Ready to Leave a Narcissist? Here's Exactly What to Do Before, During, and After

You know you need to leave. You just do not know how to do it safely — what to secure first, how to protect yourself financially, when to go, and what happens to your nervous system when you finally do. Jodi Pavlock spent nine years inside a narcissistic relationship before she found her way out — and what she built from that experience is one of the clearest and most compassionate exit roadmaps available for anyone in the same situation. What she shares about how to plan your exit with documents, money, and timing before you make your move, the no-contact and low-contact scripts that protect your peace after leaving, how to use gray rock effectively when you still have to interact through children or court or work, and the specific steps to rebuild self-worth and eventually trust again will give you the most complete and sequentially practical narcissistic abuse recovery guide you have encountered. Leaving is not the hardest part. Knowing how is. This episode gives you the how. You’ll learn how to: 🧭 Spot the cycle: Love-bombing → devaluation → discard (and why it’s not your fault) 🛡️ Plan the exit: Safety first—documents, money, timing, support network 🚪 Go no-contact (or low-contact): Scripts and boundaries that protect your peace 🧠 Heal the nervous system: EMDR, therapy, and trauma-informed self-care 🪨 Use “Gray Rock” wisely: When you must interact (kids, court, workplace) 💓 Rebuild self-worth: Stop rumination, break trauma bonds, date again—safely Write a 1-page personal safety plan (who/when/where/how), screenshot vital docs, and tell one trusted person today. 🔗 Dive deeper into Jodi’s work at  , your hub for books, resources, and upcoming events. 📲 Stay inspired: connect with Jodi on her  , , and for daily insights and community support. 👉 Love insightful and life-changing interviews? Tap Follow now so you never miss an inspiring episode of The Advisor with Stacey Chillemi. Become a supporter of this podcast: . Follow The Advisor with Stacey Chillemi for weekly episodes on mindset, wellness, spirituality, and business growth—without burnout. Newsletter & resources: https://substack.com/@staceychillemi Watch & connect: • • Be a guest/sponsor: [email protected] • or Disclaimer: Educational only; not medical, mental-health, or legal advice. © The Advisor with Stacey Chillemi. All rights reserved. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices