Dr. Unnatti Jain: Helping Your Teenager Through a High-Conflict Divorce

Teenagers are old enough to understand a divorce and not yet equipped to carry it. That gap is where a lot of quiet damage happens. In this episode, certified parenting coach Dr. Unnatti Jain, author of *A Parent Teen Journey*, joins Lisa to talk about a single shift: moving from control to connection.

They look honestly at how a high-conflict separation shows up in a teenager's life, in grades, behavior, and mental health, and how it lands differently from puberty to college. Dr. Jain is direct about loyalty conflicts and why bad-mouthing backfires, makes the case for emotional availability and doing your own inner work, and unpacks the "language of silence" of a withdrawn teen. She explains why coaching, forward-looking rather than problem-diagnosing, can reach adolescents who resist therapy, and closes on the quiet danger of emotional neglect.

This is strategic education, not clinical advice for your specific situation.

✅ WHAT YOU'LL LEARN
 ✅ How a high-conflict divorce shows up in a teenager's grades, behavior, and mental health
 ✅ Why the impact differs from puberty to college age
 ✅ The "control to connection" shift that changes everything
 ✅ How loyalty conflicts trap kids, and why bad-mouthing backfires
 ✅ Why emotional availability matters most when it's hardest
 ✅ Why doing your own inner work reaches your teen more than any lecture
 ✅ The "language of silence," and how to read a withdrawn teenager
 ✅ Why coaching can reach teens who resist therapy

⏱️ TIMESTAMPS (+1:00 for the bumper)
 0:00 Intro
 1:00 How divorce lands on teenagers
 5:09 The real impact on children and teens
 18:18 Loyalty conflicts, and why bad-mouthing backfires
 27:23 Coaching to reconnect with a withdrawn teen
 32:49 The quiet danger of emotional neglect

CTA (spoken): Watching your teenager struggle through your divorce? Book a free discovery call at beentheregotout.com.
 Books: When Your Ex Turns the Kids Against You — https://www.amazon.com/Been-There-Got-Out-Against/dp/1967674183 · Been There Got Out — https://www.amazon.com/Been-There-Got-Relationships-Circumstances/dp/194627495X/
 Tags: teenagers and divorce, helping teens, parenting teens, loyalty conflict, emotional availability, control to connection, gen z, co-parenting, high conflict divorce