
3 Traits of Lasting Relationships & What You Can Learn From Failed Relationships
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Why do some people stay in a relationship? People stay because they are in love obviously – but sometimes people stay because it’s convenient and they don’t want to waste the time they’ve already spent with that person. But is this really what makes you stay?
In this episode of On Purpose, we get to listen to Jay’s conversation with Lewis Howes where they talk about whether someone can stay in a relationship with someone for a very long time.
Listen NOW to Episode #1 of "Awkward Therapy" with Lewis Howes & Jay Shetty on The School of Greatness
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Key Takeaways:
- 00:00 Intro
- 02:46 Real love is different from the movies
- 05:13 Desire in relationships
- 06:50 The chase and pursuit
- 09:56 Why you don’t need to love one person for the rest of your life
- 11:14 The reason why people stay in a non-working relationship
- 11:56 Starting a relationship in therapy
- 13:16 Seeing life in seasons
- 14:05 Polyamorous relationships will not give you peace
- 18:37 Have a conversation about the relationship that you want
- 22:20 Relationships should be high engagement - low attachment
- 24:58 A long term relationship does not mean it’s a successful one
- 28:20 Life story vs. love story
- 30:18 Commitment
- 31:26 Stop bringing baggage into the relationship
- 33:21 What you can learn in a committed relationship
- 37:52 Removing sexual chemistry in the start of a relationship
- 42:12 Wanting to be in a relationship because you feel lonely
- 44:50 Learn what you want to do together
- 48:12 The different stages of relationships
- 50:26 Inner peace
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