Inner Work 244: When being good becomes a problem

Are you a GOODIST?

Some other characteristics of goodism include:

• putting others' needs and desires above your own, most or all of the time
• getting your sense of self-value from being "needed" by others
• finding it intolerable when someone else criticizes you, gets mad, or disagrees with you (and so trying to avoid this at all costs)
• playing the role of peacemaker in others' disagreements 
• going along with what others want, rather than making your voice and preferences clearly known
• avoiding conflict by not speaking up when others disappoint you or overstep your boundaries

In this episode of INNER WORK, we'll explore this trait of goodism and how being a "goodist" can become a problem... because it leads you to suppress your authentic self and to give all of your energy and power away.

If this discussion has intrigued you, I highly recommend reading Dr. Sarno's books The Mindbody Prescription and The Divided Mind.