
3 Ways We Give Away Our Power (and How To Take it Back!)
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Don’t let self-doubt hold you back. Or people pleasing, fear of judgment, and trying to be all things to all people. You might be giving your power away and you don’t even know it! Want to find out and take your power back?
Here’s what we’ll cover:
- We downplay our strengths instead of celebrating and leveraging them.
- We use minimizing language such as “I’m sorry, just, I think, maybe/kinda/sorta, and I’m not an expert, but…”
- We doubt ourselves and use negative self-talk.
Instead, take your power back:
- Create a celebration portfolio, which is a list of your accomplishments and your character strengths. Add to it regularly. Have a celebration practice where you celebrate weekly wins (even better: daily!) 🎉
- Say “excuse me” or “thank you for your patience” instead of “I’m sorry.”
- Sing your message of doubt to change up the neural pathways in your brain, which will then diffuse the power of that same message. Singing “I’m not good enough!” at the top of your lungs creates a completely different experience with that message! 🤩😂
Some resources for you:
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If you’re looking for connection and community, join us on a free Zoom call: Oct 27 from 8-9am PT/11-12 ET to talk about what gets in the way of asking for what we want. It’s a safe and supportive place where we share resources and encourage one another. You can sign up here: https://karenlaos.ac-page.com/conversation-connection
Karen Laos, Communication Expert and Confidence Cultivator, leverages 25 years in the boardroom and speaking on the world’s most coveted stages such as Google and NASA to transform missed opportunities into wins. She is fiercely committed to her mission of eradicating self-doubt in 10 million women by giving them practical strategies to ask for what they want in the boardroom and beyond. She guides corporations and individuals with her tested communication model to generate consistent results through her Powerful Presence Keynote: How to Be an Influential Communicator.
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