaining about their naggy, bitty woman, he's telling me one thing that he is not fucking her and not. Well-fought women do not nag, complain, bitch or pelt you with snarly aggressive behaviors. Only under fought women do that. All of your relationship problems will evaporate or be solved so much more quickly

3:04when your woman is regularly and profoundly fucked by you. This is your job. This is your raison d'attra. Because when you do this, she becomes your secret weapon. A well-fucked woman is your highest level business trade secret, cash amplifier, health operator, brain biohacker and creativity generator. When she's firing on all cylinders, meaning she's exuding the well-fucked aura that your cock delivers, she is your biggest supporter. Instead of cutting you down, humiliating you and front of your friends, belittling you at every turn and essentially throwing a knife into your back when you least expect it, she does the opposite of all of this. She gives you and everything you do in the world a turbo boost.

4:04The Midas touch. She encourages champions and makes you feel like you are the most powerful man in the universe with the biggest cock. You can do no wrong. Everything you touch turns to gold because you started with touching her vagina and making sure it was touched well. Think of it this way. Your sexual energy and your intimate relationship are the engines of your life. This is where you rejuvenate, heal, fuel and power up. You go to bed and you plug in. You fuck the shit out of each other. You fuck out the demons negatively blasting them all the way and you fuck in love, adoration, confidence and creative life for energy. All of that gets infused into each other.

5:05That is what your bed was made for. Your shelter, sanctuary and power source. This is how the positive and negative charges of the masculine and feminine the very foundational structures for our physical universe of polarity come together in this world. You are the entry point and the channel for all life. This portal has your genders. Ancient civilizations knew this. That this is the ultimate free energy source. And that's why there is such a massive effort to distort, quail and censor this knowledge. Because when you have it and you live it, you become super human. So back to the idea of fucking your woman well. When she's under-fucked, there is only one solution, a clock in an orifice. You pick vagina, mouth, ass, all of them work.

6:09So how do you choose which orifice then when? Here is your trusted guide to orifice selection. These are the telltale signs to look for. She usually tells you exactly where to put it, just not in so many words. So listen up, I'm gonna give it to you in layman's terms. If she is whining and complaining a lot verbally, then you stick your clock in her mouth. Choke her with it. If she's nagging and insulting you and making snide comments, cockslapped, choke and face fuck that shit right out of her, she needs it. Her belligerence is a cry for help. She's begging you to silence her insolence. In fact, she's probably even goading you seeing how far she can push you before you mercifully belt her with cock. She'll be little, humiliate, embarrassed and insult you.

7:11She wants you to stop her. She's going hard to make you respond. So do it. If you don't stop her face with your cock, you are missing the message. Get that cock right in there until she's gasping for air and there are tears coming out of her eyes. That is what a throat gasm looks like. Yes, you can make her come from her throat. Throat gasms are real. So give her a few. Face fuck her until she forgets her name and all she can do is whimper yours. Remember, if your woman is whining, she needs to get face fucked. She needs a mouth full of cock. This is how she finds her voice. A good throat fucking clears away any stuck energy that she's having trouble expressing. She's lost her voice. So you go in there with your cock and you help her to find it.

8:12The next signs of what to look for are when she is disgruntled. Agitate it. She looks and feels like she could explode at any moment. She is a volcano seething and simmering under the surface but she can't really express what's happening inside of her. Though you can tell she wants to. This is typically when there's been an ongoing buildup of things and now it's a big pile of emotional energetic mess. This is when anal is your and her BFF. A cock in the ass is the cure for what ails her. Anal sex dislodges the stuck shit that we sometimes can't even find the words for. Solution, you passionately ask fuck her and she will have an emotional breakthrough. She may scream and cry and flail, the storm breaks. This is great. We need to break each other and come undone

