Healing Your Mind, Body & Spirit

0:00Hello beautiful ones, welcome to the Healing Her podcast, a sacred place where we talk all things healing mind, body, spirit and soul. My name is Megs, I am the host of this gorgeous podcast and I am so grateful to have you here listening along to all the goodness today. Before we get cracking on to this next episode, it is important to note I am not a medical doctor or professional neuropsychologist or doctor of any kind. I share my stories, experiences and information as information only and also no medical or professional advice whatsoever. If you need medical and or mental health support, please contact your health professional. I am a nutritionist and a health coach and I speak from that place at times but mostly I come from a place of being a woman, having lived and learned and navigated a lot in this life so far and I continue to live and learn and share in the hope that it may be helpful to others in their healing journey. This entire podcast comes from the heart

1:03and a place of love and I hope you can feel that as you listen along. My wish for you beautiful soul is love, abundance, healing, peace and joy. So let's get cracking on into this next beautiful episode which is all about healing our beautiful mind, body and spirit authentically and honestly and for the most part imperfectly. For most of my life I believed being healed meant that I had to be happy all the time. Being thin, fabulous and the perfect ideal look and weight was all about appearances, my outside self that everyone else could see, not my inside self that was really important and true to me. I have like many other women being on a plethora of diets over the years and I have fitted myself into circles I didn't belong to. I was funny, I was kind, I bent over back with others to ensure everyone around me was comfortable, happy and looked

2:04after and a lot of the time at the sacrifice of myself not being happy, healthy and looked after and comfortable. And unfortunately for women in this life and with everything that social media projects, everything that's on the news, everything that is portrayed to us is that we should be these things, we should be perfect, we should be thin, we should be happy, we should sit down and shut up and we should be happy with our lot of life. But do all the things and tick all the boxes at society says we should be, well I call bullshit on that. And even as I got older, is still meant, healing still meant to me being perfect, eating a certain way, looking a certain way, thinking a certain way and being a certain way. Again, all of it for outside purposes and for other people, not myself. And I'm going to call bullshit on that too. I now know for me, healing is being true to myself, embracing

3:08and loving my true self, accepting my past with grace and living in the now, the moment, forgiving past versions of myself that perhaps did or said the wrong things, particularly in my teens and my 20s and even into my 30s. I guess I reacted and did things with the tools or lack thereof at the time. But that version of me, she did the best she could with what she had, or like I said, or more likely did not have. So we don't need to carry any of that with us anymore. If we didn't send things, it's a massive part of our healing is forgiving past versions of our self, I believe. And it's tough. There's a lot of work right there, but such a vital element of healing oneself, I think. And not hiding or avoiding painful memories or situations that occur through life or from past memories that pop up, but sitting with them and giving them my time, grace and rest, feeling, feeling into my vulnerability, not giving into it

4:11and stepping away and ignoring. I now know that nourishing and hydrating and moving my body is so vital and important to my whole body healing, minding my mind and tending to my physical and mental health needs, vital, living my life according to my values, loves and desires, magical. Being true to who I really am, I now know that healing is not a neat and tidy finished job to check off my to-do list, but it's ongoing ebbs and flows with the knowing I could work through anything. And this is one important message I would like to put out there today is that knowing that healing isn't a complete job, we're always going to be on this journey to some degree. But being able to work with the difficult times, being able to work with the past, going with the flow, the ebbs and the flows, knowing that sometimes life's going to be all for

5:12and hard and not easy. And then also knowing that it then turns around to be absolutely wonderful and incredible and inspiring and awesome and then the flow goes back to being not so great again, but knowing that we can work through these times is so important. It's healing and life is not perfect, it's quite often messy and knowing that that is okay is part of getting through this or moving through this. If you fall, if you stumble, if you end up in a pile, know that you can pick yourself up, dust yourself off and get back into your beautiful messy and perfect authentic abundant life that I for one and so grateful for. I am so grateful for the incredible healing or inspiring body that I get. For so many years I punished her so badly with ridiculous diets and exercises and spoke to my beautiful mind so poorly telling myself I was not worthy,

