How to Start Over After Heartbreak or Divorce w/ Dr Stan Tatkin

Have you recently split up with a partner or are you considering it? This may well be the food for thought you need! Why are relationships so difficult? Why is separation so challenging? How long does it take to move on? Why can a break-up feel like the end of the world even though you know it’s not?!

These are some of the answers you’ll get questions to, from world-renowned marriage & family therapist Dr Stan Tatkin. 

Dr Stan’s Tedx talk “Relationships are Hard, But Why?” has been viewed 2 million times. He is the author of many bestselling books including Wired for Love, We Do, Your Brain on Love and Love & War in Intimate Relationships. He is an assistant clinical professor at UCLA and maintains a private practice in Southern California. 

He shares his own starting over story, separating from his first wife & finding love again. 

And one of my massive takeaways was: There is a difference between ATTACHMENT and LOVE that we MUST know about! 

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Timestamps:

00:00 Why are relationships so hard?

08:30 Stan's experience of heartbreak

13:12 Why can a break-up feel like the end of the world?

25:00 How long does it take to detach from someone?

29:50 Grieving & healing after relationship loss

36:32 How does this apply in cases of abusive relationships?

41:07 The survival brain dominates!

53:49 Becoming more self-aware in relationships

57:21 Understanding your triggers & becoming less reactive

01:01:46 Final message for people starting over after separation

Music by: Flood (Instrumental) by RYYZN https://soundcloud.com/ryyzn