Ly Smith on Building Fortunes Radio with Peter Mingils and CANDY Method

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1:02Now onto our show with your host, Peter Mingles. Take it away, Peter. Hello, everyone. Peter Mingles here. You are listening to us on the Building Fortunes Radio Network. This is www.BuildingFortunesRadio.com. I am here today with a super special guest. Her name is Lee Smith. Lee is L.Y. Smith. You know how to spell that part. And she is someone that I met as a result of doing some speed networking with a friend of ours. His name is Maddie Lopez. I would like to give Maddie credit because he does really great things. He is a speed networking event in a cool company. And he helps foster kids. And he's overall a good guy. And he's a dad. And he's a good husband as well. And he's just like one of those people you just want to be associated with. So I met Lee a couple of times, I guess, on the speed networking events. And I invited her to do a radio show with us because I love her message. She's got this thing called the candy saying. And she's got her G3 management. And I love all the things that she does. And she's a best-selling author.

2:02A multi-international best-selling author, which is something special. And she's written a couple of books. And she's done lots of coaching and training. And she's a life coach. But she really helps people. A lot of women that are kind of in that mode where, you know, a little bit of self-doubt, but maybe they're accomplished. And maybe they're a little bit of self-doubt. And maybe they're looking for a way to break through and become a great creator. So she helps people with that stuff, which is all, you know, right up my alley. And because, you know, there's just certain things that guys can do. And the certain things that girls can do. And Lee does it really well. She's got a great YouTube channel. Her YouTube channel is all about, let's see. Oh, it's G3 mastermind. G3, like the letter G, the number three mastermind. So if you go to YouTube, you'll be able to find her on that. And I invited her here because I wanted you guys to get an up close in the kind of a personal view of who she is and what she does. And if you like her message, which I know you will.

3:03And you want to give her your business, which I know you will, you'll be able to do that. Because she'll give you some great free gifts and some other cool stuff. And you can reach out to her. She's easy to talk to as well. And a lot of fun. So super smart. Lots of fun. And I want to say thanks for being here. Lee Smith on your own radio show here on the Building Fortune Radio Network. Oh, my gosh. Thank you so much, Peter. That was just a lovely introduction. And I'm just happy and excited to be here with you in the listeners. I can't wait. Because I love your stories. I've watched a couple of your YouTube channels. We've spoken a couple of times. I've heard you on Manny's stuff that he's done. So you're the right gal doing the right things. And I want people to know about you. So why don't you share with us a little bit about your background. And then we'll blend into that that whole candy method. And it's candy C-A-N-D-Y. I love. I got to tell you. I love acronyms. Like I am Mr. acronym. If you know what I mean. I picked that up along. I picked that up a long time ago. When I was in college, I was a biology major and a chemistry major, which is really tough.

4:04Because you have to memorize a lot of stuff. And I learned that acronyms were really great ways for me to remember things. As a matter of fact, I remember today the muscles on a frog's leg. It's called a tassa. Magman. So that means nothing to you guys. But if you studied the muscles on a frog's leg, tassa. Magman is the way I remembered the muscles. I don't remember the muscles names today, but I do remember the acronym. I love it. I love it. Yeah. Great learning tools. Yeah. I love those. And I sent you our Don Paus stuff, our delusion of nonproductive activities, which might be some of the things that you do. So I just wanted to say, I love acronyms. So candy. For those people, I'm going to kind of force you to do some AI music with candy. Me and you sit there with kind of banks. Oh boy. I'm sure there's some cold ones in there as well.

5:04Sure. For sure. Well, yeah. Oh, yes. Oh gosh. Well, I'm coming to you from Reno, Nevada, beautiful valley here. And right now we have the snow covered mountains. It's a gorgeous day outside. And I love living in this mega outdoor playground. But I grew up on the East Coast. I grew up in North Carolina. I'm on the oldest of three. I have two fun younger brothers. I grew up in a fun and also dysfunctional home. I like to say we put the sun in dysfunctional. And an interesting thing happened when I was seven years old. When my parents beat me to getting out of bed for Saturday morning, cartoons, they walked into my room and they said, we need to have a talk with you Lee. My dad started the conversation and he said, well, Lee, your mom and I are going to get a divorce.

