How to approach people | Shimon Davis

0:00Get out of your head. It is not that difficult to approach people. It's new, so maybe you're not comfortable with it But the more you do it, the easier it will become. And what you have to realize is that most of the people that you're afraid of that You're nervous about they are as nervous or maybe even more nervous than you. You are approaching them. You are getting in their bummer That's why I like to make people as comfortable as possible when I'm approaching them. You know what I'm saying? Approach with a smile all those things But the reason why a lot of people fail is because they have no plan. You don't know what you really want from this person Let's say you wanted to go paint a house What can you start off by going to get paint and some paint brushes? Right if you want to drive your car, shitting you start by going and getting your car and actually starting the car Work up to your goal get everything that you need with this Conversation pieces or whatever so you could get what you want from a person, right? But before you do any of them, right before you do any of that What I need you to do is make sure you got the three peas in order

1:03Make sure you are presentable make sure you look good you smell good your clothes or Pristine you don't want to be crusty you don't want to be musty because if you any of that go back home and start over It is not your turn buddy if you don't have you taking care of you shouldn't be pursuing anyone Be a garden a beautiful garden, right? Because when you have a beautiful garden you attract butterflies Okay, and then if you don't attract butterflies you still have a beautiful garden so take care of yourself be presentable Then you want to make sure your posture is good you want to make sure you're upright you confident you exude self-love that Radiance should touch everybody people are gonna gravitate towards you when you're in conversation Your charisma is gonna flow and people are gonna want to be around it makes things much easier So a lot of people take notice of that and then when you actually get to meet the person you want to be polite You want to be genuine you want to make a connection as soon as possible? I think that making a connection has become a lost art We are usually so focused on you know I'm saying the curves and the edges and the social media and the number we forget to actually make a

2:06Connection with them and people remember those connections when someone asks you Yo, what kind of jacket is that man? That's that's a nice jacket you go and oh, yeah I got this and you remember that conversation for the whole day the whole week sometimes you hold like make a genuine Com make a genuine compliment make a genuine conversation make a connection as soon as possible What you don't want to do is come off way too strong like yo, y'all Let's let's go make babies Yeah, you're way too beautiful for me. I would I would die to have somebody like you did Did you subscribe to my YouTube channel yet? Did you subscribe? If you didn't you should subscribe right now and then I'm gonna give you babies matter of fact I'm gonna give you babies before you get what I'm saying You can't come off too strong dog. She already uncomfortable you lost right don't overvalidate Oh my gosh you so you're gonna put up on a pedestal and treat it like a celebrity She gonna treat you like a fan buddy, and if you run off with your intensity It's raps, okay? What I like to do make a connection as soon as possible or make make her comfortable as soon as possible, right?

3:13You can even Introduce yourself and I had a brain for it introduce yourself Make a comfortable smile whatever that that's what up for you know the presentation being polite all those things, right? So make a comfortable what I like to do because I'm a risk taker, but I'm more so of opportunities Opportunities opportunities I Like to use relative location relative people events objects whatever to swindle this conversation, right? So if I'm at work with a girl, you know, I see around like yo how long you been working here? I've been working for three months, but I've been here for six months I've never seen you damn my life. It's like I'm here all the time. Where you working? What department you in like I'll be You don't you don't be where you be high and don't you right? I don't be high. I'll be working here. You work tomorrow Yeah, I do I see tomorrow. You know what I'm saying when you work with a person when you go to school with a person things like that

4:13You can set up future Interactions much easier let things simmer because you don't want to linger around too long in any interaction It makes you look like a creep. So if you work with a girl, you know or go to school with a girl Yo, we got the same class. I'll see you tomorrow, right? Get her name introduce yourself. I'm Shaman Davis. What's your name? Emily nice to meet you Emily. I see tomorrow. I got to get out of here, right? So when you see her tomorrow, that's when you approach her and you yo Emily was going on at familiarity Y'all know each other y'all can embark on another conversation. She might have a jacket on that day But yo, what kind of jacket is that? I'm thinking about getting my my little sister my mom a birthday present That's a pretty fly jacket. She tell you you like man. I don't know nothing about that Where you get it from? Oh, I got it from this store. Oh, look That ain't really my thing if look I'm gonna give you my number send me like a jacket like that and another one or something like that And I get it order from my mom, right? Give you a number You making those connections you're making that next step much easier to consume if you just walk up to a girl like give me your number

