
4. Access to You is a Privilege - Navigating All Types of Love & Relationships
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People can only see you as far as they see themselves, and maybe that’s not their fault. Why do we attract the same people, the same pain, the same dynamics, over and over again? Why do we feel we need to strive for, work for, or sacrifice for love? Why is it so hard to walk away when you know you’re being hurt? This pain that can follow us through our relationships seems to be a right of passage in living life.
Does it have to be?
How do we navigate love in all of its various forms - family, friends, romance - when love is what drives us, hurts us, and ignites us?
This episode, 1 hour and 11 minutes long, spans how to move through relationships as a conduit to loving yourself.
In it’s entirety, it covers:
- Why we attract the same people & relationships over and over again
- How your self worth influences your relationship choices & decisions
- Building trust in yourself & becoming empowered
- How your upbringing & parents influences your relationships as you grow up
- How forgiving & understanding your parents may help to heal your current relationships
- The power of our subconscious mind in relationships
- How we look to actively perpetuate our own pain without even knowing it
- Forgiveness towards those who’ve hurt you
- Co-dependency
- Twin Flame & Karmic Relationships
- Attachment Styles (Book referenced - Attached, the New Science of Adult Attachment by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller)
- Loving people at a distance - setting boundaries
- How to move through challenging friendships
- Heartbreak
- How walking away from a toxic relationship will deepen your connection to yourself if you let it
- Infatuation Vs Love & The Roles we Play in relationships (Book Referenced - A New Earth, Eckhart Tolle)
- How embodying love and learning to love yourself will allow love to flow more easily to you in all of your platonic, romantic, and familial connections
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