
How Resentment Destroys Intimacy, and 3 Steps to Repair It
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Is there a disagreement with your partner that you are still hanging onto? Is the lingering resentment getting in the way of your love? Today Robert and Sharla are talking about resentment – and providing you with three simple steps to overcome it.
Just like the pile of junk in your basement that starts to build up as your clutter gets pushed out of sight for convenience's sake, so too does resentment accumulate, just waiting for you to trip over it in the dark, and start another argument with your loved one.
Resentment can blind you to what you really want – peace, love, and harmony, plus all the other good stuff that often lies just on the other side of overcoming that resentment. But how do we do it? What does a relationship spring clean look like?
The answers lie inside in this absorbing episode of Master Your Marriage, where Robert and Sharla shine a torch on that resentment clutter in your basement and help you to clean it up in three easy steps!
"Resentment is this multi-layered emotion and it can consist of many other emotions, like anger, disappointment, hurt, and sometimes even disgust." ~ Sharla Snow
"When we are in resentment, we actually withhold intimacy from each other." ~ Robert Snow
In This Episode:
- Why resentment is like taking poison – and hoping the other person dies
- Why small conversations are better than no conversations
- The value in paying attention to your negative emotions
- Questioning your own emotional maturity and asking if you have a constant need to be right
- How resentment impairs our ability to sleep and focus
- What do I want instead? What lies on the other side of your resentment?
- Focus on what you want: shifting to gratitude
And so much more!
Resources:
- 8 Pillars Of An Exceptional Marriage - https://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/8-pillars
- Link to the MYM 8-Week Coaching Program - https://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/MYM423
- Book - Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience (Harper Perennial Modern Classics): Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi: 9780061339202: Amazon.com - https://www.amazon.com/Flow-Psychology-Experience-Perennial-Classics/dp/0061339202
Connect with Robert and Sharla Snow:
- Website: http://masteryourmarriagepodcast.com/
- Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/masteryourmarriage/
- Facebook - http://facebook.com/masteryourmarriage
- TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@masteryourmarriage
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