6:18not enough, stupid, too fat, not smart enough, not talented. Now I love on her so hard, I am so grateful for all the healing that my body does 24-7. Our bodies are just constantly trying to heal us, constantly taking care of us and I've learned to be grateful for that and I've learned to help her heal. Magical when you get to that place and I know it's difficult from everything we've been told from parents, school, society, social media, the news, TV, magazines, books, we're constantly told we're not enough, but the fact that you are here on this planet as you are is proof that you are more, more than enough, that you are more than worthy, you are uniquely you. There is no one else on this planet that is you and all that you are that in itself beauty says that you are more than enough that you are worthy, abundant and powerful

7:22and in charge of your life. So for me I stopped doing what I thought I had to do to heal my mind, body and spirit and I started to listen. So beautiful woman listening to my podcast right now start listening, pay attention, I mean truly listen to your body, listen to what she's telling you with symptoms and signs and feelings, pay attention to what she needs and wants. I mean truthfully being a Virgo I love a great listen a good plan and I love a good daily routine, I love being organised, I love knowing what I'm going to do every day, it is definitely the Virgo at me, I love a plan, I love to know what I'm doing, however when I mess up and I see a well off my plan, my list, I know now I can pick it back up when I pick it up, back up, I don't stress about the fact that I missed a few healthy eating days or if I missed a few meditations or a few walks, I just get going again and again and again, back into my journey,

8:23back into my life because I know life happens, things happen and I know and I believe everything is always working out for me, even if there are things that happen that I don't prefer, I truly believe that, I believe things that are challenging and difficult and conflicting and all those things, they're here for a reason, a season or a lesson and if we can slip into that with a grateful heart and think okay this is something I do not prefer, this is something that makes me uncomfortable, frustrated, angry, we need to sit with it and think okay what is a silver lining here or what is the message here, what is the lesson here so that I can then push through this, work through this and get to the other side, back into my beautiful, beautiful, messy life. So how did I authentically heal her and how do we authentically heal her, you, your beautiful body, mind and spirit? Firstly I think we really need to figure out who the

9:28we are is now, who are we authentically, what matters to us, what do we value, how do we want to show up each day, how do we want to feel, how do we want to feel, love, learn and be, ask ourselves these questions, lean into those questions, figure out who you are, for me I have been notorious in the past for writing out the perfect daily plan, the perfect diet, the perfect exercise regime, ordering a ton of supplements, equipment, you name it, I've tried it and usually never finishing or completing any of it, because that wasn't my authentic self ordering all those things, they were the me thinking this is what I should do to heal my body, mind and spirit. Being able to look now and say okay, I can and will fit in for walks a week, I will use that gym membership, but only two days a week, I will listen to a meditation every morning in my car

10:32on the way to work, I don't have to listen to an hour every single day knowing what you authentically can, will and want to do is so important in the process of healing her. So I decided to heal my mind, body and spirit, knowing what I already know with what I already had and just what I could do each day, there was never a perfect day, it was perfectly imperfect, there was no grand plan, expectations or pressure, just started to heal my body and my mind and my spirit, one day at a hot time with whole body healing practices. So now let me be clear, I did make a list because I love me a list, I did have a process and a list and a routine and habits I wanted to do every day, but if I didn't get every single thing done on that list each day, I didn't beat myself up, I didn't shame myself, I did what I could when I could, shaming ourselves or putting ourselves

11:34into healing or health does not work, deprivation does not work, it just makes us really unhappy. So knowing what our core values are really helps, knowing how we want to live out our life and our day and how we want to feel and be is so important to first of all getting those routines, habits and lists together and then knowing that if you don't do it each day you haven't failed, you haven't let yourself down, you just do what you can do that day and then you do more the next day, less of the next day, it is how you heal authentically, doing what we can do when we can do it. So let's start at the beginning, I think we truly need to know where we're at when we start, so in the in the aim of being truly authentic, for me I found myself in my early 50s really

12:36quite unwell. My asthma was at its worst after managing it for years, my blood oxygen levels dipped dangerously low for periods when I slept, I woke multiple times during the night due to this, therefore I woke tired in the mornings, my body ate those strange pains I'd never felt before, I felt heavy, lethargic and slow. I was drinking way too much, I was exercising way too little and or hardly at all to be honest and I had every excuse to support my lack of movement and I was out of breath for walking upstairs, my hormones were all over the place, my diet was okay but again I made excuses when I ate poorly. I felt flat and there most days and my mental health was really suffering, old patterns were rearing that ugly head to be honest, I was not in a good space, I found myself after years of being mostly healthy and well, looking after myself and feeling my best, to feeling a red hot mess, now be clear I'm not shaming myself here, I don't do that to myself anymore, I wanted to be honest about where I started,