6:05And we want to know who you want to live with. Oh gosh. And my first thought was, well, what is divorce? And how do you spell that? Because I was studying for the spelling bee at that time. And so I was trying to like, how do you spell divorce? And while I heard the question, I don't know that it fully landed with me because it was definitely a word that was not in my vocabulary. What ended up happening from that experience is I didn't, you know, they didn't require an answer from me in that very moment. They were just sharing that with me. But I went on into this process, Peter, of having a conversation in my head. And I would say that's when I became aware of it. And I ended up playing this game with myself where I sat down and I had a mirror in front of me. And I started staring into the mirror and looking at myself so long that all I could see was my dad's face.

7:09It was me looking at me, but perceptually I was seeing my dad's face. And then I heard my dad's voice inside of me. And he was telling me, oh Lee, you're such a bright, intelligent girl. You can do anything that you put your mind to. You are a leader. You're going to do amazing things. You are so capable. And so there are all these positive statements that came up in my head. And I said, oh, well, that's interesting. And then I closed my eyes and I shook it off and I thought, well, I saw my dad. I wonder if I could see my mom. So I challenged that and I looked at myself again in the mirror and I stared again and I stared again and I stared and stared until sure enough, all I could see was my mom. And I grew up with a tiger mom. She came over from Vietnam and seeing my mom, well, her tiger mom voice definitely came into my head too.

8:09And it were comments of, when are you ever going to be enough? Why can't you be like so-and-so, naming one of my childhood friends and when are you going to do things right? And why do you always miss a spot? So yes, mom showed her love through, you know, criticism. So hearing my mom's voice and it was like, oh, I don't like that so much, but it was my reality. And I thought, okay, I definitely want to shake that off. And so I closed my eyes again and I shook that off and I thought, okay, well, I heard my dad and I heard my mom, well, now looking at myself, what voice do I hear now? And there was a moment of silence and then after a minute or so, I did hear my own voice. And I thought, well, how do I want to hear myself speak to me? And I heard myself saying things, I am lovable, I am capable.

9:11And I can do things. And I kept going in that positive direction. I thought, well, I want to hear more of my voice. I want to hear more of my voice. So I would say that that's when I started my journey of self-talk and self-awareness and how do I speak to myself? And later in my college years when I was studying communications and positive psychology and human resources and everything for me came back to this core of self-talk. And one of the many adventures that happened in my college days was I went on an all night beach adventure. And driving home, the beach was two hours away. Driving home, well, I made it into city limits and my eyes went fully shut. And I went off the road, collided with the bridge abundance.

10:11Clearly, I survived. I'm here to share this story. And getting through that journey, I did have to move back in with my mom for a bit. Oh, let me go back to that little story for a bit. To hear my parents wake me up at the age of seven, but they didn't divorce until I was like 23. No. Yeah. So, you know, that was interesting, but they awoke the self-awareness. So, it wasn't an all-bad thing. You know, it's amazing, you know, what life's adversities can present as gifts to you. So, definitely interesting. But yeah, when I fell asleep at the wheel and then came out of the hospital 11 days later and moved back in with my mom for a bit. And all I could do, because I don't sit still for any given moment, but here I had to sit still and heal up my injuries. And so, all I could do was sit on the couch. We didn't have the internet, folks. We had late night commercials, infomercials.

11:15So, between Dean Graziosi's real estate deals and Tony Robbins' personal power, that was my entertainment for my night owl behaviors at the time. But I was hooked on Tony Robbins. I purchased those tapes. And it wasn't so much that Tony sold me on his personal power program. It was, I could tell that he was persuasive and he was doing something positive. And my big question was, who is this guy? What is he doing? And how do I get to do what he is doing? And that was nearly 30 years ago. So, that was my entryway into the world of personal development. And then LP. And I didn't even know it was NLP until many, many years later, until about five years ago, when I was actually studying NLP. And I thought, oh my gosh, this is what Tony's been doing all along. I'm like, oh, how fascinating.