5:19That may work in some cases that overvalidate and may work in some cases that straight forwardness may work in some cases I like to make people feel comfortable. I like to ease things in now. I do take risk, right? I know when to jump outside the box most of the time. I'm you know, I'm saying I'm jabbing. I'm filling you out You know, I'm saying but when I hit I hit you know, I'm saying I know I know how to read people I set myself up for opportunities to be able to read people I experiment a lot so I can read people and that's what gives me the power To do what I do All right, so you didn't already made a connection with this girl You polite you exuding that energy y'all on the first name basis You know, I'm saying you you got to ask the right questions so you can know who this person is and what they like what you don't want to do It's gonna be an interview. Yo, so what's your name? Where you're from? How much you weigh? You know, you don't want to do that. It comes off as just robotic you want to flow ask a question Most of the time you know, I'm saying something open ended and kind of personal so that they will speak about it

6:23So you can make them expound on everybody likes talking about what they love they eyes light up when they do so So keep expounding. Yo, you like ice cream. You know, I'm saying you're at the ice cream shit I love ice cream. What's your favorite ice cream? Or like this man, that's disgusting what you don't like mint chocolate chip Mint chocolate chip is disgusting. Well, I love mint chocolate chip. It's this and that cookies and cream way better I don't like cookies and cream. Well, but a Picon is way better. No, it's not mint chocolate is a bad. Well look if If you think mint chocolate is the best I Will try right? Only if you pay for it, okay? Only if you pay for Well, I'm not gonna do well, I'm not trying it. It's like I'm telling you could literally tea that was that was more of a teasing example You could throw in so many different analogies, right? Or if if I try in this bad you got to buy me butter picon You got to buy me my favorite ice cream, right? You could even you got to buy me my favorite ice cream for a week You could throw in all these little wages in these moments of teasing and all this stuff, right?

7:29And then we'll hit it will bring humor it will bring life it will bring all these things to the conversation You steadily making moves, but when you go in with a plan when you go in when a goal you can work towards that If I go take a gun go outside and just shoot boom boom boom boom boom boom boom and then they're like, yo, what's your hit? You're like, I don't know It was like well you need to fix your aim aim at what though When I put that target out there you shoot a little bit to the left move to the right a little bit A little bit to the right move back a little bit left dead in the middle That's how it goes man That's how it goes, but what you can take away from that is make sure That you are presentable make sure you look good no crusty no musty we're not doing not of that Okay, make sure your posture is good make sure you're confident your your Appearance should exude confidence right then when you meet this girl you want to be polite You don't want to overdown overvalidator. You don't want to be too straightforward

8:30Like I said, I'm an opportunist. I like to use relative objects people and stuff like that to help spark a conversation Because you know, I'm saying some people just don't have Conversations skills some people just don't have really anything to talk about so you have to go external with it You know, I'm saying that makes things a lot easier on you don't ask too many questions Acts you write questions you want to build a connection as soon as possible and Spark interest as soon as possible and you want to get out of there as soon as possible When you get the number when you get what you want yo look I got to get out of here You know, I'm sorry. I'll see you later and leave it at that show that you have value. You don't linger around You don't you don't have to take up someone's time or you're not lonely, okay? And then always I cannot stress this enough Always set up the next interaction Sometimes I used to leave bracelets with people or yo, let me get let me get this little bracelet You know, I'm saying you you can get it back when I see you again That's more so when you get on a more personal level unless it's just like that off the rev or I see you tomorrow at school

9:32Or you know, I'm saying I see it work tomorrow Anything like that like yo, you want to walk the class tomorrow anything like that? Sit yourself up for another inner action Okay, and if you do all those things and you practice above all the more you practice the more you do it the more comfortable you'll get The more easier you'll realize that it is because we're humans, bro at the end of the day and we're meant to communicate with everybody So do it my prayer. I Love y'all man join the tribe if you knew subscribe to the channel because why not? And I catch y'all folks later