13:41I was making myself sick and probably feeding illness and disease rather than fighting it, so being honest with where you are at, not shaming yourself, where are you at right now and where do you want to be, honestly truly where do you want to be and how do you want to feel, so being brutally honest with ourselves is vital, not shaming, not guilty, just being honest, for me I knew at that point I had to truly start healing myself, I knew I knew how, I knew my body knew how and I knew it had to be now before I created something I possibly couldn't repair, to be brutally honest with you I was probably pretty scared, I need to be here for my children for a long long time, that's not negotiable, I need to be here for my children, my plan is also to travel our beautiful country as much and as often as possible with my darling husband, writing, exploring, going on adventures, this is not negotiable, this is not something I'm willing to compromise on, so I need my body and my mind to be healthy, thriving and well,

14:44so I needed to come up with something that wasn't all or nothing, that if I missed something it was all over, it had to be sustainable, so this is my process that I'm about to launch into and it's purely that it's my process, if you find anything here of interest or it's helpful and you think it could be helpful in your healing journey that is amazing, your healing journey is unique to you, to your beautiful mind, body and spirit, I want you to know before I launch into the things that I was doing that you are worthy, you are deserving, you are more than enough, excuse me, you are powerful and you are in charge of your life, you have the power to create your reality, you really really do claim, you have the power to heal her and I want that for you so much, what I'm about to talk to you are things that I did most days and how my day looked when my journey

15:46really started after feeling this way in my early 50s and how I really started to hear my mind body and spirit, some days I did absolutely everything on the list I'm about to read to you and some days I did some things and just what I could manage, some days I did nothing and that was okay, it took around 30 days to be honest to make things stick as a habit and before I started to actually feel myself again and I was reclaiming my health and my healing, in my book healing her I've included two pages, this chapter of how I healed my mind body and spirit and there are two pages where I talk briefly about the benefits of each holistic healing practice I incorporated into my process, I'm not going to go into them here because that will blow out the podcast so long what I might do is do another podcast probably tomorrow and talk more about all the benefits of each healing practice I did and because I talk about supplements in here so maybe tomorrow I will

16:50talk about the benefits of those also this is just to tell you how my day looked during this healing process and what I did and then tomorrow or another podcast I will elaborate more about the benefits so first of all I wanted to create a list of a few a handful of things were non-negotiable that I had to do each and every day so that was stick I did them for 30 days so here's the first little part of my healing journey for mind body and spirit okay first thing I said no to things that weren't in alignment with my life that end that I did not want to do without guilt without being apologetic about it I said no when I wanted to say no next I said yes to all the things I wanted to try and do even if they were pushing me outside of my comfort zone or I thought a little bit uncomfortable about if I actually wanted to try them I'll do them I said yes next I told someone

17:57if I liked or loved their hair shoes dress smile laugh if I walked past a woman on the street and I thought she looked beautiful for whatever reason I stopped and I told her period it felt really weird at first and challenging but it made in my day as much as it probably made the person's day I smiled at everyone I walked past period I interrupted negative thoughts with a question why is this making me angry frustrating upset does this really affect me so if I started to let if old limiting self belief started to creep in I would say stop no why are you saying this to yourself what is going on for you right now how is this going to help you this does not help you so I interrupted any negative self talk immediately I slipped in feelings of gratitude as often as I could each day if someone did me a kindness or someone smiled at me I would be so grateful for that I did random acts of kindness wherever possible I got fresh air as often as I could I got up

19:01from my desk if I was working and went outside and would take 10 deep breaths and just get fresh air as often as I possibly could I got my bare feet in the ground as often as possible on the graph on the sand in the dirt pulling up as much energy from the earth as I possibly could I didn't complain this one's powerful I didn't complain or say anything negative at all for 30 days and it's kind of stuck now I didn't say anything I didn't complain about my day how I was feeling what someone else didn't do about my work nothing I did not complain or say anything negative particularly about myself so powerful I reflected on everything I was grateful for every day in my life my home my office my plants my family my chickens anything I felt grateful for I just gave gratitude for as much as I possibly could each and every day and I showed thanks and appreciation for all the kindnesses shown to me again so powerful to acknowledge and see when someone is paying