9:15in the deepest and most loving ways. Afterwards she'll be soft, tender, calm, floaty, delicate even. The ass is also the seat of the unconscious. It is the ultimate shadow work and play. Your repressed issues live here. So getting in there and unwinding tension and the things that we hold on tight to is super helpful. There's a reason why we call people tight asses or say they have a stick up their butts. This is a kind of repression that is so palpable that other people feel it. A good ass fucking is sometimes the only thing that can cut through and start releasing all of the stuff that we've packed away and are clenching onto so tightly. And last but not least, we have the vagina. The vagina is obviously great as an anytime choice

10:17to keep her in flow. You and your clock are her ultimate nervous system, reset and regulation. You and your clock are her constant sexual medicine when she's overly emotional with the classic symptoms of hysteria, anger at the drop of a hat. She tears up easily, emotionally erratic, up, down, all over the place. You need to bend her over right here right now. Bend over with deep, deep penetration to reach her cervix. The cervix is the heart reflexology point in women. When they are emotionally distraught, it's best to get straight to the heart of the matter by heading to her cervix. And cervical orgasms are the deepest, most profound, euphoric, transcendental reset that a woman can have. You and your clock are the tools to get her there.

11:18These are the things that keep her steady and balanced as a woman. The feminine, the archetypal feminine is naturally mercurial and tempestuous, but in a much more exaggerated and out of balance way when she's under-fact. This is when you will see the more dramatic, emotional flip-flops, outbursts, passive aggression, or outright aggression. When this energy crosses the line, it's hammer time, it's clock time. All right, so now let's talk about medicinal dosages. Now, you can mix and match, you can dose up all these orifices in one session. And I suggest that you do the more medicine you can fill her up with, the better. And for it to be most effective, you need to consider three things. Number one, frequency, number two, duration, and stamina, number three, intention.

12:19So my recommendations for frequency dosing are, once a day, twice a day, has been warning and evening, and then overall a minimum of three times a week and a non-negotiable weekly three-hour sex date. In a non-meland, a quickie is one hour. No less. What we hear from our well-fucked couples in a non-meland is that they start to feel it after a couple of days if they haven't had sex. They notice themselves bickering, getting impatient, and a bit bristly with each other. And then they realize, oh, okay, we haven't had sex in a couple of days, we better get on that. And then all is right in the universe. The next factor is duration. I've already mentioned that every couple ought to have a weekly three-hour sex date. Let me say it again. This is set in stone and non-negotiable.

13:20You slot it in and you make it happen every week. Come hell or high water. You clear your schedules, you turn down social invitations, you arrange childcare. You move mountains for your relationship to have this time and space uninterrupted. And then in addition to that, at least two other minimum hour long sessions during the week could be longer, but at least that. All of the magical places and life-changing experiences I talk about sexually are not ever going to happen in three minute or even 15 minute encounters. The only exception to that is that once you're operating at a high level as a well-fucked couple, meaning you're already super connected, then it's not a big leap to touch and hit the high notes quickly. Not recommending this as a staple of your diet at all, but if you're constantly simmering at an eight or a nine,

14:21you don't always need all of the buildup. Though I would argue that this is half the fun and you harvest so much more of your creative life force energy in longer encounters. So that's the biggest reason why to have them and most people need that level of warming up. They're starting much lower in their connection and they need that time to open, unwind, and steal into each other. Otherwise, you're only ever skimming the surface and well-fucked people, the surface does not make. So create the time, make it count, commit. And before you start with me that you have children and jobs and you're so tired and you're so busy. I see your busyness and I raise you. All of our well-fucked couples who both work in high-level jobs have six children and they have sex every single day. I do not accept your excuses.

15:23And something beautifully curious begins to happen when you do this, when you prioritize your relationship. You find that everything falls into place. You tap into the creative energy of the universe and time and space start to bend. You become so magnetic and so in the zone in the flow of life that whatever time you think that you take out of your day, they connect with each other. You now earn back 10 fold in the quantum currency of magnetic abundance. And think about this. If you're in the flow, you're in a really positive place. You'll watch in your day that the synchronicities, the good luck, the good fortune just lines up, right? Things just flow together versus when you're in an agitated state, you're out of sync and it's like one after another. Things can happen that compound as problems.

