98. How Secure Attachment Is Built in Early Childhood | My Conversation with Devon Kuntzman

What happens after you lose control as a parent… and why that moment matters more than you think?
In this episode, I sit down with parenting expert and ICF-Certified coach Devon Kuntzman for an honest conversation about rupture, repair, and how secure attachment is actually built. We explore why losing control doesn’t damage attachment, how repair calms the nervous system, and what children truly need after emotional moments.

We also take this conversation deeper, looking at how the same repair process applies when you’re reparenting your own inner child. If you didn’t grow up with emotional repair, this episode offers a compassionate roadmap for learning how to come back to yourself after mistakes, overwhelm, or self-criticism.

This episode is a reminder that secure attachment isn’t about perfection. It’s about consistency, safety, and the willingness to return to connection, with your child and with yourself.

You might want to listen if:

•  You feel intense guilt after losing your patience as a parent
•  You’re healing your own attachment wounds while raising children
•  You want to understand how repair builds secure attachment
•  You struggle with self-criticism after emotional moments
•  You’re learning how to reparent your inner child with compassion

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DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for acc...