Foster SIBLINGS informed my son that we are not CONSIDERED as RELATIVES, so

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1:04Jack who was 8 and Liam who was 5. From the beginning, it was clear that things were going to be tough. Jack came with severe behavioral issues due to some intense trauma. I'll spare the details but it was significant. I tried my hardest to be understanding but living with him was nothing short of exhausting. His outbursts were constant and I often felt like I was walking on eggshells terrified of setting him off. As we grew older, I continued to try to be there for Jack despite everything. A few years ago, Jack fell into a devastating drug addiction. I stood by him through his darkest moments, supporting him through rehab, and doing everything I could to help him get back on his feet. It was draining and heartbreaking but I did it because I loved him and believed that despite our challenges, we were still brothers. Liam, on the other hand, was always easier to get along with and I formed a closer bond with him, but even so, I always felt like an outsider.

2:04Jack and Liam's bond as biological siblings was undeniable and I never quite felt like I was truly a part of it. It was like I was always on the edge looking in, trying to be included but never fully accepted. The situation came to a head recently at a Sunday dinner at my parents' house. My son was working on his summer homework which involved creating a family tree. He innocently asked Jack if he wanted to be included and Jack just flat out said no, he didn't want to be a part of it because in his exact words were not real brothers. He said it so casually, like it was the most obvious thing in the world with no regard for how much it would cut me to the core. I was utterly stunned, but what shattered me even more was that Liam, who I've always felt closer to, just sat there in silence. He didn't say a word, he didn't defend me or even acknowledge how hurtful Jack's words were. He just let it happen. I've tried so hard to be supportive of both of them, especially Jack despite the endless challenges, so for Jack to say that and for Liam to do

3:08nothing felt like it got punch. It was as if they were both telling me in no uncertain terms that I was never truly part of their family. In my pain and frustration, I decided to uninvite both Jack and Liam from my wedding. My fiancé has been nothing but supportive of my decision, but my parents are furious. They've made it clear that if Jack and Liam aren't invited, they won't attend either. It feels like history is repeating itself with my parents once again prioritizing Jack over me no matter how much it hurts me. I'm absolutely heartbroken that my parents would choose to miss my wedding rather than support me in this. I know Jack has been through a lot, but I've done everything I can to be there for him and for Liam despite all the heartache, and now I feel like I'm the one being punished for finally standing up for myself and setting some boundaries. Am I the for uninviting my brothers after they said they don't see me as family even if it means my parents won't come to my wedding? No. OP, in my opinion, you are not the

4:10you mentioned you were 12 when they became a part of your family and now you're 32. That's 20 years of sharing your life with them and they still feel that you're not their brother, and it was also pretty mean with your son. I mean, I don't know how old is your son, but I'm pretty sure you've told him all his life that these are his uncles, your brothers, and then for him to just tell your son that no, basically we're not family, we're not related. You've seen me all your life, but whatever. Yeah, I think that's kind of like in a whole move. And your parents, well, they take the cake, man. I'm just going to assume that when you guys were kids, your parents had different parenting rules for the three of you. Maybe out of fear of possibly traumatizing Jack by saying no or something like that, they never parented him correctly, turning him into some golden child or something. And on honestly, if I was in your shoes, I would say fine, then you guys aren't coming either. End of story. Again, OP. No, not the A-hole. And what do you guys think?

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7:23Cigarettes after sex says, not the A-hole. It's your wedding. You should have people there that love and support you. I hope you and your fiance have the best day and I hope your son doesn't take those frankly rude comments to heart. And Dragon Scribner says, you gee, I'm sorry, OP. That really sucks. I wouldn't invite your entire immediate family and make 100% sure they know why it's happening. That you love and have supported them only for them to make you feel like an outsider. And it's now time for you to prioritize your own well-being in the family you've made over your parents and adopted brothers. You need to go no contact or low contact with them all and, honestly, keep them away from your kid or kids. They're clearly not hesitant to speak poorly of you to your son and that's not cool. Be kind to yourself, OP family isn't all about blood and sometimes the family we choose, find, or make is the family we really need, not the A-hole.

8:24Additional information from OP's comments. I have always got on better with Liam even though I do still feel like an outsider compared to them too, which is probably because they're biological brothers who have the shared trauma. I still feel really hurt by Liam not saying anything, but my main issue is with my parents and Jack. I'm going to talk to Liam later. I don't blame them or him for his drug addiction. Jack and Liam had truly horrible things happen to them both as children. Stuff I won't get into here, but you can understand it was the type of stuff that leaves lifelong scars on you even with the therapy they've gone through. One time, Jack spoke to me about how when he's high on drugs, it's the only time in his entire life where he doesn't constantly remember and only time he ever feels at peace. Obviously, I shouldn't be the one who is constantly picking up the pieces of him, but I can 100% understand why he got into drugs. He's still in a hole though. Jack's comment was only the catalyst for the argument that happened.

