
EP 242: Why It's Hard for Your Kid to Take Responsibility
About this episode
You ask your child what happened, and before you can finish the sentence, they’re already saying, “It wasn’t my fault!”
Sound familiar?
I know this is SO frustrating! But there’s a reason this is so hard, and it has everything to do with (of course!) the brain and nervous system.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- Why taking responsibility is an Owl brain skill that depends on reflection, regulation, and cause-and-effect thinking
- How Watchdog and Possum states block the ability to reflect and instead create defensive, blame-shifting language
- Simple ways to grow your child’s capacity for responsibility through connection, regulation, and safety, not shame
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- All About Me workbook ($15 download on my website or FREE with your Club membership)
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