Lashon Harah Day 57, Shabbos Day 51

0:00Okay, we're starting on this book, the building of La Shona Ron, three minutes a day, the laws of La Shona Ron. Day 57, we have mentioned a number of times that even when the negative information may be communicated, the seven conditions must be met. As we have noted, the first of these conditions, when dealing with misdeeds that have already happened, is to approach the person in confront him or her with the alleged sin. This gives the person the opportunity to explain why he or she was not actually doing wrong, or to rebuke them, ensuring that the sin will not be repeated. What if the subject will not accept any rebuke, even privately? What if you know that the person will completely ignore any rebuke or that he will react in defense? The other time says that one can bypass this condition in such an instance, but he replaces it with another condition. One must reveal the La Shona Ron in front of three people. By revealing it publicly, the speaker shows that his intent is not to be secretive and malign the subject of his speech behind his or her back. Had he spoken only one or two people privately, his listeners may have suspected him of lying

1:00or having ulterior motives. Moreover, the listeners may not believe what he says, wondering why he did not approach the subject directly. The advantage of the speaker saying it in front of three people is that it is assumed that this information will get back to the subject, and that it is like saying it in the subject's presence. However, there was a slight limitation to this leniency. One, if the speaker has a constructive reason to tell people, he must make sure to tell the three people at the same time, in a way that they know not to accept it is true. He must tell them that the information is not to be relied on, but instead that they should take precautions and do their own investigating. And two, the listeners are prohibited from accepting the reports is completely true. This is because it is possible that the speaker saw the incident out of context. This is especially appropriate since the speaker did not discuss the matter with the subject. Here's an example. Yoni has seen Gideon embarrassing someone every week at the Shulkiddish. Yoni knows that if he approaches Gideon directly, Gideon will not accept any review. In this case, Yoni need not approach Gideon directly.

2:01Instead, he can mention this in front of three people who are capable of using the information to help Gideon change his ways. Even then, Yoni must only say what he has seen with no exaggeration or additional detail, with the intent to help Gideon. He should tell them that it is possible he did not understand what he was saying, and then it may be that he misunderstood the situation. Of course, in all cases, the other six conditions must be fulfilled. There are also two cases in which one need not talk to three people. Firstly, if the wrongdoer will likely harm the speaker, if he tells three people, this requirement can be dropped. Furthermore, if the speaker is well-known for being honest and always speaking the truth, he also need not say it in front of three people. We address this in day 55 regarding preventing future loss or harm. Words of wisdom. Hashem operates his world with the concept of Mita Kanega, Mita, measure for measure. Therefore, one who does not speaklish on a rob about others will merit that others do not speaklish on a rob at him. Conversely, if one speakslish on a rob about others, others will end up speaking about him.

3:02Oh, yeah? This one, learning Shabbos Laws in three minutes today. We're in day 51. Abdullah, oh, no, day 52. We read Abdullah yesterday, all right? We're going, is there more of them? Oh, Abdullah's got a lot. Can't remember. Let's read it and see if we had it before. The flame, the reason. On Mote Shabbos, we make a brochan fire because that was when Hashem inspired Adama Rishon to create fire. If one does not have a flame or wine, we'll clarify what is required. He still makes Abdullah. When a flame becomes available later that night, he can make the brochan on the flame at that point. If one does not have a cup of wine to make Abdullah, but expects to be able to obtain it later that night, he should not make a brochan on the flame until he requires the wine. He should then make Abdullah on wine spices and a flame as usual. A torch. One should preferably use a wax candle. If he cannot, he should try to find something that does not have a bad smell. One should ideally use an avuka, literally a torch.

4:03Is that avuka or avuka? Avuka. Avuka. Helastically, this refers to something that is too connecting flames. It follows that two candles whose flames are touching is fine. Similarly, two wicks that come out separately but whose flames connect is also fine. Note that when Yomto falls on a Mote Shabbos, one should preferably avoid using two separate candles. Electric lights. We mentioned that in certain cases, there are opinions that allow one to use electric lights for Shabbos candles, but since one needs to a real light created through heat, only incandescent bulbs are acceptable. Regarding Abdullah, if one does not have a flame, there are post-game who allow one to make the brochan on an incandescent bulb. However, others hold that this is not ideal as it is like a flame in a glass, which is problematic. That being said, it's fine to look at the flame using one's glasses, as the glasses are considered like the body of the person himself. That's tape, if you want. That's tape, if you want. That's tape, if you want. That's tape, if you want. We have two minutes. Stay dot code.

5:04If you're wearing a brush like a Georgetown candle, wouldn't it hold? Yeah, because I think the Yorkshire candle has a hole in the top, so there's no, you can see it. But you're not making a brochan on the Yorkshire candle. That's a good question. Why don't we make a brochan on the Yorkshire candle? Nobody? Because you're gliding in the memory of somebody. I'm saying this, we make it submits for the light of candle, right for that. I don't know. OK, we stumped the rabbit. Yeah. I think you're in a blush and I want more time just to review it, so I always forget it. Yes. Basically, we said that you could only stay, let's talk about someone, in front, if they're not going to accept your view. You can only say that you're not going to put it in front of three people. The two conditions for that are either if, you know, while you're staying, let's not in front of three people. You have to intend it for the good, and they accept it from you. Now, the two ways you can drop saying, in front of three people, is, if you're an honest person, the first one was, if you think you're going to get hurt or harmed by the person. Meaning, if it gets out that you said it, if the three people are going to harm you, I think, if you think the three people,

6:05if you think the three people are going to harm you, you don't have to say in front of three people. I guess. I mean, you might as well assume that you don't want to get harmed. You don't want to three people. It means that you're staying in front of everybody. That's all point of people. Right. Let's see. There are two cases in which one need not talk to three people. First, if the wrong doer will likely harm the speaker if he tells three people. Okay. So, if the guy who's speaking in the general will harm you, if he hears about you telling three people. And then you could say it who you want, and then not accepting your view. If it's not in front of three people. It's not clear. You can say it. It's not exactly at all. If staying in front of three people is going to be dangerous for you, then can I say it in front of three people? No. No. You have to look at the seven people. Yeah, I guess you can tell less than three people. You're right. Okay. I think you'll lose it.

7:05Because it says if you're an honest person, you don't have to say in front of three people. That's implying that you can say in front of two people, if you're honest. Two people are the same as one. There's some saying. So, they're saying, if you're honest, you can say in front of three people. Okay. Or fewer than three people. And yes. No matter what time you finish, you're not supposed to, before 536 today. 536 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is the time 36 is