12:16And so, yes, so, between Tony Robbins and then being introduced to leaders like Agnandino, Ziggs Ziggler, Jack Canfield, Brendan Bouchard, and then the powerful win-in that we have in the world, like Mel Robbins, Bernie Brown, Marie Forleo. I looked up to all of these leaders, and I thought to myself, I want to be the next thought leader. And you're always wanting to, if you are a true leader, you're looking for who can you pass that baton on to. And I wanted to be in that race. I wanted to be in that lane of, let me grab the baton, and I want to hold on to that for a while, share my message, and then I want to pass the baton on to others. And it was out of that, Peter, that I came up with the candy method. I came up with my framework for the principle of how we have

13:19that the only real control that we have is the control of choice when we think something is happening to us or for us. We can choose to react, or we can choose to respond, and I put that in a framework of reactor or creator. So between my reactor to creator message, my candy method, and my G3 mastermind, this is how I now choose to show up in the world to help high achieving women, like myself, who are go getters, they make things happen, they do attain success, and yet internally, we still struggle with things like imposter syndrome, of still not feeling good enough, not in that physical sense, but that we're not good enough. We may encounter things like procrastination and resistance, or just plain out fear of being judged or rejected,

14:22and knowing how I've helped myself through myself talk, and my NLP techniques, that I can also help these women have that breakthrough, create those shifts, so that they can take life with clear and confident direction to live boldly and unapologetically, and own what I call the three Gs, their genius, their gifts, and their greatness, and step out fully as they are meant to be out in the world. That is so great. So I want you to go over some other things, but I just love your story, but I just have to throw in some insight here. You know, when I was, I'm a guy, so I'm a dude, and I'm growing my business, I'm a little bit on the traditional side, where I was selling vacuums for a company called Electrolex, and I was doing pretty well, and it was promoted up to corporate ladder,

15:22like learning sales and sales management, so I got a chance to turn other people. But I realized that, you know, me as the dad, I was making enough money where I can ask my wife, who decided that we were going to have children, and she decided that we were going to have children. But I'm ready for this. You know, I don't know if I'd ever be ready. You know, that's the guy part of me, you know. But so we started having children, and then I realized that, you know what, there's a little bit of a challenge here. She's not getting the same acknowledgments that I am. I'm getting the paycheck. You know what I mean? I'm getting the paycheck. I'm going to be able to provide the things, never held it against her, because that was my role. I wanted to be the caveman, who's had the women or the woman. I wanted a mom to raise her kids, not necessarily have another job. So that was just my style at that time, and my philosophy was, well, I'll do everything that it takes to be able to make that happen. So that did. But I also realized that, you know what, she's dealing with these three months, we have three children as well. Two boys at the top,

16:23and then my little daughter. But you know, she's the one who's kind of at home, changing the diapers, doing the stuff, doing the baby talk stuff, not necessarily getting a lot of recognition. No one's giving you a plaque. Not necessarily. You know what I mean? Like she's doing everything. She's like the thing. I used to travel. So she was like the single mom as well. So she did a lot of stuff without me. So if it snowed in Chicago, when I was away, guess what? Somebody had to figure out how to get the snow off the driveway, or if there's something broke, somebody had to call somebody. So. So the thing that I early recognized about the difference between men that are in a career, and moms is that they really need that community. Because it really is very easy for them to get into that self-doubt, and end also the frustration. Because we had two little boys first, and a boy dog, and my mom couldn't handle that. I say that playfully, but it was just too much testosterone, goofy boys, doing stuff that boys do,

