Dua That Protects You from Zina | Omar Suleiman

0:00I bear witness that Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala is alone in being worthy of worshiped and unconditionally obeyed and that Muhammad Subhanahu wa Ta'ala is as final prophet and messenger we ask Allah to send his peace and blessings upon him the prophets and messengers that came before him, the companions and the family that were with him and those that follow in his blessed path and their blessed path until the day of judgment and may Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala make us amongst them Allah may I mean. Dear brothers and sisters, one of the things that we are learning as our American Muslim community in particular undergoes this evolution of moving into next generation and all of the things that come with living under increased pressure, living under the anxiety of Islamophobia where it becomes so difficult to be Muslim, so difficult to deal with the norms, the social norms that are prevalent in the schools that our children may go to

1:00prevalent in our own universities, prevalent in our workplaces, the things that happen in our social contexts, all of the difficulties that come one of the things that we have learned about ourselves over and over and over again over these past few years is that we are not an exception what do I mean by that? The things that ale society as a whole ale our community as well the things that everybody in our society encounters we too as a Muslim community encounter probably an equal proportion whether that be drug abuse, whether that be domestic abuse, whether that be fornication, adultery, whatever that may be we have the same problems that everybody else has and we like to think of ourselves as a community that is insulated a community that is exceptional and in some ways in some ways in some ways as a community we are one of the most generous communities that are out there

2:07it's a community of service we have things to celebrate as an American Muslim community but in many other ways especially when it comes to social norms we are just as guilty of the same sins that are prevalent around us and it's important for us to confront those sins within our communities to confront them within our families to confront them within ourselves and to make sure that we do not justify this behavior as being normal whatever that behavior may be and we learn something from the pious predecessors that's quite profound that when you see things around you that are taking place things that have become normalized that are disliked by your creator and disliked by you or things that do not match up with the moral standard that Allah has given to us when we see those things around us what do we make? What do we ask Allah?

3:11Nassal Allah al-Aaafia we ask Allah for protection before anything else we ask Allah for protection protection for ourselves protection for our families we do not pretend to be safe or to be you know exclude or to have complete power over our desires we understand that we too could fall into these same things and to these same sins and so we don't ever feel assured though we certainly work on ourselves with vigilance to make sure that we don't fall into those traps there's very powerful that Abu Huraira, O radi Allah on him when you think of Abu Huraira you think of the man who narrated the most narrations from the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam a man of righteousness, a man who gave us access to the tradition of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam like no other companion, a righteous companion, a man that was beloved to the messenger Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam and who served this deem and people hear him making dua and you know what dua he's making?

4:16Allah ma inni a'uhu biqa o Allah i seek refuge in you min asarika from being a thief o azzina or from committing adultery people look at Abu Huraira and say really you, you like you're worried about adultery? you're worried about theft, you're worried about these things that are not befitting to any person of nobility do you think that Abu Huraira would ever fall into something like that and what does he remind them? look at where Shaitan was and look at where he is now look at him, he worshipped Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala for hundreds and hundreds of years and he was of those that were beloved to Allah and those that were close to Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala and look what happened to him, one fall led to an eternity of humiliation and disgrace it took one trigger and him not responding to it the way that Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala provided

5:17a recourse for him that led to an eternity of humiliation and disgrace so when we see things taking place around us whatever they may be the first thing we do is we ask Allah for protection may Allah protect us from anything that would cause us to fall out of his favor to abandon the high standards that he's placed upon us may Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala protect us from oppression the Prophet's law, he used to seek refuge in Allah, Allah Mawlana Ibn Ia'udhu Bika he used to seek refuge in Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala and Azillahu Uzal that I would cause someone to fall or I would fall myself, ugly ma'uudlam, that I would wrong someone or I would myself be wronged all of these different things he himself, Allah I Salam felt afraid of these things so we have to guard ourselves and we have to confront these things within our communities and within our front within ourselves and that is the topic of infidelity

6:21that is the topic of cheating on one spouse it's a nasty disease, a disease that plagues our American society to a point that we're talking in the numbers of 60 to 70% of marriages would involve infidelity and we would be foolish to think that our Muslim community is immune to that that everyone is abiding by the commands of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala and that even we, we question ourselves, are abiding fully by the command of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala how is it that most marriages in this country end up in infidelity and no don't sit there and be like wow America is really messed up we should make kids rather than we should migrate to the Muslim world because this certainly doesn't happen there, you're dreaming sins are globalized now, social ills are globalized things that plague one society are bound to plague another society because of the access and the connection that all of those countries have to each other

7:24so what is it that causes people to fall into such a disease and to fall into this darkness and how do we protect ourselves and our homes from it obviously in the next 12 or 13 or 14 minutes I can't give everyone those tips but it starts off with something, it starts off with a recognition that what Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala gave to us of prescriptions is good for us no matter what and we are not ashamed of those things we're not embarrassed of those things, we're not ashamed of those things what Allah has given us is for our own good when Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala told Adam, Alayhi Salam and Hawa, Adam and Eve, wa la takraba, this is the shajra do not go near that tree, Allah Azza wa Jal knows that that tree is not good for them and Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala wants to save them from temptation likewise Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala rather than saying wa la tesnu do not commit adultery, he says wa la takraba uzzina

