#269: How to Be a Better Partner with Jillian Turecki

Themes: Psychology, Relationships, Anxiety, Resilience, Attachment Theory, Transformation, Conflict Summary:  Join me in a fascinating exploration of psychology and relationships with Jillian Turecki, a certified relationship coach, teacher and writer who for 20 years has taught others how to transform their relationships with themselves. Under the tutelage of Tony Robbins and world-renowned family therapist Cloe Madanes and fueled by an insatiable curiosity about what makes a relationship thrive, Jillian has helped thousands through her teaching and writing revolutionize their relationship with themselves so that they transform their relationships with others.    In this episode, we explore the fascinating experiences in relationships that are often overlooked or labeled with pop-psychology terms like anxious and avoidant. Listen in to hear Jillian’s perspective on what women and men need most, how to be more objective to understand your partner better, and more of her greatest learnings from being in a relationship. Discover: Why attachment theory only scratches the surface of understanding each other The biggest reasons why relationships fail What men and women want and need most in relationship and how to understand each other better 00:00 Intro  00:54 Jillian’s journey from yoga to relationship coach 10:36 Yoga and the mind 14:15 Somatic awareness 18:03 The loneliness of not being with yourself 19:52 The toxic dance of push-pull 26:43 How much anxiety in a relationship is too much? 28:25 We over-pathologize others as anxious or avoidant  38:24 Asking for your needs to be met 40:28 Greatest learnings in relationship 44:13 Men and their needs in a relationship 49:31 The importance of being appreciated and understood 54:01 The complexity we hold due to familial dynamics Links: Website: www.jillianturecki.com Podcast: https://listen.qcodemedia.com/jillianonlove IG: @jillianturecki Tik Tok: @jillian.turecki Twitter: @JillianTurecki Sponsors: Open | Try Open for 30 days free! Go to withopen.com/createthelove and use code CREATETHELOVE to sign up. WeWork | Get 50% off your first workspace booking with WeWork On Demand! Go to we.co/mark and use code WORKWITHMARK. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands