
Control vs Self-Trust: Why High-Achieving Women Struggle to Let Go (Ep 87)
About this episode
Do you trust yourself…
or do you just control everything?
In this episode - where we address Uncomfortable Questions High-Achieving Women Avoid - Dr. Nicole Monteiro explores the powerful (and often hidden) tension between self-trust and hyper-vigilance.
Many high-achieving women believe they are intuitive and strong — but what if constant overthinking, managing, and micromanaging isn’t self-trust at all?
What if it’s anxiety in disguise?
In this episode, we unpack:
• The difference between self-trust and control
• Why strong women confuse intuition with overthinking
• The nervous system roots of hyper-vigilance
• How childhood unpredictability shapes adult control patterns
• Why control feels powerful — but is actually exhausting
• How to release control without losing your strength
If you are:
– The “strong one” in every room
– The one who double-checks everything
– The one who manages emotions, logistics, outcomes
– Successful but secretly tired
This episode is for you.
✨ Reflective question:
“If I truly trusted myself, what would I stop managing?”
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