83. Why You Keep Attracting the Wrong Partners (and How to Change It) | Sheleana Aiyana

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“Sometimes the people who are the best for us are going to feel the worst for us when our nervous system is dysregulated.”

Summary

In this episode, Dr Espen sit down with Sheleana Aiyana, founder of Rising Woman, to explore the power of conscious relationships. They dive into self-trust, emotional awareness, and the role of personal responsibility in building deeper connections. Sheleana shares insights on recognizing red flags, navigating breakups, and embracing ritual and spirituality in relationships. If you’re seeking to transform your approach to love and connection, this episode is a must-listen!

About our guest:

Sheleana Aiyana is the founder of Rising Woman, a global community with over 3 million readers dedicated to healing, self-discovery, and conscious relationships. An international best-selling author, Sheleana’s work is informed by her training in somatic healing, inherited family trauma, and Imago couples therapy. As a writer, mother, and wife, she weaves her own transformative life experiences with the wisdom of nature. Her teachings guide others toward deeper intimacy, self-awareness, and connection with the natural world, inspiring them to heal old wounds and cultivate love in all areas of life.

📲Find out more about Sheleana

Websites: SheleanaAiyana.com, RisingWoman.com

Instagram: @SheleanaAiyana @RisingWoman

Youtube: @RisingWoman

Facebook: @RisingWomanOfficial @SheleanaAiyana

Shay's book: Becoming The One

https://courses.risingwoman.com/btobook

Program: Freedom from Relationship Anxiety

https://courses.risingwoman.com/freedom-from-relationship-anxiety

📲Find out more about Dr Espen

Website: https://drespen.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drespenwoldjensen

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr_espen/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr_espen

Check our upcoming events: https://bit.ly/3whDgVo

💡Episode Highlights:

00:00:00 - Episode trailer

00:01:19 - Introduction to Sheleana Aiyana

00:03:35 - Conscious Relationships Defined

00:05:50 - Maturity and Responsibility in Relationships

00:07:20 - Identifying Conscious Relationships

00:10:35 - Red Flags and Non-Negotiables

00:14:25 - Trusting Your Body's Signals

00:16:54 - The Healing Power of Grief

00:20:00 - The Role of Ritual in Relationships

00:22:20 - Breakups as Opportunities for Growth

00:28:57 - Facing Pain for Spiritual Growth

00:31:04 - The Relationship with Spirit

00:34:23 - Becoming the One

00:37:40 - Steps to Becoming the One

00:40:15 - The Importance of Somatic Work

00:48:13 - Final Message to the World