8:25don't come anywhere near adultery and so yes rules and restrictions are placed upon us that are not typically observed in the workplace not typically observed in our interactions today Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala protects us by forbidding for us halwa to be secluded with someone who is not maharam someone who is amongst those that Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala has commanded to observe hijab Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala prohibited us from being alone in seclusion with someone of the opposite gender counseling doesn't justify it, online doesn't mean anything there are no ways to get around it Allah prohibited it for us Allah prohibited halwa for us prohibited that we be alone because no two people are alone of the opposite gender except that shaytan is the third it's what the Prophet's ayat said we're not ashamed of that

9:25it would be a protection for us and we happily take that as a prescription from Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala to protect ourselves even if we will be mocked for it so yes any time you walk into the masjid and shaykh yasir is doing counseling the door is open and that's for our protection as people as Muslims we're not ashamed of that we adopt that in all of our interactions Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala when he legislates these things when he legislates no halwa Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala knows what would come about of technology and what would come about of these different interactions I want you to think about your communications when you communicate with your co-worker, when you communicate with your friend or whatever it may be someone that Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala has made halal for you for marriage when you are in communication with that person would you be comfortable with other people observing that entire communication

10:31you know Subhanahu wa Ta'ala now it's very easy for us to engage in these different types of things would you be comfortable or not? Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala is watching and Allah knows what one thing could lead to and so Allah says, wa la taqra buzina don't come anywhere near adultery and a lot of times when we think about don't come anywhere near adultery we talk about it in the physical sense it starts off with the physical but it usually starts off emotional it's usually emotional betrayal of your spouse you usually it's usually that you start to get attached to someone outside and the whole realm of social media provides so much opportunity for you to feed that attachment shamelessly sometimes without the other person even knowing and you build that fantasy and that attachment and when Imam Al Ghazari Rahim Allah Allah talked about how shaytan can convert a passing thought to a settled thought, a fetra to a fiqra

11:31once he gets it into your mind he can entertain it he can create illusion and fantasy he can beautify it for you and next thing you know your language is getting more loose you need to learn to cut it off for your own good Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala puts those restrictions do not let your emotional attachment to someone else start to lead to something else and Imam Al Ghazari Rahim Allah ta'ala said and from the wisdoms of Allah's legislation is that if you find yourself attached to a person you should not be in the presence of that person even if there is no Khulluah even if there is no seclusion you should know that yourself you should want to guard yourself from that so that you don't start to develop more interaction reduce your interaction to what is absolutely necessary and don't abuse it it's for your own good and once you start to entertain these relationships

12:34what Shaitan does very well is he blocks out consequences of your actions he intoxicates you with your sin you don't think about the devastation that this will wreak not only on your Imam not only on your faith but on your family on your entire life you're not thinking anymore you're not thinking straight because Shaitan blocks out consequences it's one of his easiest tricks when you're committing a sin you stop you start justifying behavior you start blaming your spouse for not fulfilling you and then you start to go further and further and further and what does Shaitan do best? then you move on to justifications then you move on to a talaq of Biddin playing with the Dean of Allah all of those different ways that we abuse the text and exploit the Dean so that we justify what is unjustifiable in the sight of Allah

13:34subhanahu wa ta'ala things that we are ashamed of from the people but we're not ashamed of in the sight of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala subhanahu wa ta'ala so imam malikrahimuhullah ta'ala when he discussed the secret marriage what imam malikrahimuhullah said when he discussed it when he discussed it he said it should be an old ibn Taymiyarahimuhullah called it prostitution what he said about it is very profound he said how could you not be ashamed or how could you be ashamed of a relationship in the sight of the people but not in front of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala it still fits the acid and we start to take ourselves down these paths and we start to ruin ourselves and each and every single one of us has to know his behavior and know himself and cut things off before they go too far you need to know yourself Allah provided you protections do not allow for yourself to get sucked into the world of the internet

14:34those protections where home internet is connected for everybody in the house so everybody can see it's not just for the children it's for us too it's for us too let your spouse see your communications let those things be made or not just let them not be private to where things can get out of hand and get out of control keep your things open for the sake of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to a point where you can at least care for yourself and take care of yourself don't let it go further wa la takra buzzina inna hukana faxisha Allah says it's an evil wasa asabila and it's a dark path it leads to a dark road because once you get yourself in that in that then what ends up happening? deception, lies, more zina, more relationships all sorts of shamelessness starts to happen once you delve into that world and we have to be able to control ourselves and stop ourselves and not let those things go further

15:35so when you look in your workplace, when you look in your friends, when you look at those relationships, their brothers and sisters right now I want you to consider every relationship that you have and I want you to ask yourself would you be ashamed of it in the sight of the people and if so why are you not ashamed of it in the sight of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala stop yourself, control yourself do not let it grow because it will be a dark path and a person will never be able to get out of that once they start and Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and I want to remind everyone Allah, as always, says in the Quraían Quliyah ibadiyah that is asrafu ala anfusyam la taqna tu'man rahmatu'la inna Allah yakhiru thunu'ba jamiyah say oh my servants who have transgressed against themselves do not despair from the mercy of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala Allah forgives all sins but you have to turn back to him you have to repent and a lot of times what ends up happening with these relationships and you ask, Shiaqyaa, Shana, and you ask