20:07you a kindness and feel truly grateful for that absolutely magical now again before I get into how my actual list looked and what I did this I researched all the benefits of each thing and I that I wanted and that's why I've put it into my process my protocol my day some of these things may resonate for you some of these things may not and that's perfect then as I said I'm not going to elaborate on the benefits of each thing I will do that in a separate podcast otherwise I'll be rambling on to you for hours so look forward to that and check into that podcast tomorrow okay so on waking this is my healing her mind body spirit process list have what do you want to call it on waking before I even get out of bed I would say to myself something along the lines of today is a great day I'm full of energy I feel great today something wonderful will happen I am

21:08so blessed and grateful for everything in my life and all I have and everything coming to me then I do some ankle and wrist circles five times each way and a full fingertip to toe full body stretch oh my god feels amazing that's before I even get out of bed then on rising I will oil pull for five to ten minutes then I'll have a large glass of warm water with lemon juice slices of ginger and I would fill my two one liter water bottles to rinse throughout the day and take a probiotic any supplements I talk about here that I take and I only take the best I will talk about tomorrow in tomorrow's podcast if you have any interest in sourcing top quality products those supplements I then would make my health tonic this health tonic I prepare a week of these on a Sunday so I can just grab and drink each morning it's like a little shot I pour the mixture into jars and the store in the fridge for ease of having each day this is an energy boosting

22:12inflammation fighting just health and wellness blaster of a tonic it is incredible more about that tomorrow then I would meditate for ten to fifteen minutes and I would do a ten to fifteen minutes stretch I would do some box breathing outside for five minutes bare feet on the ground morning sunlight in my eyes I would then come in and have a ball of proof coffee from there I would fast until lunchtime more and fasting tomorrow 15 to 30 minutes before I eat I would have a tablespoon of apple cider vinegar in a little water and around 12 12 30 if I'm at home I would make a lunch something along the lines of three boiled eggs a cup of mushrooms cooked in a little butter half an avocado a cup of greens skipper cottage cheese a big skipper kimchi a little bit of crumble feta on top and lots and lots of herbs from my garden and if I was going to work or I was out for the day I would pack that up for ease of eating now my daily health healing practices

23:16on top of those other ones I mentioned earlier these ones I would fit in either before work or before I make dinner so if you like any of these healing practices and would like to incorporate them into your journey you might not you see them in where they fit in for you beautiful like it might be fasting and longing it might be after lunch it might be after dinner or before you go bit whenever this is before work I'll be sorry after work or before I make dinner is when I do them so this is what I would do another listen on negotiables but if I didn't do them I didn't punish shame or guilt myself so I would walk for 30 minutes and I do another five to ten minute body stretch and do a two minute health jump on a mini train more about that tomorrow very important one to three times a week I do ten fifteen minutes of weights I do five to ten minutes of focused breathing practices and I have a 20 to 30 minutes sauna every day plus a seven step

24:17lymphatic drainage routine in my sauna which is another vital part of healing our body more about that tomorrow and I would do a two minute body brush before a shower of bath if I had a bath it would be a magnesium bath and in the bath I would have some positive affirmations or in the shower things such as I am worthy I am strong I am smart I am beautiful I love my life everything is always working out for me I expect miracles I love my hard working body and I'm so grateful for everything she does for me I am love so that they are the the health healing practices I would do every day then for dinner 15 to 30 minutes before I had dinner I would have another tablespoon of apple cider vinegar and little water and dinner would mostly be two hundred to two fifty grams of a protein usually chicken fish or beef I would have one to two cups of colorful veggies things like sweet potato capsicum radish pumpkin beetroot asparagus broccoli cauliflower whatever I had in the fridge really I would have a big cup of greens and herbs from my garden I would have

25:23half a cup of beans or legumes and a big scoop of kimchi and maybe a bit more federal or whatever on top if I felt like it if I was still hungry later I'd have herbal tea with a half a cup of wild blueberries a chocolate your date and some coconut yogurt now in the evenings and of course I would make sure I consumed at least those two water bottles I mentioned in the beginning sometimes I would feel that with means with ginger with lemon with lime some fruit whatever I had but I would make sure I drank at minimum those two full liter water bottles I would also add a little bit of Celtic salt to my water bottles I'll talk more about that tomorrow as well so in the evenings I would do 15 to 30 minutes of self-care and self-love and whether that involved journaling reading listen to a podcast having a herbal tea and dark chocolate treat in my space with some candles just having some me and downtime whether I would meditate listen to music