9:26And, yes, there would have been no issues with Jack being included in the family tree. My son is five and just wanted to show off what he was doing. I have never said anything to plant an idea that they aren't my brothers. My son doesn't even know they're adopted, not because it's something we hide, it just hasn't ever been something we really discuss as a family. So the community judged OP to not be the A-hole and basically the parents are the huge A-holes here and Jack is also in a hole. Also, OP reiterated how close he is with Liam and how surprised he was by his behavior so he's going to talk to him. Now let's move on to the update to see how this story end. I'm honestly still reeling from everything that's gone down since my last post. First off, thank you to everyone who took the time to comment. I've read through all your advice and it's been a lifeline, but buckle up because things have taken a wild turn. After hearing from so many of you, I decided I needed to talk to Liam.

10:28We met up at a pub and I just laid it all out there. I told him how hurt I was when he didn't say anything after Jack made that awful comment about not being real brothers. I was half expecting him to defend himself but what I got was something entirely different. Liam confessed that he's been living in fear of Jack for years. He told me he kept quiet that night because he was terrified of setting Jack off and not because he agreed with him. Then he dropped a bombshell. Despite being Jack's biological brother, he's felt just as much of an outsider in our family as I have. The constant pressure from our parents to cater to Jack's every whim has worn him down too. Liam assured me that he's always seen me as his brother and that he regrets not standing up for me sooner. Hearing that was a huge relief. He's completely on my side now and we agreed that if Jack can't respect me as a brother, he has no place at my wedding or in our lives. But just when I thought things couldn't get more intense, my parents decided to make everything worse. I sat them down and explained why I

11:33uninvited Jack hoping they'd understand. Instead, they threw down their ultimatum. If Jack isn't invited, they're not coming to my wedding. No room for discussion. No empathy. Just flat out refusal. I was gutted. After all these years of putting Jack's needs above mine, this is how they repay me. I couldn't hold back anymore. I let out all the anger and frustration I've been bottling up for years. I told them how I've always been the one sacrificing, how they've always prioritized Jack, and that I was done being treated like I don't matter. I made it clear that if they choose not to come to my- Tyler Reddick here from 2311 Racing. Another checkered flag for the books. Time to celebrate with Chamba. Jump in at chambacasino.com. Let's Chamba. No purchase necessary. BTW Group, voidware prohibited by mall, CCNC, 21 plus sponsored by Chamba Casino. When you manage procurement for multiple facilities, every order matters. But when it's for

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13:34life blaming everyone else for his problems and I've been his favorite scapegoat. This time, though, I'm not letting him guilt trip me. I didn't even respond, I just blocked his number. If he can't see what he's done wrong, then there's nothing more to say. Liam was livid when I told him about Jack's messages. He's more determined than ever to support me and we've decided to go low contact with our parents until after the wedding. Liam's been a rock through all of this, helping me with the wedding plans and making sure I'm not dealing with this mess alone. So the wedding is still happening, but with a much smaller guest list. My parents haven't reached out since our argument, and at this point, I don't care if they show up or not, this day is about me and my fiance, and I'm not letting anyone, not even my own family, ruin it. Thank you again for all your support and advice. I'll keep you posted if anything else happens, though I'm really hoping my next update is just about how amazing the wedding was. Fingers crossed. Well, OP, you're absolutely right.

14:40Your wedding day is about you and your fiance, and it's good that you have Liam by your side. Also, I have to say that it's pretty ironic that Jack blamed you for ripping the family apart considering he says he's not your brother. That's kind of inconsistent, isn't it? Anyway, OP, here's wishing you your fiance and Liam the best in the future. Take care and thanks for sharing. And now let's move on to the next post that also has an update. This post is from the subreddit, Amithiahole, and it's by user key estate 6,764. Amithiahole for refusing to give my brother $200,000 from our parents' inheritance after he got scanned. I, 34 male, recently inherited $400,000 from our parents' estate after they passed away. There was a slight delay in my part in receiving the set amount because of some legal complications. My younger brother, 31 male, received the same amount but just months after their death.

