240. Lies of Submission

God designed marriage as a picture of mutual love, service, and oneness — a reflection of Christ and the Church. Within that, submission is meant to be life-giving: a way we honor and serve one another in love.

But for many women, especially those raised in conservative or evangelical traditions, the teaching of submission took on a very different tone — one marked by fear, silence, and shrinking back. What was intended to be a beautiful expression of trust became, for some, a justification for control or erasure.

In this episode of Female by Design, Francie explores the ideas of submission with humility and curiosity — and how distorted interpretations can affect not only our marriages, but our relationship with our own voice, body, and identity.

This is not a rejection of submission, but a reclamation of it — returning to the kind of mutual, honoring partnership that reflects God's heart.

What you'll hear:

- A biblical vision of submission rooted in love, not hierarchy

- The cultural and theological misapplications that cause harm

- How false teachings of submission can lead to disembodiment and numbness

- What healthy, joyful submission looks like in a thriving marriage

- How reclaiming your voice is part of reclaiming your design

Whether you've struggled with feeling "too much" or "not enough," this episode is an invitation to come out of hiding, and into wholeness — in your faith, your marriage, and your femininity.

Resources and Invitation to Go Deeper:

Growth Courses

101 Strong Foundations for Married Sex, here

201 Pleasure and Orgasm: Passion and Practicals, here

Before (And After) I Do, here

 

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