26:28whatever I felt I needed I gave myself that treat 15 to 30 minutes every single night and it might simply be just having a cup of tea in my space with some dark chocolate and just closing my eyes and debriefing the day it could be as simple as that I also taken magnesium supplement and omega-3 a D3 a multivitamin and mineral so important to our health now I failed to mention before my biggest meal whether it be lunch or dinner I do take a GPR one supplement hear me out it is not pharmaceuticals it is not injections it is not an exemplique that has some pretty serious side effects I know that works really well for some people it is not for me this is a natural nutritional supplement I'm so excited to talk more about that tomorrow so stay tuned for that it is a natural supplement that works naturally with your body so I failed to mention that before so we'll talk about more about more about that tomorrow wonderful supplement

27:33now then I would this is still in the evening I would balance on my leg on one leg while brushing my teeth to practice balance vital as we get older we'll talk more about that tomorrow also and I'll just swap balance on one leg each time for the two minutes while I brush my teeth my sleep routine consists of no screen two hours before bed no food two to three hours before bed really important topic we'll talk about that tomorrow too ensuring our room is a good temperature is dark our sheets of clean bed is comfy I'd rain dump on paper if I need to take some deep breaths leg up the wall for five minutes I have a lavender plant by my bed I also have a journal by my bed quite often I will go to bed and I will ask my angels universe a question I need answers to and hope that it comes to me in my dreams and if it does I can write that straight down in the morning um my that is pretty much my routine uh on how I started to heal my mind body spirit like I said

28:34I have a lot of health benefits coming up tomorrow why I've included them what the benefits are to all those holistic practices and the supplements um my biggest message to you today I think is that when we start this journey or perhaps you've already on your journey is just acknowledging a where we are actually at in our lives uh who we are authentically what is important to us what are our values how do we live our life how do we want to live our life what do we want not what not what others want for us not what we should do what do we want in our one precious life as I mentioned before you are a unique one-off beautiful human being there is no one in this planet in this world that is that is exactly you and all that you are so that in itself oh my goodness my dog sorry part of me that in itself says how incredibly and utterly worthy you are um you are so

29:38important so worthy of everything so enough you hold the power to your life you can manifest your wildest dreams I believe that you can change your life for the better you can change and live your life the way you want it it all starts with leaning into our authenticity our vulnerability not running away from uh big scary moments not or challenges or changes are not ignoring our past but just sitting with it and not punishing ourselves it's another big one don't we cannot oh my goodness we cannot punish hate or hurt ourselves into healing and health I learned that the hard way uh you can't do that the only way to heal and be your healthiest true self is through love love love love love love love for your beautiful beautiful self I want this for you with my whole entire heart um thank you so much for listening along today

30:44I know that that this has been a bit of a rambling one I know that um and now there's a postman I don't interrupting my thoughts just leave it there uh oh my goodness I'm so sorry very just very discombobulated at the end of this healing I just goodness gracious well here's here we go here's a challenging moment my dog is barking his brains off I just got a delivery over my fence it totally took away my train of thought I could have been really embarrassed and stop this podcast but you know what that's life shit happens so I'm going to talk through it I can't even remember where I'm up to but I remember telling you that you are wonderful important and powerful and it is so true so I'm going to end that here and I want to thank you very much for listening along today and I hope this has helped you in some way if you loved it I would love um you to come along tomorrow and listen tomorrow is healing her podcast I'll go back and listen to some others I

31:46hope there's some goodness in there for you somewhere if you know anyone that this podcast could assist please feel free to share it is all about sharing the love and the goodness with everybody for more healing her goodness you can check out my website meganwindows.com.au M-E-G-A-N-W-I-N-D-E-R-S .com.au you will also find my beautiful book that has just launched in January this year healing her all the goodness is in there such a beautiful beautiful pretty book I'm so happy and I would love you to check that out as well or head over to my socials my Facebook is healing her my insta is at we are dot healing her so check those out if there is a topic you would like me to cover please reach out I would love to help in any way I can um and I will see you in the next episode beauty thank you so thank you so much for listening along here's to healing her bye have a great day