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If Boundaries Make You Anxious, This Is What You’re Missing

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You know you need the boundary. You have read the books, heard the advice, practiced the scripts. And the moment you try to actually set one your heart races, the guilt floods in, and you end up apologizing for having a need in the first place. That is not a boundary problem. That is a shame problem. Karen C.L. Anderson has spent her career working at exactly that root — the shame that drives people pleasing, self-doubt, and the exhausting cycle of setting boundaries that collapse the moment someone pushes back. What she shares about recognizing when shame is running the show, separating guilt from actual responsibility, and building self-trust that does not require forcing confidence will give you a completely different foundation for boundaries than anything you have tried before. Boundaries are not a skill you need to practice harder. They are a feeling of safety you need to build first. This episode shows you how. You’ll learn how to: • recognize when shame is running the show • separate guilt from responsibility • rebuild self-trust without forcing confidence • set boundaries that protect relationships and yourself This isn’t about pushing harder or saying the perfect words. It’s about gaining clarity you can use right now. Connect with Karen C.L. Anderson 🌐 Website: https://www.kclanderson.com/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/KCLAnderson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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If Boundaries Make You Anxious, This Is What You’re Missing

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