15:43He was swindled out of nearly all his life savings by a shady investment scheme. Now he's asking me to share $200,000 of my inheritance to help him get back on his feet. He argues that our parents would have wanted us to have equal financial standing and that losing his money wasn't his fault. Yeah, right, and that he'd pay me back later. I feel terrible for him, but I don't think it's fair to give up half of my inheritance for a mistake he made no matter how unfortunate. I've been working hard budgeting and planning to use this money for my family's future. If I give him half, it puts my own financial security at risk. My wife supports my decision, but some relatives think I'm being greedy and heartless saying family comes first. Am I the A-hole? No, Opie, you're not the A-hole. You're actually following your family's advice. That family comes first because your family is your wife and kids. The rest is extended family. Also, the fact that your brother probably fell for one of those

16:47get-quick rich schemes, it's just on him. The only person that wins in those scams is the one that makes it up and the only other people I know of that get-rich-quick or politicians that do insider trading. But I digress. Your brother's argument is that your parents would have wanted you both to be on equal financial footing. Well, you were. He got the exact same amount you did but he just lost it because he got scammed and it was his decision. So no, Opie, you're not the A-hole. If the rest of your family feels bad for your brother like I've said before, they can pull their money and help them out themselves. And what is your judgment? Let me know in the comments section and now let's check out the community comments. RaiOne says, if he had taken his $400,000 and immediately doubled it in his investment scheme, would he have given you $200,000 so that you would both have even financial standing like your parents would have wanted? Your parents did provide you with equal financial standing.

17:48What they apparently fell short on is in providing you with equal intellectual standing. Your brother is an idiot for first blowing $400,000 and second thinking it should be your problem. Probably also third for thinking that he's going to take the $200,000 and somehow be able to turn it back into $400,000 so he can pay you back, not the A-hole. Special ex says, did family come first when your brother got his share months before you did? And Opie responds, nope. He told me he was working on something special and was going to be very rich very soon and by a great vacation house where he'd invite us to stay for a week every year. And no, molasses 1939 says, not the A-hole. That's unfortunate. Yet, you guys were getting the same amount as he did. Sorry he got scanned, but it's not your fault or responsibility to give your share. Tell your relatives that if they felt that bad, then they can pull their money together and replace the $200,000. I bet that will shut them up.

18:52Obst it. Wow, this blew up. I didn't think I'd need online strangers to knock sense into me. Also, it's funny how quickly someone can go from calling every hour to a direct block. I called my brother and asked him what exactly happened and told him I'd only give him the money if he told me the truth and only the truth. He told me he invented in a company called Aranco, obviously not the real one, to a chic and paid his deposit of $10,000 the first time where he got back $20,000. Then he began scaling up and always got doubled until a $100,000. He got back a 110K, then he was emboldened and invested $300,000 and was guaranteed $600,000 and the rest is history. He made a police report but had no evidence to share as he withdrew in cash and dealt in cash itself, taking only token receipts which were fake. He kept the previously gotten amount in cash in his house. I only came to know how stupid someone can get. I told them his lack of basic common sense

19:57and greed does not constitute grounds for charity on my part and told them to take better care of the remaining $100,000. He cussed me out and told me I disappointed my parents. As for my relatives, I told them all in the group chat that I'd only match whatever they would pay for my brother and even offered to double it since I was so greedy and I wanted to prove them wrong. Thanks to a legendary commenter who suggested that I love you, I was cussed out there too. LOL, they're all blocked now. They told me the money got into my head. Tyler Reddick here from 2311 Racing. Victory Lane? Yeah, it's even better with Chamba by my side. Race to ChambaCasino.com, let's Chamba. No purchase necessary, VTW Group, void work prohibited by law, CTNCs, 21 plus sponsored by ChambaCasino. If you work in university maintenance, Granger considers you an MVP, because your playbook ensures your arena is always ready for tip-off, and Granger is your trusted partner. Offering the products you need, all in one place, from HVAC and plumbing supplies to lighting and more,

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22:06loans in a car he financed, so he's basically left with nothing. He finally admitted how desperate he is, apologized for not being fully honest earlier and being adduish and cussing the out. He says he realizes he messed up big time. Greed got the better of him and now he's asking for $50,000 instead of the $200,000 promising to pay me back eventually. He even said he'd appreciate whatever help I could offer if I could give the full amount. Yes, I asked him about the previous increments he received. Turns out, he actually invested $350,000. The desperation in his voice was palpable, but honestly, I'm done with him. He wasn't always this reckless or stupid or maybe I was wrong, but the guy I'm dealing with now is a complete mess. Thanks to you all who made me see that. His greed and lack of financial knowledge are his own doing, and I'm not about to bail him out. Lastly, thank you to all of you who took time to help me realize the massive blunder I was about

23:09to commit. You guys saved my finances and quite possibly my life. I'm grateful to all of you. Well, OP, of course, it sucks to be in your brother's position, but he's the one that got himself into it. Like you say, lack of knowledge in finances and greed. What a horrible combination. Anyways, OP, good for you and your family for staying firm. Take care and thank you for sharing. And that's it for today's video. Thank you so much for taking the time to watch it.