17:23boy dog things, doing what boy dog things, and there was no female stuff in the house. So, so the point is, as I can understand the target market that you have, where there could be a high-performing gal, who may choose to do the right thing for her, successes based on whatever your level of success is, and maybe she wants to be that mom, but she's fighting with all her other friends, have jobs, and they might be doing some other things as well. So it's really easy to have a self-image, or a self-doubt, kind of a situation. So am I completely off my rockers, and am I right on with a little bit about what you deal with? Oh, you are absolutely spot on, and that's funny that you mentioned that she decided to have kids. I had a sit-down conversation with my husband when he was, when we were just dating, and starting to walk down the serious path of getting married, and I said, I have one non-negotiable, and that is, I do plan on being a mom,

18:23and when I do, I will be a stay-at-home mom. And I recognize it's going to take sacrifices, and I am willing to do whatever it takes to make that happen. That is my one non-negotiable, so I need to know that you're on board. Otherwise, we're kind of at a dead end. He said to me, well, what if I want to stay home with the kids, and I said, no, no, this is my thing. This is my deal. Yes. But truth be told, Peter, I married into a blended family, so my husband's son from his previous marriage was five at the time that we got married, and it was a couple of years later when we had our little girl, and so when she came into the world, I did leave the job at that point, became the stay-at-home mom, and we had his son half-time, and there were many times that he was traveling with his work. And so, yes, I played the single mom in that sense, too.

19:23And, you know, 15 years into doing that, while I was living the dream, so to speak that I was so convicted, that I'm going to be a stay-at-home mom, and I enjoyed most of those days, I did lose my identity in that. And, yeah, in the sense that I forgot who I was, I thought I was so happy with my life, and if you looked at me, I had a beautiful smile on my face, really didn't complain about anything, and I did take care of everything, from the bills, to the laundry, to the dishes, to the entertaining educating the kids, I homeschooled my daughter for the first 10 years, until she figured out calculus, okay, you surpassed mom, but you got to figure something else out here. And then it was actually, yeah, 15 years into our marriage,

20:24and we were on this incredible 23-day holiday in Hawaii across four islands, and my stepson, he was grown in out of the house, but he was on that vacation with us, with his girlfriend, in a moment of one of those sunsets, and if you haven't, it's experienced a Hawaii sunset. It is a must-do in life. Absolutely. I've traveled to many, many places. I've seen lots of sunrises and sunsets, and I tell you, Hawaii is a must-do. Make it happen. Whatever it takes. And it was on one of these particular sunsets, I was looking out, being aware that I was surrounded by my family, people that I love dearly. And I see the blue ocean, I see the golden sunset, that the pink sky, feeling the caress of the breeze, the waves lapping at my feet. So I'm taking all this sensory intake,

21:26and it was in a moment that I realized, I am thinking. I'm only thinking these things. I'm hearing my inner talk, like, look at this, and feel that, but feel that in the physical sense I did, it was that there was no emotional feeling going on in that moment. And I thought, wait, what is happening right now? And again, almost like that staring at myself in the mirror, here was a moment of self-awareness of, who am I right now? I am just this woman, just this wife. I am just a state-owned mom. I am just a stepmom. I am just a daughter. I am just a shell of a woman standing here in this beautiful paradise, wondering, who is Lee? Who is Lee right now? And I came up empty. It was amazing. And I thought, I know this is not who I am.

22:28I'm living, loving, laughing Lee. That's how I was known in high school. And I'm like, this is, wait, what, what? And it was in that moment of words, I'm like, whoa. And I had to take a step back and recognize that, like, I really had lost who I was. And because it was the end of one year, and I knew a new year was starting in a few days. I said, okay, I need to figure out who I am. And I don't care how selfish it seems to anybody else. And because, like you mentioned, Peter, as a state home mom, you don't necessarily get recognized, you know, for the things that you do. There is no paycheck coming in. There can be a lot of pushback in society around you. You can even get pushback from your family, which was my case as well. And I did. I lost all sense of who Lee Smith was. And so I said, I don't care how selfish it seems.