16:23So there are some great episodes we have where we talk about how couples prioritizing their lives actually make them richer and provide them with much more time and abundance. So check out the multi-million dollar blow job. 60 rich and asphalt across Alabama and make her squirt make more cash. And you can hear our well-fucked couple all stars tell you themselves. So the other piece that's crucial to these longer duration sessions is going to be the stamina of you as the man. I say that every man needs to work up to and have an absolute baseline minimum of one hour that he can go in intercourse without ejaculation without orgasms. So in Anami land, we upgrade that where I teach men how to orgasm without ejaculation, just like the best of all worlds, but you need to be able to have at least an hour within you.

17:25And this is in crazy intense jockey style, headboard slamming sessions where you do not go over the edge. The only way that you're ever going to be able to reach these extended sex dates and perform in them is if you have impeccable stamina. And I've said this before, the number one sexual skill for men is stamina. You have to be able to go the distance. If you have been a perpetual two-pomp chump in your life, there's probably going to be a scarring in your relationship because you're with your woman, you start going, she starts opening up and then boom, you just pull the rug out from under her and it's game over. You're out, right? You're down for the count. Most men would be. Some men are exceptional regenerators, but even that doesn't matter if you're interrupting the flow of energy between you, right? To do your time out. So this is something that I teach in coming together

18:25and sexual mastery for men is how to have impeccable stamina and then even beyond that, learn to orgasm without ejaculation. Crucial for me. So the third factor in this equation is intention. In Anami Land, we talk about gourmet sex versus junk food sex. Someone new to my work might assume that I just tell everyone to have lots of sex anywhere, anytime with anyone, anyhow. Well, the first two, yes, but the second two, no. The key ingredient in sex that changes your life versus sex that just gets you off or acts as stress relief or asleep aid is how deeply connected you are, how much you really open up to and surrender with your partner. Junk food sex is comprised of the lowest quality ingredients. You get a quick hit, a brief high, and then you plummet.

19:27It does nothing to build or up level your system. In fact, it typically does the opposite. You've ingested a series of neurotoxins that your body now has to cleanse and process and ultimately get rid of. Gourmet sex is nourishing you on every possible level, emotionally, physically, and spiritually because you've let down your walls, you've let someone in. This is the medicine being seen and adored in your most raw and primal states. You emerge from an encounter like this, even more of your true self, stronger, wilder, wiser, your creative genius unleashed, unified in heart, mind, and genitals, ready to take on the world and make your mark within it. So your intention ought to be what I said before to fuck the shit out of your partner

20:30and love the brilliance into them to fortify each other, to tap into the channel of your pro-creative powers and unleash them onto the universe. That is why you are here. And that is the true purpose of your connection with each other. So say it with me, sex is medicine. Oral is medicine. Anal is medicine. Go forth and heal. The coming together for couples salon is coming soon. In this 10 week online program, you will learn how to harness the healing and creative power of your sexual energy, sexual reflexology maps of the genitals, my healing sexual position prescription guides. This is where I give you all kinds of suggestions for different positions to use

21:31that heal different ailments. My full orgasm, apedia, all of the life-changing vaginal orgasms for women, including g-spot, cervical and squirting, and superstar stamina techniques for men to last four hours, and how the orgasm without ejaculation. The salon begins in April. In the meantime, sign up for my three seven-day sex cleanse and to be notified when the salon opens for registration. Go to kimanami.com slash lovers. Thank you so much for listening. Subscribe to the podcast, leave a review, and send somebody else the gift of a multi-orgasmic and transformational love life by sharing this episode with them. If you'd like to go deeper into all things orgasms, sign up for my free orgasm apedia series where you'll learn about nine different types of orgasms everyone can have.

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