#59: The Myth of Too Much

If you’ve ever been told you’re too loud, too confident, too opinionated, or too ambitious—this episode is for you. Hilary’s not here to help you soften your edges. She’s here to remind you why you grew them in the first place. In this unapologetic episode, she calls out the centuries-old conditioning that taught women to shrink, stay agreeable, and prioritize everyone else’s comfort over their own truth. Spoiler: you’re not “too much.” You’re just too powerful for the people who benefit from you being less. Hilary shares the signs that you’ve internalized the myth of “too much” and breaks down the shift that happens when you stop minimizing yourself and start standing fully in your power. This episode isn’t about being polite. It’s about being self-centered—and no, that’s not selfish. It’s revolutionary.   Episode Highlights: How "too much" is just rebranded control Why being self-centered is your power move—not a personality flaw What happens when you stop dimming your light for someone else's comfort 3 shifts you can make today to stop apologizing and start expanding   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] The Myth of Being “Too Much” [00:54] Why Women Shrink Themselves to Fit [02:06] The Real Cost of Playing Small [03:42] You’re Not Too Much—They’re Just Uncomfortable [04:24] What It Really Means to Be Self-Centered [05:28] How to Break Free from People-Pleasing [06:31] Stop Apologizing. Start Leading. [07:35] Who Would You Be If You Weren’t Shrinking?   👑 Ready to stop chasing approval and start living for you? Watch Hilary’s free training This Changes Everything—linked in the show notes.