"Desire Should Be Clumsy": a Mantra, a Motto, a Call to Arms

When our character learns that Davey’s first sexual encounters were orchestrated by his mother with his mother’s very experienced friend, she is, understandably, flabbergasted. But the thought that emerges later has morphed into something of a motto or a mantra for Amy and Tommy.  Miranda July writes, “An overly skilled lover was kind of icky—desire should make you clumsy.” Indeed. Clumsy indeed.

In Amy & Tommy’s romp through Chapter 9 of All Fours, they question the linearity of sex, wonder about clogged fourth chakras (shouldn’t it be clogged sacral chakras? Someone help!) and consider the irony of a particular kind of confluence: what happens when the things you hate about someone become the very things that catapult you into love? 

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Original Music

Song: Some People Do Have to Live Like a Refugee Because They Are..

Artist: Muistardeaux Collective

Album: KTWE

Sink Sandwich Records

References in this episode:

All Fours by Miranda July

"What Cuba taught me about Flirting and Sensuality" an essay by Namita Kulkarni

Mi Moto Fidel: Motorcycling Through Castro's Cuba by Christopher P. Baker

Miranda July dancing on Instagram

Miranda July interviews Rihanna (Arkanda?) for the New York Times 

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Work From Bed Friday is a podcast hosted by Amy Hoffmann and Tommy Borden, a committed couple of 30+ years. Funny, spicy, and insightful, they discuss marriage, sex, and connection through the lens of contemporary books and media. Every Friday. From bed.