Episode 59 - Crisis Doesn't Make an Appointment: A Conversation with a Care Navigator on Why We Need to Pay Attention to "Not Now"

What happens when ADHD meets the complex world of healthcare planning?

In this thought-provoking episode of Grandma Has ADHD, host Jami Shapiro sits down with Brett Frankenberg, founder of Apex Health Advocates, who brings over 30 years of experience as a clinician, executive, and healthcare advocate. Together, they unpack why proactive planning is so challenging for ADHD brains—and why “crisis doesn’t make an appointment.”

From his son’s 18-month insurance battle to helping families navigate care decisions, Brett’s story highlights the emotional and practical chaos that can come when we avoid conversations about aging, health, and the future. Jami and Brett also explore how ADHD’s “now vs. not now” mindset plays a huge role in procrastination, overwhelm, and planning paralysis—and how to get unstuck with compassion, humor, and structure.

Whether you’re a caregiver, an adult child of aging parents, or someone with ADHD struggling to “adult” through healthcare paperwork, this episode is your reminder that planning ahead isn’t just responsible—it’s an act of love.

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