16:39the imams that have to deal with this all the time is that once a person delves into it the same shaytan who was hiding from you the consequences of your actions is now exaggerating the consequences of your actions to you when you start thinking tuba when you start thinking repentance you can't come back from this so what do you have to do? you have to do more you sink yourself deeper isn't that what Shiaqyaa did with the monk from many israeli that we spoke about a couple of months ago? isn't that what he always does with us? and there is something beautiful and sincere about those who came to the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam repenting for their deeds and so what do you do if you are already in that situation? cut it off and if it's gone too far start to make amends control yourself go to your spouse and tell your spouse that you must up and I'm ready to make it right I'm not going to wait to be caught in this I'm ready to make it right

17:41what do I have to do? and if I have to face major consequences in this world for a lot to forgive me because the main consideration is that Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala forgive me that is the main consideration you have a better chance now when you go to your spouse and tell your spouse I messed up, I want to do better and you cut off these things before a person finds themselves already caught in a mess fix it Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala is merciful Allah is forgiving but we have to we have to pursue that repentance ourselves the second thing to your brothers and sisters is the prophets like some said a believer is not stung in the same whole twice if you messed up once with one because of something because of some circumstances or whatever it is you found weakness in one way don't put yourself in the situation to keep getting stung and finding weakness in that same way over and over and over again and the third thing that I'll leave you with is a du'a

18:43and I pray that each and every single one of us will analyze their relationships as they leave this gathering the brothers and sisters who are not married and the brothers and sisters who are married that you'll analyze your relationships and analyze what is permissible or what is not permissible about those relationships and stop things before they get out of hand a du'a for my messenger Salallahu Alaihi Wasallam which is very profound and he was asked for a comprehensive du'a and he taught us this extremely comprehensive du'a he said Salallahu Alaihi Wasallam to say Allahumma inni as'aalukal hudah wattuka wal aafafa walgina Allahumma inni as'aalukal hudah wattuka wal aafafa walgina O Allah I ask you for guidance but it's one thing to be guided in knowledge the Hidaya fil'a'lm or rustuf al-Amel guidance is in knowledge and then there is guidance and action so it's one thing that I'll leave you guidance is in knowledge and then there is guidance and action

19:43so it's one thing to be guided in knowledge but sins corrupt our heart and they corrupt our mind and eventually corruption in our action could even corrupt our knowledge so the Prophet Salallahu Alaihi Wasallam said say Allahumma inni as'aalukal hudah wattuka ask Allah for takwa the ability to abandon sin to stay protected from sin takwa is literally to be shielded from sin to be shielded from those things that would compromise you being on that path and it's really interesting because in the du'aas of the Prophet Salallahu Alaihi Wasallam he tells us to ask for guidance he rarely only specifies guidance but there's something else after the guidance to keep you on it Allahumma inni wasa didni O Allah guide me and keep me on that path of guidance so he said say Allahumma inni as'aalukal hudah wattuka because the scholars say that a lack of takwa will eventually corrupt your Hidaya as well a lack of takwa will lead to a lack of Hidaya as well it'll take you off the path as well and then the second two

20:43Allahumma inni as'aalukal hudah wattuka wallafaf modesty to be protected from Thaisha from Sa'a Sabila that dark path to be protected from wickedness to be protected from those things I ask you for protection modesty al-Affaath wallrina and to be self-sufficient why when you look in Surat al-Mutminun Allah subhanahu ta'ala mentions in the beginning of Surat al-Mutminun the top two things that usually lead to the corruption of an individual either money or Zina or both so al-Affaath wallrina are things that we seek protection that we seek from Allah subhanahu ta'ala means a protection to fail in one usually will lead to a failure in the other because once a person, if a person starts to feel poverty and Rina is a feeling inside a feeling of being sufficed it's both physical and it's a feeling

21:43because some people have a lot from Allah subhanahu ta'ala but they're not feeling fulfilled some people, Mashallah, they've got the American Jewish people they've got the American dream they've got the spouse, the kids, the house, whatever they call the American dream alright? though I'm sure the American dream is always an evolution as well but some people would have everything you look on the outside, Mashallah, a picture-perfect life but they're not fulfilled they don't have Rina inside their hearts that the Prophet's lice mentioned to feel suffice and when you don't have that it usually will lead to a compromise of your modesty so say Allah m-n-yas alaqal hudah wa-tukah, wa-l-a-fa, wa-l-gina may Allah subhanahu ta'ala put those traits inside of us protect us and protect our families from the scorn of Zina protect us from anything that would lead to us falling out of favor with him or lead to us to oppress his creation Allah m-n-a-mina, kuul-ukawliha, d-wastahullah, d-walaqam let's be honest

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