23:31When I get back state side, I am going on a quest to figure out who I am. You know, I'm going to tack on to that, if you will, because I'm 63 now. So I've kind of lived the life, you know, and my life has always been about creating an environment and serving everybody around me. And I owe me that in a bad way. That was my job. I was the dad. I was the one who was supposed to be the provider. I was the one who was supposed to earn the paycheck. I was going to get the house, the pool, the whatever. You know, clean the pool, fill up the air, tires, you know, do all the things. Yeah. And so I happily did that, took that role responsibly. And then they grew up. And they left. And I was standing here saying, like, huh, like, how did I not predict this was going to happen?

24:32Like, I always thought my kids were going to be my kids. Like, you know what I mean? I always thought the pool needed to be cleaned and then going to do all those things and then all of a sudden they went out and did their own life, which is what you wanted. But she didn't realize that what that meant. So just like your parents asking me, like, who do you want to live with? You know, what does this mean? I think there's so many of us that find this out late in life. And they forgot to keep that small space, where they can still make and preserve them. Yes. Because if you don't, you're going to fall pretty hard when it's gone. Right. And, you know, I'm a smart guy, I think, you know what I mean? I can think through, I can do business planning. I just, I was so busy doing everything else for everybody else and everything else. When they left, I was like, what's my purpose? You know, I hate to say like this.

25:32Right. What's my purpose in life? I mean, like, yeah. I'll never forget my someone to college, my middle someone to college. And I had to drive him. He was the first one that he moved away. And it wasn't that far. But when he moved away, I came back and. I stopped off at Walmart to pick up stuff like I would normally do. And I walked into the tuna fish aisle and I said, huh, I don't need to buy tuna fish this week because Vincent likes tuna fish in the can. Right. I don't need tuna fish. And I like, I'm a sensitive, like, I'm a tough guy in certain aspects, but I'm a real softie and others. And I started tearing up in the aisle. And I'm sure people look at me like, what's this guy do? He's a emotional breakdown and tuna fish guy. And then I met the cashier. And she looks at me and she says, are you okay? And I said, no, I'm really not like, no, I'm really not okay.

26:34Because this was the moment that I realized it. You know what? Like you. I did it in the tuna fish aisle. You didn't know why. Right. I did jealous. But, but, but for the people that are listening in, you know, think about not only yourself, but anybody else that might be around you. That might be in a very similar situation. And you got to, you know, you might need some help digging your way out with a community. And that's what I like about the things that you do. So I'll let you comment on that. Let's start a commercial and then we'll be right back when I talked about some other stuff that you have going on as well. So do you have any comments on anything? Oh, no. I just, you know, we experienced that as parents, Peter, but there are people who they, they go through life, they go through life, they go through life. They're like, they're doing a job. And then all of a sudden there's retirement. And they also have to question, you know, who am I now? So, yeah, it can happen at any moment in life. And yeah, I'm looking forward to seeing you in the conversation.

27:35Yeah. If it doesn't happen by default, it'll, it's going to happen. So here we go. We're going to take a quick commercial break. Thanks for listening to Building Fortune's Radio. You can hear us on all the UMongas AM radio and all the UMongas FM radio stations. Listen in. Whether we are on Amazon Music and Apple's iTunes or I Heart Radio and Spotify, you can hear us everywhere. Popular news and information is shared. If you sell a product or have something to share with the world, you should advertise with us. Or, learn about hosting your own show on Building Fortune's Radio and the UMongas ad network. For more than 25 years, PM marketing has helped entrepreneurs grow their businesses and sell more products by building customized websites, driving targeted traffic and advertising through the UMongas ad network and radio shows. Visit buildingfortunesradio.com or call Peter Mingles directly any day from noon to midnight Eastern time for details. Call 3-8-6-445-3585.

