28. Why Some Relationships Thrive and Others Don't (Psalm 133)

What is the secret to deep relationships?

In this teaching on Psalm 133, John Ortberg explores intimacy, connection, loneliness, and the small daily habits that strengthen relationships.

Drawing from the work of relationship researcher John Gottman, John explains the powerful idea of "bids for connection"—the small invitations people make every day to share life together.

This episode explores:
- Psalm 133 and unity
- What intimacy really means
- The epidemic of loneliness
- John Gottman's relationship research
- Turning toward connection
- Jesus as the master of connection
- God's invitation to relationship throughout Scripture

Featuring reflections on:
- John Gottman
- Dallas Willard
- Robert Putnam

Scriptures:
- Psalm 133
- Genesis 2
- Genesis 3
- Genesis 4

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📚 Today's Resources:
John Gottman, The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships  
Robert D. Putnam, Bowling Alone: The Collapse and Revival of American Community 

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00:00 Psalm 133 and the Nature of Intimacy
00:34 What Intimacy Really Is
01:18 God's Presence, Unity & Flourishing
01:47 Invited Into the Trinity
02:09 Common Myths About Intimacy
02:54 The Epidemic of Isolation
03:28 Twinkies, Broccoli & Friendship
04:15 Dallas Willard on Shared Experience
05:26 John Gottman & Bids for Connection
06:08 What Is a Bid for Connection?
06:54 Relationships Are Built on Bids
07:37 Jesus: Master of Connection
08:22 Turn Toward, Turn Away, Turn Against
09:06 God's Bid for Connection in Eden
09:52 "Want to Go for a Walk?"
10:28 The Cross: God's Costly Bid for Connection
10:59 Building Unity One Moment at a Time
11:46 Move Toward the Bid