
75. When Avoidant Attachment Gets in the Way of a Good Relationship | Coaching Call with Sheryl
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Ever feel like you're finally healing... and then suddenly, you shut down or pull away from someone who’s actually good for you?
In this vulnerable and eye-opening coaching call, I sit down with my client Sheryl to unpack what happens when avoidant attachment patterns sneak back in — especially in relationships that feel secure, healthy, or maybe even soulmate-level. We explore the push-pull of disorganized attachment, the spiral of rumination after conflict, and the tough question: do you fight for the connection or walk away? If you’ve ever felt yourself sabotage intimacy even when you don’t want to, this episode will hit home in the best way.
You might want to listen if:
- You keep attracting emotionally unavailable people and wonder why
- You’re trying to “be secure” but your avoidant side keeps hijacking the moment
- You’ve had a relationship end and can’t stop replaying what you should have done
- You’re not sure if you should give someone space or fight for the connection
- You want to open up but always end up feeling misunderstood or ashamed
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