28:39That's 3-8-6-445-3585. Ask about the Kisk book and websites. The Kisk, keep it simple circle, can be your key to success. Now, let's get back to the show. Take it away, Peter. And we are back. This is Peter Mingles. We're talking about different things with Lee Smith. She's a great content creator. She's an author. She's a motivational speaker for sure. She's an NLP coach. She's done a whole bunch of things in her life and she's here on Building Fortune's Radio. She's also got to give away. We're going to get to that in just a little bit. So you probably want to grab some kind of note taking device down so you can write this down. We're also going to put this on to show the description of the Building Fortune's Radio show that she has. And as you can tell, I enjoy talking to Lee because she's got a great message. She's a good person. She helps people. She makes a difference in the world. So, Lee, let's continue our interview on our Building Fortune's Radio show. So, this candy thing, you know, the candy method.

29:39You heard me say, gizc. That's our keep it simple circle, right? So, you know I'm into acting. Yeah. So, let's go to your candy thing. Not that you're going to be able to teach us everything here. And that's why, you know, this is an introduction to the things that you have. But give us a little bit of an insight of what candy really means, this candy method. Yeah, yes. And this, you know, and this is the process when I took a step back and looked at when I came home from Hawaii and recognized I had been in a depression after more self-reflection. I realized I'd been in a depression for over two years. And I thought, this is not me. How do I get out of this? And when I worked myself out of it and found my joy. And then my inner child, my inner eight-year-old who fell in love with public speaking, said, hey, let's go. Let's go chase that feeling we love getting after public speaking. I'm a weirdo in that sense. I know most people would rather face death than a public audience. But for me, I'm the opposite.

30:40Give me a room full of people. And that's my happy place. And it was in that process that I'm finding that joy again. I'm like, oh, this is what I did. And it begins with clarity. What is it that you really want? For me, my question was, what makes me happy? Because I knew what made my husband happy. I knew how to bring a smile to my daughter's face. I knew how to appease my son. But when I looked at myself in the mirror and I said, Lee, what makes you happy? Initially, I came up empty handed. I could tell you all the things that made me unhappy and what I did it want in life. And that is how most of the general population works. You go out on the street right now. You ask five people, hey, what makes you happy? They're either going to say, I don't know. Or they're going to tell you what they don't want in life. So clarity begins with answering specifically what makes you happy?

31:45What is it that you want? And I knew initially I needed to figure out who I was, who was Lee Smith. So that was the beginning of my clarity journey. And then the A is affirmation. That self-talk. And what are the words that you're saying to yourself? Because studies have shown that we have anywhere between 60 to 80,000 thoughts every single day. And running through our mind. And we're certainly not aware of all of those thoughts. But a lot of those are looped. 85% of those thoughts are the same thoughts we had the day before and the day before and the day before that. So if we aren't aware of what are the loops running through our mind, we might be continuing a negative loop. And then we're wondering, why isn't life going the way that I wanted to? But if we can reframe those thoughts from, I'm stressed, I'm overwhelmed,

32:49to my body is preparing me to rise from this challenge, or I can find the confidence and the wit and the will to do the things that are most important to me, changing that language and the way that we speak to ourselves, you'll notice that your life will change too. And affirmations aren't just positive words. It is also a perspective. And so I teach about the future successful self. And when you look at him or her and use the positive words that that part of that future successful you is saying in that moment and borrowing the beliefs from the things that they've already done because they've done everything that you want to do. And so when you borrow those words and bring that into the nail, you'll find that those affirmations will work 10 times better than just saying positive words.

33:51I'm the first millionaire in my family because if you say something like that, your brain is going to laugh at you going, you know, you haven't done that before. So what makes you really think you can do that nail? Because your brain will take the nail and base it on the past. But when you envision that future successful self, the brain can't tell the difference between that reality and the nail reality. So when you borrow the words from that, I am a seven figure professional speaker. And it's like, oh, when I see myself on stage and I can smell the sweat in the room and I can hear the people laughing, having a good time, I can see their smiles taking in all of that sensory into the nail that allows me to use the affirmations effectively. The end is for necessity. What are my next steps? If I am reclaiming the joy of my eight-year-old inner child

