
Ep. 116: Why does my child demand constant attention? Friday Q&A
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My four-year-old is relentless in their demand for constant attention. But especially when I’m doing something like checking a text message, watching something on my phone, or talking to someone else- even just their dad! If I don’t pay attention immediately, he freaks out. How do I get this under control?
In this episode, I:
- Reassure you that the need for connection is totally normal!
- Describe the neurobiology processes that make a lack of connection feel like danger
- Recommend resources for how to help your child be able to tolerate disconnection
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