
#75. Don't Make the Chili (aka Learn to Say 'No')
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This week, we’re getting real about something I know you’re doing too: living for everyone else. Whether it’s making chili on your birthday or saying yes to a project when your calendar is already screaming no, this episode is for the good girls, the independent women, and anyone who’s been caught in the exhausting cycle of people-pleasing.
In this solo episode, I’m talking:
- Where people-pleasing shows up in my daily life (spoiler: everywhere)
- Why doing less might actually be the key to feeling better
- A surprisingly emotional chili-related meltdown
- My favorite concept from the book Unbound by Kasia Urbaniak
I’m also challenging you (and myself) to pick just three things a day that actually matter—and say no to the rest. Yes, even to the chili.
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