34:51and she wants to be speaking publicly, well, how do I do that going from state home home to grabbing a mic on the stage? What is the next step? I mean, I know all the steps between the here and there, but maybe I can see the next two to three steps. And that's the necessity. That becomes the blueprint, the roadmap, and creating that journey of purpose and intention. And then the D is the discipline. It's the actual doing. What I love to do, Peter, when I'm in front of it, a room full of people, and most of the time they're taking notes. I'm like, everybody's taking notes, right? You've got to writing utensil. Fantastic. I want you to put the pencil down. Put the utensil down. Great. Now, pick up the utensil and hold it up in the air. And they grab it and they raise it in the air. I say, fantastic. Put it back down, back down on the table. All right. They're doing that. I'm like, fantastic.

35:51Now, I want you to try to pick up the pencil, the writing utensil. And everybody gives me funny looks. Like, she said, try. Like, what do you see? People kind of halfway, grounding. I'm like, this is what Yoda means. By there is no try. There is do or do not. So even when you're clear, even when you have the right affirmations, even when you can see the necessary steps, now you feel like I can do the thing, right? If you don't do the discipline part, if you don't actually do, and you're just call, cut up on the try, or getting ready to get ready, then you don't make that progress forward. So the discipline is the actual doing. And then the why is my favorite part? Because the why is all about you. And so celebrating you and the efforts. And whether it's the baby's step, like for me and the quest of rediscovering who I am,

36:53it was facing my depression and moving from the bed to the corner of the couch. That was my celebration that day. I made that effort. And sometimes that's where we are, where it was like, did I make it out of bed? Okay. That deserves a high five. And then, you know, taking that leap of faith, or where I am today. I am showing up in serving on a radio show and having this amazing conversation with Peter, and sharing my story, and sharing my message. And like, that is my effort today, and I'm celebrating that win. So the why is celebrating your genius, your gifts, and your greatness. That is all part of a unique combination meant just for you. I likened my three G's to a cell phone number. We have eight billion people all around the planet, and 95% of us have a cell phone.

37:54And we may have the numbers zero through nine in common. There's some overlap with some of us. But yet, there are no two cell phone numbers exactly alike. It's unique to you. And this is how we get to connect with one another. And so it goes with the three G's, your genius, your gifts, and your greatness. It's a unique combination just for you. That lets you, Peter, shine in the world, that lets me, Lee, shine in the world, and the way that we're meant to do it. Whether we're meant to do that as a radio host, as a professional speaker, as a stay-at-home mom, as a door-to-door, electrolyte salesman, or whatever your way is of showing up in the world, you are meant to do that with your three G's. So I put that together. I'm like, all right, this thing comes candy. It's for clarity. The affirmation, necessity, discipline, and you.

38:55And when you put those pieces, oh my gosh, your life becomes so much better, so much more fulfilling. It sounds great. Well, I want people to take advantage of the free gift that you're also offering as well. And I believe it's rewriteyourselftalk.com. So rewriteyourselftalk.com. So all good stuff. I learned about affirmations early on when I was with Electrolex, and we were doing some goal-setting stuff. And it was something that I learned early on, made a big difference in my life, but was certainly uncomfortable initially, because I was saying things about myself that weren't true yet. So, you know, the most positive person that I know, I might say, or maybe I'm going to be the best salesman I could be, or, you know, I'm going to make $5,000 this month, and anything else like that. So it was an adjustment, but I have to share with you. I learned a lot of that stuff by listening to, and reading Napoleon Hill. And I found that self-affirmations could really make a big difference, and then here's the funny thing. They worked so well.

