EP37: Stop Chasing Happiness: The Secret to Finding Fulfillment

Join Tess and Christina as they explore the concept of happiness and that it is often misconceived as something to be ‘chased’ or ‘obtained’ through external pieces. They discuss the importance of recognizing happiness as a CHOICE and a state of presence, rather than a destination. They delve deep into the spectrum of emotions that play a part in finding presence over happiness and explore the significance of investing in oneself for true fulfillment. They share personal experiences and explore the themes of gratitude, ego, and the happiness as a choice rather than something to obtain. The conversation emphasizes the significance of emotional processing, nervous system regulation, and practical tools like gratitude journaling and mindfulness practices to cultivate a deeper sense of happiness and fulfillment.

Important Takeaways from Today’s Episode:

• Happiness is often pursued through external achievements, but it is a choice.
• Being present in the moment is crucial for experiencing fulfillment.
• Embracing the full spectrum of emotions allows for deeper joy.
• The hedonic treadmill effect explains why we constantly seek more.
• Investing in oneself is essential for long-term fulfillment.
• Finding joy in small moments can build a happiness muscle.
• Awareness of the ego is important in why we pursue happiness.
• Being present is crucial for experiencing true fulfillment.
• Joy can be found in the process, not just the outcome.
• Practices like meditation and breathwork can enhance presence.
• Nervous system regulation is key to being able to hold presence.
• Gratitude rewires our brain for long-term contentment.
• We have the power to add, edit, or delete elements in our lives for more joy.
• Creating our own happiness is a choice we can make every day.

Important Timestamps from Today’s Episode:

00:00 - The Pursuit of Happiness: A Misguided Journey

02:55 - The Choice of Happiness: Finding Joy in the Present

06:04 - The Spectrum of Emotions: Embracing the Full Experience

08:58 - The Hedonic Treadmill: Understanding the Cycle of Desire

12:00 - Investing in Yourself: The Path to True Fulfillment

15:00 - The Journey of Entrepreneurship: Balancing Hustle and Happiness

18:04 - Delaying Happiness: The Illusion of Future Fulfillment

21:00 - Creating Space for Happiness: The Power of Presence

30:36 - Finding Gratitude in Difficult Moments

31:44 - Understanding the Ego and Its Role

37:07 - Shifting from External Pleasure to Internal Joy

40:06 - The Importance of Being Present

42:15 - Practices for Cultivating Presence

46:15 - Nervous System Regulation and Emotional Processing

52:55 - Gratitude as a Tool for Happiness

53:23 - The Add, Edit, Delete Process for Joy

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If you're wanting to go deeper on your journey and needing more support, this is beautiful work Tess + Christina offer to clients through a variety of ways.

To contact Tess:

IG + TikTok: @herunearthed

website: www.tessrouse.com

To contact Christina:

IG, TikTok + Youtube: @christina.soulempowered

website: www.rootsoflovecoaching.ca