39:55I stopped doing them. Isn't that crazy? You know? It's the way it is. They worked so well. Why did you stop? I'm not sure. You know? I had a friend of mine says, you remember when you were good? I love that intimidation. He used to say that to me. He's like, you remember? When you were good. Like his name is Dan. Like Dan, you know, screw off. You know what I mean? I knew I had to be talking about. But at the level of intimidation. So anyway, so we're going to wrap this up, because I want to make sure I give you some time to give us your closing comments. But we'll make sure that we have the links to this and her social media stuff on the show. We're going to make sure you come back to, because this is a message I want to hear more about. Maybe talk about some other examples as well. But I'll give you the next minute or so. How do you want to wrap this up? Yes. Well, I want to leave you with my personal mission. And that is to transform the reactor into the creator. And when you write down the word reactor,

40:57you will notice the letter C is in the middle of all the rest of the letters. And a reactor is like that letter C. They're the go getters trying to make things happen. But life keeps happening too. And as life is happening, they are reacting to that. Whether it's a six-childer or a six-family member or a bad traffic situation, or like me, the one time when I fell asleep with the wheel, and that will change your trajectory. And it can be emails, it can be phone calls, whatever it happens to be. It can be dog nipping at your pant leg or a little one going, Mommy, Mommy, Mommy. So you're reacting to all these things. And you find yourself like the letter C feeling stressed and overwhelmed. And there's the sense that I'm feeling stuck in the middle of all the things. And what I do inside of my mastermind

41:57and even when I'm sharing my story with the world, I like to take the letter C out. And that's like taking a moment for yourself. Like I had to do on that day on the beach. And see myself for who I really am. I help you see yourself for who you really are. Help you see your genius, your gifts, and your greatness. And so if you've written out the word reactor and you cross out the C, that's like you taking a moment, taking a breath, taking a beat, to go, who am I really? And then when you can get clear on who that is, and now you put yourself first. So now if you're writing this out, write the letter C in front of the rest of the other letters. You are no longer the reactor. You have transformed into the creator. Everything else falls into place because you know who you are. So you know what aligns with you and who you're meant to be in the world.

42:59And you see what is priority. You see what is important, what matters most. And so you do those things that matter the most. And so instead of being a busy reactor, you are a productive creator. You are creating the best response in any given moment, so that you are being the best version of yourself. You are creating the day. The morning. How do you want to wake up in the morning? You are creating the day that you want. The week, the month, the year, the life, the family, the business. You are the creator of the life that you truly desire. And so that is what I am. That's my purpose, Peter. That is what I am meant to be out in the world to do. Many of our thought leaders talk about you how that choice be between reacting and responding. This is my reframe. You don't have to be a reactor. You can choose to be creator. You have it within you to make it happen.

44:00So choose to be the best version of yourself and be the creator of your best life. Thank you so much. This is great. I really appreciate this. And thanks for being on Building Fortunes Radio. We're going to make sure that you can go get that free gift, go to rewriteyourselftalk.com. I'm going to make sure that Lee Smith has the radio show you'll be able to search on Building Fortunes Radio. Go look for her. She'll have her social media links and contact information, all that sort of stuff. And I love the things that you do. I love the idea that you use the acronyms. And I'm looking at the words, reactor, and creator. And I thought that was so cool on how when you just move to see from, you know, just move it around like scrabble, you know, just kind of move it around. And that makes all the difference. So I love that. So thanks for being here on Building Fortunes Radio. And we're going to catch everybody next time. Make sure you make it a, you know, make it your day to create that stuff that you deserve. And I learned a long time ago through the motivational speakers

45:00that I listened to as well. People like Brian Tracy, you know, you are responsible. Like I am responsible. That was one of the things that he used to say in his self-affirmations. I am responsible. I am responsible. I am responsible, which is very similar to what you're referencing on the creator. So I love this stuff. So for those people listening in, take a listen and take a read and go check her out on YouTube as well. G3 Mastermind is the YouTube channel. We'll catch you next time. Thanks, everyone. Thanks a lot. You've been listening to Building Fortunes Radio on buildingfortunesradio.com. Thanks for listening. Be sure to check us out every Friday at 5 p.m. Eastern time for the designated Building Fortunes radio segment with Peter Mingle. Be sure to check out the buildingfortunesradio.com website for our featured segment. It's been our privilege to have you listen in. At Building Fortunes Radio, we wish you the success you deserve and are willing to work for. So spread the word. Tell a friend, join our newsletter, and go make a difference in your world.